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Bluegoat
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It does seem like someone who doesn’t care about having inappropriate sexual encounters should care about wearing condoms, but I think there are a few specific situations that make it more complicated than that in practice.
One is that the idea that men can have sex outside of marriage in some cultures is very ingrained - it is normal practice. The Church, even preaching on this and working hard to change it, can’t reach people that don’t want to be reached.
OTOH, in those same cultures, wearing condoms may be culturally not supported. But in this case, people use the Churches position to support their own prejudices, or maybe Church opinion simply reinforces secular opinion without really causing a change of heart.
I have no idea how one might address this problem, which I don’t think it is the church’s intention to create.
The people who most suffer, alas, are the wives, whose husbands contract HIV. It is fine to say the husband should want to protect her health, but the fact is that often isn’t the case (assuming he knows he has HIV, which he may well not.)
And to make it worse, if his wife wants to protect herself by refusing to have sex, the Church can be invoked again by the husband as saying that she is required to have sex with him. Which is reaching under the circumstances I think, but I have certainly heard of priests supporting that view, even when it was clear the husband was not living up to his end of the deal. It used to be common here, but attitudes have changed. But in many places, spousal rape is not legally a crime.
So fr such women, and also for those forced into prostitution, it rather seems that no one is protecting their interests. I am sure many feel that they are left to fend for themselves.
One is that the idea that men can have sex outside of marriage in some cultures is very ingrained - it is normal practice. The Church, even preaching on this and working hard to change it, can’t reach people that don’t want to be reached.
OTOH, in those same cultures, wearing condoms may be culturally not supported. But in this case, people use the Churches position to support their own prejudices, or maybe Church opinion simply reinforces secular opinion without really causing a change of heart.
I have no idea how one might address this problem, which I don’t think it is the church’s intention to create.
The people who most suffer, alas, are the wives, whose husbands contract HIV. It is fine to say the husband should want to protect her health, but the fact is that often isn’t the case (assuming he knows he has HIV, which he may well not.)
And to make it worse, if his wife wants to protect herself by refusing to have sex, the Church can be invoked again by the husband as saying that she is required to have sex with him. Which is reaching under the circumstances I think, but I have certainly heard of priests supporting that view, even when it was clear the husband was not living up to his end of the deal. It used to be common here, but attitudes have changed. But in many places, spousal rape is not legally a crime.
So fr such women, and also for those forced into prostitution, it rather seems that no one is protecting their interests. I am sure many feel that they are left to fend for themselves.
