Please help with marriage question

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MNCatholic76 said:
Looks like I’ll be looking elsewhere for Christian acceptance as I will not nor will I ever stop loving my wife as my wife and start loving her as a sister.
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Good for you. Sound judgement in action. Good luck in seeking what you are looking for. Remember, God can be found pretty much everywhere.
 
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Hello, I would like to encourage you to reach out to a priest or even call in to Catholic Answers during their “Pastor is In” session. Don’t leave the Eucharist and true presence because of advice you read on the internet.
 
Believe_85 said:
Hello, I would like to encourage you to reach out to a priest or even call in to Catholic Answers during their “Pastor is In” session. Don’t leave the Eucharist and true presence because of advice you read on the internet.
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I second this. Knowledge is power and you should make sure you are fully informed.
 
Please make an appointment to speak to your priest. Getting advice on your marital status from strangers on the internet is NOT the best way to determine your options.

Some of the responses you are getting are questionable. Speak to a priest or a deacon about your particular situation.
 
Salutations,
Time! Prayer! It’s great, in these troubled days, you are returning to God. Your 4 yo needs God as we all do. By little Jesus books to read to her. Noah’s ARK toy is fun w the animals going in and out of ARK. She’ll learn animal names. There are childhood videos of Bible stories. Perchance, if your wife hears some background stuff, she’ll get interested. You cannot nag. Gently, intermittently invite her to join your life in your journey. “MISS YOU, HON!” It’s Easter time. Put some decorations for His Ressurection around. The Easter Bunny is celebrating His Ressurection w colored eggs. Eggs are symbols of rebirth w coming out of the shell( the tomb). Watch this good movie. It was in regular theaters years ago. “JESUS CHRIST OF NAZERETH”. Robert Patterson plays Jesus. When he prayed the Beatitudes, the film crew was crying. It’s Jesus’s whole life. Mel Gibson’s “THE PASSION OF THE CHRIST” is jaw dropping and soul numbing. It is not for 4 yo’s. Hopefully, she’ll accept these as they were in secular movies. Movie night w popcorn or Hors d’ouvres and wine??
If she thinks, she has to change lifestyle to be in church, she doesn’t.

Just as I am, without one plea,
But that Thy blood was shed for me,
And that Thou bid’st me come to Thee,
O Lamb of God, I come! I come!
2
Just as I am, and waiting not
To rid my soul of one dark blot;
To Thee whose blood can cleanse each spot,
O Lamb of God, I come, I come!
3
Just as I am, though tossed about
With many a conflict, many a doubt;
Fightings within, and fears without,
O Lamb of God, I come, I come!
4
Just as I am, poor, wretched, blind;
Sight, riches, healing of the mind;
Yes, all I need, in Thee to find,
O Lamb of God, I come, I come!
5
Just as I am, Thou wilt receive,
Wilt welcome, pardon, cleanse, relieve;
Because Thy promise I believe,
O Lamb of God, I come, I come!
6
Just as I am, Thy love unknown
Has broken every barrier down;
Now, to be Thine, yea, Thine alone,
O Lamb of God, I come, I come!

BILLY GRAHAM had this played every appearance. What a testimony for God. He preached simple words. In every nation(almost),
People heard those words and came to Christ more fully. No scandal. His family glowing.
He’ll hear,”JOB WELL DONE, BILLY, COME ON IN!”
Rejoicing w you on your new beginning.
In Christ’s Love
Tweedlealice

Let nothing disturb you,
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things.
Whoever has God lacks nothing;
God alone suffices.
Prayer of St. Teresa of Avila.
 
Loveless? It takes deep, abiding love to forego sex for the sake of your spouse’s salvation.
 
joeybaggz said:
And as an aside, this is where I think the RCC position on “valid” marriage stinks. The he** with the idea of “valid”. What really needs to be considered is if a marriage is sacramental. My opinion only.
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The OP’s marriage can be made valid if his wife gets a decree of nullity, but unless she is baptized, something that seems unlikely based on what he wrote in his first post, then it can never be sacramental since only two baptized people contract a sacramental marriage.

Marriage existed before the Church. She elevated the marriage of the baptized to a sacrament but she never said that other marriages were no good. They are valid but lack some of the graces that a sacramental marriage provides. You can’t say that two Jews who marry are any less married than two Catholics and that if they divorce it’s ok because no sacramental marriage existed anyway.
 
QwertyGirl said:
Good for you. Sound judgement in action.
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How unkind and untrue.

@MNCatholic76, as others have said, talk to your priest. He’s probably dealt with similar situations before (and if he hasn’t, he has diocesan resources he can call on). There may very well be things we don’t know about your situation, and questions we don’t know to ask. Don’t let any random stranger on the internet tell you that you need to go away.
 
This.

There are millions of valid, natural marriages in this world.

The Church recognizes the validity of natural marriages.

While all Sacramental marriages are valid, not all valid marriages are Sacramental.
 
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She may seek an annulment; once obtained; you may begin marriage preparation; a dispensation for Disparity of Cult will allow a wedding without her becoming Catholic. Speak to your priest for assistance.
 
Hello.

I don’t know enough about all the in’s and out’s to tell you anything, but there is one thing I’d like to say: Welcome Back!!! 😂
 
Of all the responses that I’ve gotten on this forum…it’s nice to finally have someone say that to me. Thank you
 
joeybaggz said:
On this point, you are right. That is the current, legalistic, letter of the law, understanding. Many love the letter of the law; they just have no feel for the heart of the law.
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So you’re suggesting that the valid marriage of two non-baptized persons, or that of a Catholic to a non-baptized person, is not worth the paper it’s recorded on precisely because they are not baptized? That it doesn’t matter if they met all the requirements for a valid marriage, a decree of nullity should be granted just because they weren’t baptized?
 
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Join a neocatechumenal community. We are experts in resolving Catholic marriages. You are free to live as a Catholic and raise your daughter as such. But you cannot participate in Holy Eucharist until you get a special validation of your marriage by Vatican. You may ask help to get this done by your pastor.
 
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Unless both parties understand and accept that marriage/matrimony is a sacred relationship between man, woman, and God, then just because it occurred in what seems to be a valid ceremony, doesn’t make it a sacrament. Yes it is a valid marriage before civil authorities, thus valid In that context, but it is not a situation where “God has joined the couple together.” God isn’t even considered in a great many “valid” marriages. Too many people marry in what the RCC considered a valid situation who have neither an understanding of the sacred/divine nature of the sacrament of matrimony, or give a good hoot about it. Two people whose only real desire is to have what appears to be a “legal/valid” right to do nothing more that engage in sex until they are bored with each other, contract what seems to be a valid marriage. And those marriages are hard to find a decree of nullity when parties are uncooperative in the “annulment” process.
I must admit, I look at the situation from the standpoint of when parties grow up and understand what matrimony really is, that is when the problems arise within the context of their lives and their relation with the Church if and when it becomes important to them.
 
When we refer to a valid marriage, we are using the Church’s definition: one where there is no impediment but where full consent, an intent to be faithful, be married for life, and be open to children are present. Civil law doesn’t give two hoots about any of those. But two Protestants are quite capable meeting all of all of these requirements.
 
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