perpetual virginity of Mary..T or F?

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I don’t know what Catholics you’ve been hanging out with, but the assertion made by MANY, not few here, is that it is fitting but not necessary for Mary to be Immaculately Conceived.
Good. OK
That is not the Catholic paradigm. The One Flesh Union in a marriage is talked about as being sublime, magnificent, holy, and an icon for the Beatific Vision we will receive in heaven.
Right .Was gonna put in “Mary”, but …So I meant to say(ask) that for you is it fitting for Mary because it would have been unholy and less divine for Mary to have relations with her husband Joseph as to not ? This was Aquinas’s argument-she would have been “desecrated”, less “dignified”. Otherwise, how do you see it as fitting?
So I don’t know what you’re describing above, but it is NOT the Catholic view on relations in a marriage.
Totally agree. Just hope you also agree some of the fathers did not say so, and helped bolster PV.
 
That’s because no one questioned it during the time of the ECFs as well as the reformers.
Theotokus took some mustering, had words of caution with it’s declaration, and the IC and Assumption were contested , a lot.
 
Ahhh they stole your thunder. I will always remember you for bringing it up. Hey, those post were six to ten years ago or so. I thought i missed some of that on this thread but apparently not.
 
Ahhh they stole your thunder. I will always remember you for bringing it up. Hey, those post were six to ten years ago or so. I thought i missed some of that on this thread but apparently not.
That’s only because I started with the older ones. I could have gone from most recent to oldest. 🤷
 
Good. OK
Right .Was gonna put in “Mary”, but …So I meant to say(ask) that for you is it fitting for Mary because it would have been unholy and less divine for Mary to have relations with her husband Joseph as to not ?
It has less to do with sexual relations with Joseph and more to do with her being set apart for one thing: to be the Mother of God.

Sexual relations were of little import in her vocation as the Mother of the Word Made Flesh.

So it’s kind of like a little boy asking if he can bring his truck with him to the marital bed, once he is grown and married. He is so consumed with his truck that he doesn’t get that once he is married, his beloved truck will be of little import. It’s not a diminishing of the truck, however, but rather an elevation of something even more magnificent.
 
You go from “our” need for proof to your “evidence” only, cause no one has proof. Yes, you have much evidence and many are willing to be under the authority of such tradition. Doesn’t mean any of it is right. It’s inception is what 2/3rd century ? Not the first even second century. No I don’t trust some of those later fathers who helped promulgate the Marion doctrines Some arguments are weak, some are based on poor view of sexuality. It has an appealing almost female mythological bent to it, found in many cultures religions. Finally the fruit may be telling, with extreme Marion dogma in my opinion,all based on this (PV). As far as reformers, well it was perhaps too much to debunk for them, and really not worth it , compared to the bigger apples they had to fry. It is not surprising that as it took time to develop, it took time to pull away from from this doctrine…So for all to be charitable, it would be nice if we all recognize the realities of both positions, understanding they both have “evidences” , logic, some history, scripture and appeal. I would prefer it not to be a required article of faith.
First, it’s “Marian”, not “Marion”, okay?

Second, the real reason you don’t get it is because you do not recognize the authority that Jesus gave to the Church and the protection of the Holy Spirit which prevents her from teaching error in matters of faith and morals.

So, we can go round and round all you like regarding the Perpetual Virginity of Mary, but you have NO verse that disproves it. We, on the other hand, have an authoritative, infallible Church built by Jesus and led by the Holy Spirit which tells us that Mary was ever-virgin.

So, the place to begin discussion is with authority and infallibility. Otherwise, you have the cart before the horse.
 
