paraplegic marriage

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Rob_s_Wife said:
I agree this is a sad tale, but I agree with the church here. Infertility is a seperate issue. Permanent impotence will become an issue eventually if this couple were to marry.

What about when she wants children? (And she probably will!) Most adoption agencies would not place a child in this home? Should the church change canon to allow this couple to have IVF, surrogate mothers, ect…?? What about her own natural sexuality? Marrying an impotent man in this situation would be much like becoming a nun, but I doubt she thinks that way now?

Eventually, I think there would be a further seperation from the church at some point and certainly a deep resentment would begin to fester in such a marriage.

I don’t begrudge this man companionship, but marriage is not just long term companionship - it must be much more to be a valid, strong marriage.

I would like to add I think it was very brave of the priest to ask this question (I think it shows he truely does want to marry those who understand the faith and will have strong marriages) and for this man to answer honestly, I think he truely does want to follow the church. I would like to think that the priest will be able to continue working with this couple.
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what exactly about this did you want to discuss?
As a side note I do agree with all that is stated here
 
…and that most adoption agencies would not place a child with a paraplegic
 
you realize that paraplegic=paralyzed from waisdown, not neck down.

Also, do you think women should divorce paraplegic husbands?
Because of impotence? or even date them at all?

Scotty
 
Scotty1084 said:
Also, do you think women should divorce paraplegic husbands?
Because of impotence? or even date them at all?

Scotty
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scotty-
reading your posts…I see that you are attempting to make a point…what is it? That you disagree with the churchs teaching on impotence and marriage?
 
No.
I’m in favor of Canon 1084. I’m just against the mentality of people on how they view paraplegic men as being not worthy of companionship due to sex…lack of.

Scotty
 
Scotty1084 said:
No.
I’m in favor of Canon 1084. I’m just against the mentality of people on how they view paraplegic men as being not worthy of companionship due to sex…lack of.

Scotty
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I have all compassion towards impotent men…but companionship is not marriage…that is what friends are for:)
 
You are in favor of Canon 1084 which states that the inablility to physically consumnate the marriage is an impediment. I don’t see the connection to the post by Rob’s Wife. She did did not say nor imply that paraplegic men are unworthy of companionship. And companionship isn’t the same as marriage.

I think it’s quite likely that an adoption agency would not place a child with people with certain disabilities, but not a certainty. All potential adoptive families should be scrutinized. When they are not it equals disaster. If there is significant questions that the person or couple will not be able to support the child in all neccesary ways a child should not be placed.

I’m not saying a child could not be placed or should not be placed with someone with a disablity but it needs to be demonstrated that the parents can properly care for the child.

No, I would not date a man who I couldn’t possibly marry. Whether it be because he has a previous (unanulled) marriage or can’t consummate the marriage, it would be unwise to lead someone on like that. If I was married and my husband should become impotant I would not divorce him. The whole for better and for worse, in sickness and in health vow. But I think that I would struggle. The marital act helps with the bonding of the married couple and can be a source of healing and is a source of grace. Without the marital act we would be without that.
 
It really bothers me that Rob’s Wife equates marrying a paraplegic to “becoming a nun”
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Scotty1084 said:
It really bothers me that Rob’s Wife equates marrying a paraplegic to “becoming a nun”
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well how would you view it?
marrying a man that is impotent would mean no sexual relations…hence the comparison to a nun.
Or is an impotent man some how phycically able to have sexual relatlions?
 
Seems as though there are some hypocrites on this board.

If consummating the marriage is so important, then how do you view the marriage of the “Virgin” Mary and Joseph? Either their marriage was not consummated or she had a child out of wedlock.
 
DivaDesDawg said:
Seems as though there are some hypocrites on this board.

If consummating the marriage is so important, then how do you view the marriage of the “Virgin” Mary and Joseph? Either their marriage was not consummated or she had a child out of wedlock.
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They had a natural marriage. Was either one baptized? Also, they had the ability to consumate which is the critical factor in this discussion.
 
The article does not state whether or not he tried to get the impotence treated. There are many things males can do to treat it.

Although my heart sincerely goes out to this couple, I agree with the church on this one.
 
StratusRose said:
The article does not state whether or not he tried to get the impotence treated. There are many things males can do to treat it.

How naive are you?
How is a male with a completely severed spinal cord supposed to treat impotence? This is absurd on your part.
Please research more on paraplegic males and impotence.

Scotty
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Scotty1084 said:
StratusRose;1600805:
The article does not state whether or not he tried to get the impotence treated. There are many things males can do to treat it.

How naive are you?
How is a male with a completely severed spinal cord supposed to treat impotence? This is absurd on your part.
Please research more on paraplegic males and impotence.

Scotty
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Hmmm…Scotty it was an honest mistake on this posters part…I suggest that you “chill”…not everyone is versed on what a paraplegic man can and can not achieve
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