Poll: I can understand why people leave the Roman Catholic Church

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And the ability to grab a bunch of online ECF quotes out of context and right click, cut and paste at high speed is another tool that makes people think they’re on the level of Augustine or Erasmus or Aquinas in here at times LOL 😛
The anonymity and impersonal nature of a computer screen and keyboard tend to inflate people’s egos and shorten their fuses.
 
And the ability to grab a bunch of online ECF quotes out of context and right click, cut and paste at high speed is another tool that makes people think they’re on the level of Augustine or Erasmus or Aquinas in here at times LOL 😛
Nonsense, it’s always fun to do cross-referencing and show when they’ve taken someone out of context. 😃
 
I’m not sure how to take the poll but yes, I can understand why people leave the Roman Catholic church.
 
I voted “yes”. I left the RC church years ago. I was a cradle Roman Catholic who received 12 years of good Roman Catholic education. Why did I leave? In my late teens and early twenties, I ran with Roman Catholic friends and we earnestly pursued wine, women, drugs and song. My lifestyle ultimately led to a spiritual crisis. My heart’s need was met through non-RC Christians and meditation on the Word (scripture) and my getting baptized in the Holy Spirit - - just like Charismatic Roman Catholics. My needs required a miracle which God provided. The power of the Word (scripture) to renew my mind and gift of speaking in tongues were vital and essential in my case. The Lord provided me with what I needed. In my journey, I was introduced to Christ through the Roman Catholic church and received some very good orthodox (small o) teaching. I think I understand the role that the Roman Catholic church has played from the beginning of Christianity. I respectfully disagree with some of its teachings. My present spiritual life is grounded in the Word working in me and the gifts of the Spirit working in me. I enjoy fellowship with Christ and believers (the church). I believe true religion is to help the orphan, widow and poor. My family (wife and kids) are all believers. Christ is the center of my life and home. In a nutshell, some of what I needed in my pilgrimage (my life) God chose to provide through non-catholic Christians. Shalom!
 
The anonymity and impersonal nature of a computer screen and keyboard tend to inflate people’s egos and shorten their fuses.
And the ability to grab a bunch of online ECF quotes out of context and right click, cut and paste at high speed is another tool that makes people think they’re on the level of Augustine or Erasmus or Aquinas in here at times LOL 😛
Amen! Brother Wolf and Brother Halleck. 😉

Sadly, this is my contribution to this thread.

Anna
 
In fairness to Catholicism, however, seeing some hypocrisy in your friends is not a valid reason to bail on the Church. There are hypocrites like this everywhere. I work with Protestants who are on their third marriages already and who sleep around, lie through their teeth, and are gossip hounds with no integrity who’ll sell you out in a second.

I grew up with lots of hypocritical protestants and catholics. You have to base your decisions on the theology, moral teachings, and faith of the religion, not all of its adherents. Every denomination and every non-Christian religion has its saints, sinners and morons.

Do you ever read of any great man in history whether it’s Augustine of Hippo or Justin Martyr or Francis or heck, C.S. Lewis, ever converting because of seeing bad examples? You have to go for the beliefs and the timeless truths, theological doctrines, etc.

Adolf Hitler was technically Catholic, Stalin was technically Orthodox, Osama Bin Ladin Muslim, etc. and yet I’m not going to judge those faiths by those characters!:rolleyes:
I voted “yes”. I left the RC church years ago. I was a cradle Roman Catholic who received 12 years of good Roman Catholic education. Why did I leave? In my late teens and early twenties, I ran with Roman Catholic friends and we earnestly pursued wine, women, drugs and song. My lifestyle ultimately led to a spiritual crisis. My heart’s need was met through non-RC Christians and meditation on the Word (scripture) and my getting baptized in the Holy Spirit - - just like Charismatic Roman Catholics. My needs required a miracle which God provided. The power of the Word (scripture) to renew my mind and gift of speaking in tongues were vital and essential in my case. The Lord provided me with what I needed. In my journey, I was introduced to Christ through the Roman Catholic church and received some very good orthodox (small o) teaching. I think I understand the role that the Roman Catholic church has played from the beginning of Christianity. I respectfully disagree with some of its teachings. My present spiritual life is grounded in the Word working in me and the gifts of the Spirit working in me. I enjoy fellowship with Christ and believers (the church). I believe true religion is to help the orphan, widow and poor. My family (wife and kids) are all believers. Christ is the center of my life and home. In a nutshell, some of what I needed in my pilgrimage (my life) God chose to provide through non-catholic Christians. Shalom!
 