Welcome Andy.Yes it has been discussed and you your point is a good one. .here is my response from previous post…"I understand your point that.Jesus, being all knowing, could have foreseen James wonderful conversion, and said to Mary, “Mary, go live with James, though he can not console you know for his unbelief, he will eventually convert and be a solace to you”. Not too catchy or consoling to me. .Blood is not thicker than spirit . If I had young children and were going to die I would give them to a good friend who was a christian brother/sister more than to a blood brother who was not only not christian, but quite “anti-christian”. Faith demands this for Jesus said whoever does God’s will is my brother /mother etc. I am sorry, but Mary being given unto John and not faithless siblings is perfect, for the two hearts loved Jesus more than any two human beings on earth and were "kindred spirit’ about the mission ahead, beyond Calvary. Furthermore, we are all aware of sin and it’s consequences.Though you may be forgiven, sometimes the consequence may hurt (think David and Bathsheba forgiveness yet with consequence of his children would rail against him for years)… You are correct that Mary, by tradition, should have been given to siblings.That it was not was a wake up call to their unbelief. I believe James may have been miffed at the beginning, but when he got saved he was quite humbled and understood it perfectly, and “being passed up’ made the siblings stronger. A bit like Peter’s denial yet his gracious triumphant “rebound”. He would never forget his depravity when in the flesh ,and how gracious it is to be in the spirit, to be set right, to be forgiven. No wonder James rebounded as much as Peter, for we believe he eventually became bishop in Jerusalem and even wrote scripture. Can you imagine being Jesus’s brother and not just totally missing “it”, but being against it. So close to the creator of the universe yet so lost…Quite a story …may it grip you to the heart as it does me.”
a) The argument proffered for the reason for Jesus to hand over his mother to the care of John instead is because of the siblings unbelief. That reasoning is not stated in the NT so you can not stand on it.

b)You would notice the complete absence of the 4 other claimed sons and minimum 2 daughters during Jesus crucifixion. None of the so-call blood children were there to console their mother. Even if they think their eldest brother were a lunatic, you wouldn’t abandon your mum to suffer by herself, would you? Wouldn’t you offer your lunatic eldest brother a drink of water, wipe his face or at least show your face when he is suffering? You know, help out with carrying of that heavy wooden cross. That is not very blood-brotherly isn’t it? And they also didn’t turn up to claim his body either or their Mum from those Christian “lunatics” after Jesus death. Would you just leave your Mum with his “lunatic” eldest brother’s friends after his demise? Wouldn’t you claim her back? Or all these 6 (minimum) children were all prodigals??

c) Since, the word adelphoi is confirmed to cover more than blood-siblings and therefore rendered inconclusive, then shouldn’t we drop this approach to attack/support that Mary had other children? Or you are going to stand your ground and insist till you are blue in the face that blood brothers is the one and only possible correct explanation?

d) The NT is a product of the Catholic Church. The Church decided which OT/NT books were to be in the collection. For thousands of years TILL now, the Church has held that Mary is Ever Virgin. Why would one, 2000 years later, take someone else’s compilation (and letting the printers drop a few books along the way and keeping very mum about it), read it for themselves and think the Church is wrong for 2000 years and that they are right?

e) The NT says if there is a dispute, take it to the Church. There was only 1 church 2000 yrs ago and historical records say that Church is the current Catholic Church. So why don’t you do what the Bible tells you, take it to the Catholic Church? If you think your church is the same church mentioned 2000 years ago, please show your apostolic history of your church. You can’t because you have no history to talk about. Most likely, your pastor graduated from some theological university, found work in a church and started preaching. Some pastors job-hopped church-hopped.

f) The Bible says the Church is the pillar and foundation of truth ( it didn’t say the Bible is and if it is that important, it would have been inside there right? Anyway, that is an impossibility because there was no Bible at that time. The Apostles preached orally for most part except for some letters floating around ). So are you claiming that YOUR church is THAT pillar and foundation of truth and therefore all the other churches are not?

e) The Early Church Fathers and Reformer Fathers believe in the Ever Virgin Mary. Why do you think they are wrong? Why do you think you are correct? In the Reformed Church history, since the Reformed Fathers believe in the Ever Virgin Mary, at some point, someone at some period, think that the Reformed Fathers were wrong on this. Who is that person(s) and the basis for his/her/their conclusion? If these people, think that their historical founders were wrong on this matter, why do you/they think you/they could be preserved from error yourself/themselves?

