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I’ve only read the first couple posts.
I don’t think I will be all the helpful but here a few thoughts.
I didn’t realize that male virginity was so important to women, as female virginity is – and rightly so – to men.
All I can say is that no man you will find in this life, on this earth, will be perfect. So while his not waiting is a bad thing and something that cannot be changed, it’s just something you will have to settle for anyway since you will not find ever a man that is totally innocent … such men don’t even exist in heaven! Because, innocence once lost can never be restored, it can only be redeemed. Of all the human race, only Mary has the gift of innocence – she also at the same time has the gift of redemeption which is a kind of irony and paradox and marvel. So perhaps you should give your bf a chance to redeem himself, a chance to make up for what he did in the past.
His being absolved of his sins in confession doesn’t negate the obligation he has to make moral reparation – which is part of the reason a penance is assigned at confession, but you can always go beyond the assigned penance.
There’s a problem though and that is that no one really makes a perfect moral reparation on earth – that’s what purgatory is for! So even giving him the chance to make moral reparation, it’s just not going to happen with perfection. He may not have a 100% pure intention or he may goof up on it some other way. So you’re just going to have to settle for someone who 1) does not possess the gift of innocence 2) has not made perfect reparation for his sins. Perfection of man just doesn’t exist in this life. But a saintly woman who loves her man may want to, together with him, strive towards perfection as much as she and he can, knowing that whatever shortcomings as well as uncleaned blemishes that are present will one day be conquered by Christ’s love in heaven and beyond
I don’t think I will be all the helpful but here a few thoughts.
I didn’t realize that male virginity was so important to women, as female virginity is – and rightly so – to men.
All I can say is that no man you will find in this life, on this earth, will be perfect. So while his not waiting is a bad thing and something that cannot be changed, it’s just something you will have to settle for anyway since you will not find ever a man that is totally innocent … such men don’t even exist in heaven! Because, innocence once lost can never be restored, it can only be redeemed. Of all the human race, only Mary has the gift of innocence – she also at the same time has the gift of redemeption which is a kind of irony and paradox and marvel. So perhaps you should give your bf a chance to redeem himself, a chance to make up for what he did in the past.
His being absolved of his sins in confession doesn’t negate the obligation he has to make moral reparation – which is part of the reason a penance is assigned at confession, but you can always go beyond the assigned penance.
There’s a problem though and that is that no one really makes a perfect moral reparation on earth – that’s what purgatory is for! So even giving him the chance to make moral reparation, it’s just not going to happen with perfection. He may not have a 100% pure intention or he may goof up on it some other way. So you’re just going to have to settle for someone who 1) does not possess the gift of innocence 2) has not made perfect reparation for his sins. Perfection of man just doesn’t exist in this life. But a saintly woman who loves her man may want to, together with him, strive towards perfection as much as she and he can, knowing that whatever shortcomings as well as uncleaned blemishes that are present will one day be conquered by Christ’s love in heaven and beyond