Patients Put Down (in NO Hospital)

[Mom_of_one]

MikeinSD:

When my mom was dying in hospice, my father demanded that all pain meds cease because her pain would “help her in Purgetory (sp?)” Hospice called family members and we reinstated the morphine protocol. Granted, my father was deep in grief. But I never understood how physical suffering is “good” for one’s soul. Perhaps I’m biased. As a 14 yr old accident victim with 3 broken limbs, my father took my pain meds once I returned home and told me to offer my pain to Christ. I hope Jesus enjoyed bone pain. My father fought my mom and my doctors for 2 long days until they managed to get me a pain shot. It was hell for me. Pure @#$#$ hell.

Is it me or is this fetishizing other people’s pain for a “religious” reason sick? And how can any decent person, a Catholic, think Jesus loves pain?

He doesn’t love pain. What your father did was wrong. I don’t know why he acted and thought that way and I’m not going to venture to guess. I’m so sorry that your father was that mixed up.

I have arthritis, and believe me, it stinks!!! I take pain medication every day. What I have learned through this site and from a Catholic patient of mine who is bedridden from ALS is that you do what you have to do(morally) to treat the illness/pain/condition, but any other sufferings resulting can be offered up to God. For example, I still have breakthrough pain at times and I wake up very stiff and sore in the morning. I can offer that up.

Hope that helps.

Didn’t want to hijack the thread, but I wanted to reply to this poster.