In summary, one can not give oneself credentials, no matter how many degrees you have or how many times you have read the Bible. You always have to go back to your teacher, teacher teachers’ all the way back to the early Church Fathers/Apostles. Read what they say. For Protestants, you will stop at the Reformer Fathers most likely. Ask yourself, why stop there? There are many many others before them that deserved your attention too.
 
Many have asked why it matters if Mary remained a virgin - that it is unnecessary to their beliefs, etc …

I would propose that just as people today have a hard time believing that Mary and Joseph did not have relations and beget offspring …Mary having additional children - siblings of Jesus with Joseph - the man to whom she was 'betrothed" to at the time of the conception of Jesus - would be evidence and an argument against the divinity of Christ … no one would have believed in the “over shadowing of Mary by the Holy Spirit” nor in the virgin birth … which is to deny Christ …

Today we have that exact discussion: from an Episcopal Bishop [Spong] - while he was still actively serving as the Bishop of Newark - writing a book denying the virgin birth and proposing that Jesus was the offspring of rape by a roman soldier and another book denying the bodily Resurrection of Christ from the dead - all as the pastoral shepherd of the Episcopalians in Newark … to this article written by Rita Kakashima Brock, PhD - the Director of Faith Voices for the Common Good… huffingtonpost.com/rita-nakashima-brock-ph-d/the-progressive-importanc_b_796301.html

To move from the constant teachings of the Church as instituted by Christ … from the people who knew Christ and his original apostles - to the present time … thinking that we are more intelligent, sophisticated knowledgeable, etc …opens every article of faith to doubt … and it is to fall victim to the same doubts that caused problems in the early Church … If Christ be not risen from the dead - we are a pitiable people - our faith is for naught … it is not enough for Jesus to be a good man, a great teacher …

The Truth is not subject to change of understanding or the times … Jesus either is God or He is a mad man … and you may like it or not - ***every belief about Mary - every Truth - points to the divinity of our Lord ***- to His being God Incarnate, to His two natures - Human and Divine, to His being the Second Person of the Holy Trinity …
 
Many have asked why it matters if Mary remained a virgin - that it is unnecessary to their beliefs, etc …

I would propose that just as people today have a hard time believing that Mary and Joseph did not have relations and beget offspring …Mary having additional children - siblings of Jesus with Joseph - the man to whom she was 'betrothed" to at the time of the conception of Jesus - would be evidence and an argument against the divinity of Christ … no one would have believed in the “over shadowing of Mary by the Holy Spirit” nor in the virgin birth … which is to deny Christ …

Today we have that exact discussion: from an Episcopal Bishop [Spong] - while he was still actively serving as the Bishop of Newark - writing a book denying the virgin birth and proposing that Jesus was the offspring of rape by a roman soldier and another book denying the bodily Resurrection of Christ from the dead - all as the pastoral shepherd of the Episcopalians in Newark … to this article written by Rita Kakashima Brock, PhD - the Director of Faith Voices for the Common Good… huffingtonpost.com/rita-nakashima-brock-ph-d/the-progressive-importanc_b_796301.html

To move from the constant teachings of the Church as instituted by Christ … from the people who knew Christ and his original apostles - to the present time … thinking that we are more intelligent, sophisticated knowledgeable, etc …opens every article of faith to doubt … and it is to fall victim to the same doubts that caused problems in the early Church … If Christ be not risen from the dead - we are a pitiable people - our faith is for naught … it is not enough for Jesus to be a good man, a great teacher …

The Truth is not subject to change of understanding or the times … Jesus either is God or He is a mad man … and you may like it or not - ***every belief about Mary - every Truth - points to the divinity of our Lord ***- to His being God Incarnate, to His two natures - Human and Divine, to His being the Second Person of the Holy Trinity …
For me, it is the credibility of the Church at stake and Jesus. Jesus gave a perpetual guarantee on HIS Church that the gates of hell shall not prevail against it and that the Church is the pillar and foundation of truth. If the Church is to sprout untruth i.e. doctrines/dogmas proven to be untrue, then Jesus lied and is a failed prophet. So far, the Church has prevailed and all is good! Alleluia!
 