In fairness to Catholicism, however, seeing some hypocrisy in your friends is not a valid reason to bail on the Church. There are hypocrites like this everywhere. I work with Protestants who are on their third marriages already and who sleep around, lie through their teeth, and are gossip hounds with no integrity who’ll sell you out in a second.

I grew up with lots of hypocritical protestants and catholics. You have to base your decisions on the theology, moral teachings, and faith of the religion, not all of its adherents. Every denomination and every non-Christian religion has its saints, sinners and morons.

Do you ever read of any great man in history whether it’s Augustine of Hippo or Justin Martyr or Francis or heck, C.S. Lewis, ever converting because of seeing bad examples? You have to go for the beliefs and the timeless truths, theological doctrines, etc.

Adolf Hitler was technically Catholic, Stalin was technically Orthodox, Osama Bin Ladin Muslim, etc. and yet I’m not going to judge those faiths by those characters!:rolleyes:
Wise words, gurney.

Anna
 
Question is very unclear, and leaves much to the imagination. Do I know that people rely on there own thinking and wrongly denounce the church? Of course, and then the path they take is often destructive.

I have seen many flounder in their thinking also, and stay somewhat connected only to re-connect later on. Many different senerios many differnt people. Only one Jesus Christ through and one message of salvation. The church plays a large part in that salvation.

The mystical body of Jesus Christ is the church. I suppose a man can be committed to the Bible and its way of life but be somewhat disconnected from the church. I’ve seen this attempted many times. I’ve yet to see positive results from it. Not with real consistancy over decades. Error in thinking always seems to be corrected with time.

I conclude that there are those who came before me, and as time plays out, there wisdon seems to be more accurate than mine. Thus I chose to remain connected to the Catholic Church. I find a great peace of mind, and a blessing from God through the church. I must follow that in my soul which seems to speak the truth of life and mankind. I find that truth in God and his church. I believe also that if you pray the Rosary daily the Blessed Mother will lead you back to the church and reconnected your faith through faith in her.

Faith is a word which volumes can said and written about. Its certainly not a vague concept and its not a sometime, once in awhile entertainment, Its a way of live that will reach deep into ones soul. If you make an honest effort to allow the Holy Spirit to change your life.

Doing good without Gods Grace, is about as equivilant to living without water. You may do well for a moment, but quickly you will fail.

God Bless
 
From a non-Roman POV:twocents::

I suspect that the more conscientious ‘apostates’ (as opposed to those who are motivated by immorality or just ‘drift out’) are those who found it hard to accept the Magisterium’s absolute authority. In a relativist, iconoclastic society, the desire to accept some beliefs and reject others based on personal preference (i.e. ‘cafeteria Catholicism’/Protestantism) is strong.

For cradle Catholics, it would be easy to associate the Catholic faith with the particular Catholic-influenced culture/family environment in which they were brought up. Often, those who think they are turning away from the former are actually reacting against the latter.
I’ve heard so many people (most of them women) who say things like: ‘I went to a Catholic school, and I’m no longer practising, but I still believe in the values that Sister So-and-so instilled in me’.
 
A more serious post, first from a Roman Catholic perspective in regards to Andrew1983’s post. My father had a lot of the same problems he does, and I think that’s why he’s now a nominal Catholic. He grew up with the Latin mass and awesome Catholic role models like Fulton Sheen, and didn’t really go to church again until in the aftermath of Vatican II. Every time we went, I could tell he hated it more and more. Like Gurney said, the novus ordo just got really Protestant-like, people would sing for discernibly no reason, do goofy things like hold hands during the Lord’s prayer, and the sermons would almost have nothing to do with the scripture read and were often hard to follow. Eventually he just stopped going, and now doesn’t go at all. To tell the truth, there was a brief moment in my youth when I wanted to get into Catholicism, but the superficial and unfulfilling (and frankly, goofy) worship of so many Catholic churches pushed me away.

