Your confusion is natural, as is your feeling of frustration at waiting. Don’t give in to temptation to quit. Your battle is closer to being won than you think it is. Trust me, I cannot tell you how many times I would spend months praying for something to happen and then give up, only to learn later that I was very nearly at the finishing line.
I advise you to pray for your husband a special prayer that I used for mine. When you say the name of Jesus three times with full reverence and as if you were speaking to a lover, you offer up all of the Holy Masses being said that day for your intention. I learned that in a booklet at a retreat, and I put it to use immediately.
I began to pray like this:
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I bring my husband and myself to the foot of your cross.
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I beg you to sanctify the souls of my husband and me with the blood of your mercy
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to purify the souls of my husband and me with the water that flows from your side
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to heal the wounds of body, mind, and soul for my husband and me
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to baptize my husband in your Holy Name
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to confirm my husband in your graces
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to annoint my husband with your oil of leadership
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to my soul and my husband’s soul with your Holy Spirit of love.
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your knowledge
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your wisdom
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your understanding
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your counsel
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your fortitude
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your piety
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your fear of the Lord
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your humility
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your fidelity
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your fruitfulness
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your obedience to the Lord
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your prudence
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your faith
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your hope
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your justice
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your courage
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your temperence
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your charity
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your peace
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your joy
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to enkindle in my husband’s heart the spark of love for me which once flourished, and to extinguish any other flames which might lead him into sin
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with a devotion to the covenant of marriage that we might live our covenant to one another as faithfully as Christ to His Bride, the Church
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your patience
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to flood our souls with your gratitude
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, I ask you to surround and guard us with your angels
Jesus - I place my trust in you.
Do this every day. Remember, when Moses held his arms up - the battle was won. When Moses let his arms droop, the battle was lost. You are in a war for your husband’s soul. Make no mistake. You can win the war - though you may lose a battle or two - but only if you keep your arms lifted up in prayer and don’t let yourself get talked into giving up. If you get discouraged, go read Hosea. He’s certainly been there.