The Truth is not subject to change of understanding or the times … Jesus either is God or He is a mad man … and you may like it or not - ***every belief about Mary - every Truth - points to the divinity of our Lord ***- to His being God Incarnate, to His two natures - Human and Divine, to His being the Second Person of the Holy Trinity …
Mary being a PV does not point the the divinity of Christ. The virgin birth does but not the PV.

The PV makes sense as I stated before but she did not have to be an ever virgin in order for Christ to be Christ. If she had other children, would that change the way you look at our Lord?
 
Theotokus took some mustering, had words of caution with it’s declaration, and the IC and Assumption were contested , a lot.
I have never understood the argument that because something (a doctrine) has been contested, it must therefore be rejected, or the fact that something was contested provides supporting evidence for rejection.

The nature of Jesus was debated and contested, too. Do you suggest we continue to question whether or not Jesus was/is fully God, fully Man?
 
Good. OK
Right .Was gonna put in “Mary”, but …So I meant to say(ask) that for you is it fitting for Mary because it would have been unholy and less divine for Mary to have relations with her husband Joseph as to not ? This was Aquinas’s argument-she would have been “desecrated”, less “dignified”. Otherwise, how do you see it as fitting?
IMO we should stick to what we know. If we’re told that Mary’s ever-virgin, I can’t see any good reason to go speculating about whether Mary and Joseph *could *have had relations, whether it would have been unholy for them to do so, etc.
 
IMO we should stick to what we know. If we’re told that Mary’s ever-virgin, I can’t see any good reason to go speculating about whether Mary and Joseph *could *have had relations, whether it would have been unholy for them to do so, etc.
This is how I come at it…Episcopalians use Scritpure, Tradition and Reason.

Scripture: No evidence of the PV as clearly stated.

Tradition: Mostly favors the PV from the ECFs to the fathers of the Reformation.

Reason: I can firmly say that if I were Joseph, I would not have done anything. Whether or not Mary was an ever virgin is up dor scholarly debate. I know that I would not have done anything with her after she gave birth to our Lord. 🤷
 
This is one doctrine that I always had conflict with. Growing up Baptist, it was always taught that Christ had half brothers and sisters. We believed in the virgin birth of Christ but Mary did not remain a virgin after. Catholic teaching, as well as some other faith traditions, say she was a perpetual virgin.

Jesus’ brothers are mentioned in several Bible verses. Matthew 12:46, Luke 8:19, and Mark 3:31 say that Jesus’ mother and brothers came to see Him. The Bible tells us that Jesus had four brothers: James, Joseph, Simon, and Judas (Matthew 13:55). The Bible also tells us that Jesus had sisters, but they are not named or numbered (Matthew 13:56). In John 7:1-10, His brothers go on to the festival while Jesus stays behind. In Acts 1:14, His brothers and mother are described as praying with the disciples. Later, in Galatians 1:19, it mentions that James was Jesus’ brother.

Roman Catholicism states that these “brothers” were actually Jesus’ cousins. However, in each instance, the specific Greek word for “brother” is used. There is a Greek word for cousin, and it was not used. Further, if they were Jesus’ cousins, why would they so often be described as being with Mary, Jesus’ mother? There is nothing in the context of His mother and brothers coming to see Him that even hints that they were anyone other than His literal, blood-related half-brothers.

Another argument is that Jesus’ brothers and sisters were the children of Joseph from a previous marriage, before he married Mary. An entire theory of Joseph’s being significantly older than Mary, having been previously married, having multiple children, and then being widowed before marrying Mary. The problem with this is that the Bible does not even hint that Joseph was married or had children before he married Mary. If Joseph had at least six children before he married Mary, why are they not mentioned in Joseph and Mary’s trip to Bethlehem (Luke 2:4-7) or their trip to Egypt (Matthew 2:13-15) or their trip back to Nazareth (Matthew 2:20-23)?

I would love to get the thoughts of other non Catholic Christians as well as non Christians about this subject. 👍 Look forward to reading them.
If I’m not mistaken, the word brother does mean cousin. There several instances were 2 of the 4 brothers are mentioned to be the sons of another Mary. If that’s the case then you be thinking either the Hible contradicted itself, which we all know that it doesn’t, or the word brother means a broader term.