From a non-Roman Catholic perspective, I’ve met a lot of people who left Roman Catholicism because they found a lot of people couldn’t defend it well. That isn’t to say that there aren’t good arguments Roman Catholics can make in favor for their faith, but…many choose not to use them. How many times on this forum do Catholic defenses of their faith turn into attacks against Protestantism or other sects? As I said in another thread, it’s no different than a Muslim who can’t defend Islam without bashing Christianity. In fact, there are Muslims who left Islam partially because they realized Muslims could never defend their faith when put under the hard questions. I realize that the people I’m talking about are probably in a minority, but it’s enough of a sizable amount that I think people who are serious about their faith should call it into question. If a Roman Catholic struggling with faith sees the only reason he has to stay in Roman Catholicism is “It’s not Protestantism,” or the arguments he hears amounts to “Everyone else sucks,” he’s going to be swayed to perhaps join Orthodoxy or just go completely apostate from Christianity.
 
My dear Byzantine Wolf,

Protestants bash Catholics, usually with even less information. I CAN’T FIND any “Why-we-aren’t-Catholic” apologetics which aren’t based almost entirely on mythology about Catholics. And the scriptural defenses are very narrow. On the personal level, most of the evangelicals I know habor a basic, unreasoned contempt for Catholicism.

Nastiness is just one of those constants of faith.
 
My dear Byzantine Wolf,

Protestants bash Catholics, usually with even less information. I CAN’T FIND any “Why-we-aren’t-Catholic” apologetics which aren’t based almost entirely on mythology about Catholics. And the scriptural defenses are very narrow. On the personal level, most of the evangelicals I know habor a basic, unreasoned contempt for Catholicism.

Nastiness is just one of those constants of faith.
My post wasn’t designed to say there aren’t unreasonable arguments against Catholicism, but, again, this is something you can’t ignore, and to point fingers to the other side is like a five year old saying, “Jimmy has a doggie too so I want a doggie too!” The fact is, whether we know it or not, people watch dialogues between two sides, and they’ll notice when one side either doesn’t present any arguments that are useful or aren’t even attempting to defend themselves, and there are people who left Catholicism over that.
 
M to point fingers to the other side is like a five year old saying, “Jimmy has a doggie too so I want a doggie too!” The fact is, whether we know it or not, people watch dialogues between two sides, and they’ll notice when one side either doesn’t present any arguments that are useful or aren’t even attempting to defend themselves, and there are people who left Catholicism over that.
We are definitely coming from different places, though I’m no fan of moral relativism either. I’m saying there’s no escape from nastiness. Not in any religion. It has to be dealt with wherever you go.

That said, your point about failing to be a good Christian witness is perfectly legit. Without a doubt. The problem I’ve encountered in evangelical churches, where we’re constantly hammered about not letting our ‘witness’ slip… is that it encourages the creepiest criminals and narcissists to sing loudest. The problem with worrying about your witness, is focusing on the symptom instead of the problem.
 
you have absolutely NO idea what i have been thro…

it isn’t just a matter of a priest being a little cranky cuz he’s over-worked…
You are right distracted I do not have any idea what you have been through. But what my point is, and still is, you cannot blame God for mistakes that Humans do. Priest’s are human, and unfortunately some Priest’s do fall from grace also. Judas was living proof of that.

What my point is and I tried to make is while there are even in the world today a Judas here and there in all parts of the world there are also many Peter’s and Paul’s etc. While I do not defend or even try to deny the evil, I try to defend and stand by the good.

I understand that somethng terrible must have happened to you, and I am sorry for that. But I believe that we have all had times in our lifes or will that a Priest can hurt us deeply. And can possibly do great damage to our lives or ones we Love. And I agree some can be hurt more then others. But it all comes down to God and Gods word. And we cannot let the actions of a Priest keep us from the great gifts of the Eucharist. Because that to me would be a even worse situation. That to me would be making the devil happy and hurting God deeply. Because the best way to hurt God is for us to turn away from him.

