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I really hope that it is as you are describing it. Young seminarians want so much to be honest with Mother Church, but in a safe environment. If they thought at any moment they would be judged based on who they were, they would feel threatened indeed. Living a life in quiet-desperation is sad. Especially young men. They want so much to know that they are good, loved by God and the Church.
A young man who has as his foremost thoughts, the work of Christ and his Church, has nothing to “fear.” OTOH, a man with sex and sexuality on his mind from the get-go, has no right to feel that (a least currently) the priesthood is a “safe” place to embark on sexual self-identification, let alone activity. As I’ve said elsewhere on CAF, no straight man or woman that I know thinks of his/her identity as “straight.” This is a peculiarity of the gay culture. For purposes of the priesthood, the “safe” identities are Catholic + male + aspiring seminarian.
If straight seminarians come in focused on girls, dating, marriage, sex, and human fatherhood, they will similarly be rejected.
If you have no intention of acting on your sexuality while in the seminary or priesthood, how you identify your own orientation should be a non-issue, and I would hope that this has not changed since Benedict’s statements. If you’re focused on your sexuality for any reason, the priesthood is not for you. You need to be prepared to be a sexual ascetic while there. What other reason could there be to discuss & identify your sexuality, unless to act on it? If it’s a matter of working out an identity, there are psychologists for that; you can obtain those out of the priesthood. The seminary or priesthood is not an extended sexual counseling session.
Way too many men have in the last 10 years been using (abusing) seminary & priesthood as a “coming out” resource. Imagine if a straight priest did that: ''discovered" his overpowering attraction for females and made it Issue #1 with other straight priests: had group sessions to discuss it, developed straight cliques in the priesthood, hung out with straight lay people “to get a feeling for what it’s like to be straight,” etc.
When I said that I hoped things hadn’t changed, again I meant from the point of view of ascetism. Your sexuality is neutralized in the priesthood. (LOL, before you grab your genitals, I don’t mean eunuchs!) I mean that you shouldn’t be concerned with announcing to the world that you’re gay or straight, because
all of it is a non-issue. The Church is not trying to “find you out” (uncloset you); they’re trying to find out if you’re not inclined toward ascetism. If you feel compelled to talk about sexuality, you’re either not inclined toward ascetism, or you need a psychologist first. I believe what they mean by “deep-seated tendencies” is someone who identifies so strongly as a homosexual that it is inevitable, in a closed, all-male environment, that temptations will arise, frustrate, and eventually be yielded to.
I know some gay and apparently gay priests, as well as many more straight ones. Only one of the apparently gay priests seems to be one who has, I believe, never broken his vows. He is one of the holiest men I have ever known, so Christ-like, & extremely popular with both genders. But I just know in my gut he has remained celibate. All the others talk about lovers, or have had lovers. Since he has never in word or action made sexuality an issue, I would hope the Church wouldn’t have done so when he entered seminary! But I can also promise you that he didn’t come into the seminary talking about being gay!