Second, you know that Joseph, Mary’s husband, Jesus father, by accounts he is said to have been married, and had children, he was a widower. Ok, so all along in the Bible, the men were the ones with having kids from many women, why would you consider these kids being Mary’s if in the Bible it was the men who normally had several kids from previous engagements?
 
I have never understood the argument that because something (a doctrine) has been contested, it must therefore be rejected, or the fact that something was contested provides supporting evidence for rejection.

The nature of Jesus was debated and contested, too. Do you suggest we continue to question whether or not Jesus was/is fully God, fully Man?
Excellently said. I’m very curious to see how this is answered.
 
If I’m not mistaken, the word brother does mean cousin. There several instances were 2 of the 4 brothers are mentioned to be the sons of another Mary. If that’s the case then you be thinking either the Hible contradicted itself, which we all know that it doesn’t, or the word brother means a broader term.
Yes it can mean cousin as well.
Second, you know that Joseph, Mary’s husband, Jesus father, by accounts he is said to have been married, and had children, he was a widower. Ok, so all along in the Bible, the men were the ones with having kids from many women, why would you consider these kids being Mary’s if in the Bible it was the men who normally had several kids from previous engagements?
Right. I know of both accounts of Joseph. One being he was young and the “siblings” were actually cousins and the other account you stated above.

If I were going to believe 100% in the PV Mary…the second account would actually work better IMO.
 
This is Br. Anthony Opisso writeup on why Joseph will not have marital relation with Mary. Gives an insight on ancient Jewish thought and customs.

cin.org/users/james/files/talmud.htm

Basically, it says once Joseph has been informed that Mary is the bride of the HS, he would not be allowed to have marital relationships with his wife, according to Jewish Law.

The other angle is that Prophets of old e.g. Moses among others abstain from sex while preparing themselves to be in commune with God. In this case, Joseph would be living under the same roof with his God. I am sure he will be on his best behaviour at all times.😃

I am more incline towards the Proto-Gospel of James explanation though that Joseph was an elderly widower tasked with Mary’s safe keeping. It may explain a number of “issues” namely,

1)step brothers/sisters = adelphoi
2)absence of siblings when Jesus was 12 yrs old at the temple. Minimum of 4 brothers and 2 sisters for a poor family who can afford to pay only 2 doves sacrifice at the temple?
3)absence of siblings at his death/preparation of his burial and John taking over care of Mary. Almost unheard of in those days if there are existing 4 blood sons.
4)absence of Joseph during his crucifixion, presumably dead.
5)Mary is ever Virgin.
 
Yes it can mean cousin as well.

Right. I know of both accounts of Joseph. One being he was young and the “siblings” were actually cousins and the other account you stated above.

If I were going to believe 100% in the PV Mary…the second account would actually work better IMO.
I know how a lot people say show me in the Bible. But I think here, it is Good to see what the history was on Joseph and Mary. I mean we can see in both the OT and in history that 99% of the time the men had children from other women, some did it out of lust and adultery, others because their wife had died and moved on to another wife.

I think its funny, and please don’t take offense to this, but most protestants see brothers and right away say, see, see Mary had more kids. I mean you guys do know that Jesus also had a Father, in Joseph. Like I told my gf, don’t you think that those kids were probably Joseph’s kids from the 1st marriage.

Somebody mentioned in a post, that the Early Church all agreed that Mary was a Virgin before, during, and after the Birth of Jesus. We even see the men who started the Reformation say, yes she was always a Virgin her entire life.

To be honest with you, I think protestants who make this argument just want to go against the Catholic Church teachings just because. Its sad, because they lead a lot of well intentioned people from the Church or those who are considering the Church.
 
To be honest with you, I think protestants who make this argument just want to go against the Catholic Church teachings just because. Its sad, because they lead a lot of well intentioned people from the Church or those who are considering the Church.
To be fair…some acutally believe Mary had other children. They take no issue with that as it would not have any issue with Christ being the Son of God.

Many may make the argument simply to be anti Catholic while others believe it simply for believing it.
 
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