Again I am sorry for the wrong that has been done to you, I believe by you staying in the Church and receiving God in the Eucharist you will find the peace and love you deserve. And I applaud your efforts. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.
 
A more serious post, first from a Roman Catholic perspective in regards to Andrew1983’s post. My father had a lot of the same problems he does, and I think that’s why he’s now a nominal Catholic. He grew up with the Latin mass and awesome Catholic role models like Fulton Sheen, and didn’t really go to church again until in the aftermath of Vatican II. Every time we went, I could tell he hated it more and more. Like Gurney said, the novus ordo just got really Protestant-like, people would sing for discernibly no reason, do goofy things like hold hands during the Lord’s prayer, and the sermons would almost have nothing to do with the scripture read and were often hard to follow. Eventually he just stopped going, and now doesn’t go at all. To tell the truth, there was a brief moment in my youth when I wanted to get into Catholicism, but the superficial and unfulfilling (and frankly, goofy) worship of so many Catholic churches pushed me away.

From a non-Roman Catholic perspective, I’ve met a lot of people who left Roman Catholicism because they found a lot of people couldn’t defend it well. That isn’t to say that there aren’t good arguments Roman Catholics can make in favor for their faith, but…many choose not to use them. How many times on this forum do Catholic defenses of their faith turn into attacks against Protestantism or other sects? As I said in another thread, it’s no different than a Muslim who can’t defend Islam without bashing Christianity. In fact, there are Muslims who left Islam partially because they realized Muslims could never defend their faith when put under the hard questions. I realize that the people I’m talking about are probably in a minority, but it’s enough of a sizable amount that I think people who are serious about their faith should call it into question. If a Roman Catholic struggling with faith sees the only reason he has to stay in Roman Catholicism is “It’s not Protestantism,” or the arguments he hears amounts to “Everyone else sucks,” he’s going to be swayed to perhaps join Orthodoxy or just go completely apostate from Christianity.
What I see you saying is alot of Catholic’s did not defend their faith or defend it well enough. Speaking for myself I am in my 40s. When we were attacked for our faith we were taught to never argue over faith and just turn the other cheek. Now I do believe that we should have been told to be more aggressive in defending our faith. But then again that probally would have failed also.

While I cannot compare the Latin Mass I only knew the Mass of today I cannot understand your Father’s actions. For the most important part of the Mass is and always was centered on the Eucharist. I see nothing superficial, unfulfilling, or goofy with that at all.

The most important part of the Mass always was and always will be receiving the body and blood of our dear Lord Jesus Christ. I thank God that will never change. And according to scripture you must have the power of the Holy Spirit by the laying of hands passed down to do this, I can never see this ever being valid anywhere but the Catholic Church. This has never changed in the RCC nor ever will. While simple ways of celebrating with eachother by the modern times may vary, the actual word of God or Eucharist will always remain the same.
 
I will try again to post using wording that makes sense! I have several friends who have left the Church. In all cases, the reasons they left have to do with social issues - mainly artificial contraception and infertility treatment issues. One dear woman told me that even though she now attends the Church of England, she will remain Catholic her whole life. She was in a horrible situation and chose to have fertility treatments that eventually ended with the birth of a beautiful baby girl. I have tried to persuade her to come back to the Church and go to confession, but she said she will not be a hypocrite. I’m saddened for those who think there is no way back to the Church.
Well if she is not repentant for the sin of murdering children, than confession wouldn’t be valid. You have to be truly sorrowful for what you have done to offend God. If she is not, the confession wouldn’t be valid. You might fool the priest and maybe yourself, but you will not fool God.

See the pride comes from thinking IVF and the following abortions are the persons right. If a person is infertile, there is always adoption, instead people whom choose IVF choose their desire for biological children over the innocent lives flushed down the drain in pursuit of that goal. If choosing the death of multiple humans to achieve ones goal isn’t pride, I don’t know what is.

