Pairs with Spares--3-somes and more

[rstegeman]

Is is better for one to avoid committing murder or rape out of fear of punishment or out of love and respect for God??

Should we decriminalize rape and murder then??

Of course not, the principle is the same. Murder rape, fornication, homophilia, adultery are all wrong, and just like murder and rape , fornication adultery and homophilia should all be criminalized as well.

So are you equating rape and murder with pre-marital sex. Using your logic, anything that is a sin should be criminalized.

As for rape and murder, those are sins that are almost universally condemed, by the religious and non-religious alike. Yes, I’m sure you can find some exceptions, but the overwhelming majority would condemn. Rape and murder also have a very definitive victim(s). Adultry has victims as well, and it can be argued that those committing those acts can be punished by the legal system via the divorce proceedings with alimony and half the marital assets.

When it comes to pre-marital sex, co-habitation, polygamy (or whatever they are calling it and getting back to the original topic), there is a significant larger portion of the population who find nothing morally wrong with that. Some religions embraced polygamy…i.e. early Judaism (in the OT) and Mormonism. I’m not say that they are right, but unless your country’s government embraces one particular faith, they cannot legislate one particular faith’s moral codes.

One can look at the history of many European nations or the current regimes in many of the Muslim nations to see how a government that embraces one particular faith works. Often times, those who don’t ebrace the national faith get persecuted in an effort to get them in line. Many of the early immigrants to the United States came here to escape that persecution.

What we all need to do, is do a better job of raising our families to understand our faith and moral code. To truly understand right and wrong so that they can make the correct decicions later in life and don’t fall easily into the temptations that come their way. We have to do a better job of living a good life to serve as an example, of evangalizing our faith. I include myself in all of that. I find myself very distraught over the debauchery of our society, but at the same time, I don’t consider it the government’s job to fix it. Just as I don’t consider it the government’s, school’s or society’s job to raise my children. And I will not look to blame anyone else if my children or I choose to do something in poor judgement.

 

[MMagd]

Wow! I just read an article about the actress, Tilda Swinton, who by the way I adore, is a practicing this (love the sinner NOT the sin, right?). She has been married for 20+ years and has twins with her husband AND has a lover as well. He lives with them, sits the kids and travels with her when she leaves the country, (they live on an estate in Scotland), and then hubby takes care of the children…
Now, while I do adore her as an actress, as a wife myself, I do NOT understand or condone this . I know that the love I have for my husband AS a wife, is something very sacred to me (us) and the thought of sharing that with a third party, the way God intended marriage to be, just seems so wrong, not to mention a slap in God’s face.
I would be devastated if my husband shared the intimacies, physical and otherwise, with another woman.
While I’ll leave the judgement part to the Almighty, I just say no thanks!