I am sorry to hear this about your friend, but going to the Episcopal Church doesn’t absolve her, mortal sin is still mortal sin, and going to another “Church” that says it is ok, doesn’t change the Truth. I will pray for your friend.
 
My post wasn’t designed to say there aren’t unreasonable arguments against Catholicism, but, again, this is something you can’t ignore, and to point fingers to the other side is like a five year old saying, “Jimmy has a doggie too so I want a doggie too!” The fact is, whether we know it or not, people watch dialogues between two sides, and they’ll notice when one side either doesn’t present any arguments that are useful or aren’t even attempting to defend themselves, and there are people who left Catholicism over that.
Mr. Wolf,

You are right about people watching dialogues between both sides. The way we present and defend our faith has far reaching effects.

I’ve learned many things and changed many of my views through study and CAF discussions. I’ve been challenged to reading/study, etc. Catholics make a great case for many things, such as infant Baptism, the Real Presence, the Sacraments, etc.

Yet, when it comes to discussions regarding the “primacy” of Peter and what that means; I have had to pull back, because anyone who disagrees with the Catholic view is usually “pounded”; and the issues that concern me most are lost in all the arguments.

Protestants are blasted, being reminded of how recent Protestantism is and the lack of respect for the tradition of ECF’s. A valid point in many respects. Yet the Orthodox disagree on the issue of Peter and the Papacy also; and they are drawing from historical arguments and calling upon tradition. So, it isn’t just Protestants who disagree with Catholics.

I’ve seen this on many threads. I finally decided, my time is better spent reading and studying the issue of Peter from different view points. I can get a wider view of history and tradition, without being insulted along the way.

I respect Catholicism and my Catholic friends, here. It’s just that sometimes the steamroller approach can cause people to back away. Yet, no one has the corner on the “steamroller approach.” Sadly, many Protestants hit the forums with guns blazing, determined to show Catholics the “error of their ways”–Sadly, many crash and burn within a few days; and are banned for failure to abide by charity guidelines. It is definitely their loss, because many misconceptions about Catholicism are cleared up on the forums.

I’m not excluding myself from any of this. I’ve had to apologize more than once for less than charitable comments, and I may have to again in the future. We all get “steamed” sometimes; and forget people do notice our behavior. :okpeople: I’m stepping off the soap box.

Anna
 
I can honestly agree with every shread of this post, Anna. Absolutely. The apologetics from some people in CAF have done more to make me want to run from Catholicism than toward it. Most of the self-described “hardcore” or “industrial strength” or “fanatical” or “no ifs, ands, or buts” Catholics in here have seriously given me pause about Catholicism. The only solace I take is that their extreme fundamentalist views are not necessarily the majority and I don’t have to please them to be a Catholic. But honestly I agree with you a great deal that the tone and tenor of the papacy/infallibility threads are just knock-down, drag-out nasty at times. I’m also discouraged when I hear, “the reason you (not necessarily me but other posters) left the Church is pure PRIDE!” or they say, “obviously you’re not well-catechized or informed or you wouldn’t have left!” I have heard the term “cafeteria Catholic” enough times to make my head spin. It’s become way too cliche in here! I have also heard people say to other posters “obviously you haven’t cultivated the interior spiritual life!” as if anyone can know the inner spirituality of another?

I think a lot of the arguments are not compelling and people who are too much into full-on apologetics mode are not willing to understand WHY the other side might feel the way they do. They get caught up in “I see the light, why can’t you?!”

Reminding Anglicans of Henry VIII’s divorce is a lousy way to convert an Anglican? Or appealing to the bloodiness of the Reformation when Catholics were bloody, too? Or trying to defend bad behavior just because someone was Catholic. I’ve heard some lulus!

At you’re right, Anna; I’ve heard a heck of a lot of anti-Catholic nonsense as well, most of whom usually get banned pretty quickly. I’ve been on other forums and boy there are some nasty anti-Catholics out there! I’ve heard Anglicans say “Catholics are all bloody well brainwashed” and it just makes me sick!

Despite these weaknesses and the hardcores, CAF I believe is the BEST online forum there is, period. I really like most of the people, the format, the options, the size, and the vast majority of folks in here are VERY intelligent, good theologians, good debators, and nice folks in general, yourself definitely included! :)👍
Mr. Wolf,

You are right about people watching dialogues between both sides. The way we present and defend our faith has far reaching effects.

I’ve learned many things and changed many of my views through study and CAF discussions. I’ve been challenged to reading/study, etc. Catholics make a great case for many things, such as infant Baptism, the Real Presence, the Sacraments, etc.

Yet, when it comes to discussions regarding the “primacy” of Peter and what that means; I have had to pull back, because anyone who disagrees with the Catholic view is usually “pounded”; and the issues that concern me most are lost in all the arguments.

Protestants are blasted, being reminded of how recent Protestantism is and the lack of respect for the tradition of ECF’s. A valid point in many respects. Yet the Orthodox disagree on the issue of Peter and the Papacy also; and they are drawing from historical arguments and calling upon tradition. So, it isn’t just Protestants who disagree with Catholics.

I’ve seen this on many threads. I finally decided, my time is better spent reading and studying the issue of Peter from different view points. I can get a wider view of history and tradition, without being insulted along the way.

I respect Catholicism and my Catholic friends, here. It’s just that sometimes the steamroller approach can cause people to back away. Yet, no one has the corner on the “steamroller approach.” Sadly, many Protestants hit the forums with guns blazing, determined to show Catholics the “error of their ways”–Sadly, many crash and burn within a few days; and are banned for failure to abide by charity guidelines. It is definitely their loss, because many misconceptions about Catholicism are cleared up on the forums.

I’m not excluding myself from any of this. I’ve had to apologize more than once for less than charitable comments, and I may have to again in the future. We all get “steamed” sometimes; and forget people do notice our behavior. :okpeople: I’m stepping off the soap box.

Anna
 
I can honestly agree with every shread of this post, Anna. Absolutely. The apologetics from some people in CAF have done more to make me want to run from Catholicism than toward it. Most of the self-described “hardcore” or “industrial strength” or “fanatical” or “no ifs, ands, or buts” Catholics in here have seriously given me pause about Catholicism. The only solace I take is that their extreme fundamentalist views are not necessarily the majority and I don’t have to please them to be a Catholic. But honestly I agree with you a great deal that the tone and tenor of the papacy/infallibility threads are just knock-down, drag-out nasty at times. I’m also discouraged when I hear, “the reason you (not necessarily me but other posters) left the Church is pure PRIDE!” or they say, “obviously you’re not well-catechized or informed or you wouldn’t have left!” I have heard the term “cafeteria Catholic” enough times to make my head spin. It’s become way too cliche in here! I have also heard people say to other posters “obviously you haven’t cultivated the interior spiritual life!” as if anyone can know the inner spirituality of another?

I think a lot of the arguments are not compelling and people who are too much into full-on apologetics mode are not willing to understand WHY the other side might feel the way they do. They get caught up in “I see the light, why can’t you?!”

At you’re right, Anna; I’ve heard a heck of a lot of anti-Catholic nonsense as well, most of whom usually get banned pretty quickly. I’ve been on other forums and boy there are some nasty anti-Catholics out there! I’ve heard Anglicans say “Catholics are all bloody well brainwashed” and it just makes me sick!

Despite these weaknesses and the hardcores, CAF I believe is the BEST online forum there is, period. I really like most of the people, the format, the options, the size, and the vast majority of folks in here are VERY intelligent, good theologians, good debators, and nice folks in general, yourself definitely included! :)👍
To all of this - I completely agree.

I defend any Christian based religion (for the limited knowledge I have of them) and do not think they are “wrong”.

I’ve stated that belief before and have been told I shouldn’t think that way and that I am wrong for doing so. Additionally - not to call nor consider myself Catholic. 🤷

That being said, I get an awful lot from CAF and enjoy it so - if some posters would prefer to not think of me as Catholic - let it be.

Extremists (not be confused with logical, well educated people) on any topic - including religion is dangerous. It’s what was the root cause of 9/11. Islam did not bring down the Trade Centers - extremists did.

Peace.
 
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