I was born in the mid-1950s and the average number of kids in my neighborhood was two. My mother not only looked good dressed up, she could also mix cement, do a little carpentry and paint the house. I never once experienced the women should be “submissive” idea until the 1970s when women were threatening to burn their bras (as it turns out, men were the primary designers of ladies’ undergarments). They wanted to burn them because they represented a sign of their “oppression” by men.
I’ve never seen any logical, rational argument that the Church discriminates against anyone. And if women think that all men are the enemy - and the radical feminists were calling for the downfall of the patriarchy, which included the Church - then the easy answer is stay away from men.
The radicals feminists’ job was to sow the seeds of discontent. Women, referred to as Sisters, had to “Throw off the chains of their oppression!” I was there for this. They agitated for a radical departure from a family model that worked. All the moms in my neighborhood were stay at home moms. They created fictional pictures of women living lives of drudgery, cooking and cleaning and raising the kids while the man did virtually nothing. (My dad worked hard 5 and a half days a week and he helped out as necessary.)
That was pure 100% baloney. All the moms I knew had something that many no longer have now: neighbors who cared about them, friends who cared about them, and in-laws and relatives. Our Catholic Community included our friends and neighbors involved in our lives, and visiting with each other.
The radical feminists wanted radical separation and nothing less than the destruction of the family under the smokescreen of what was complete fiction for most women in the early 1960s:
- All men cheat.
- He’ll dump you for another woman one day and leave you with the kids.
- Be afraid. Be very afraid.
Guess what? Divorce was rare. Abortion was not legal. The Pill was not yet in widespread circulation. And if a woman was “dumped,” she had her own family and/or relatives to help her through, kids or no kids.
So women capitulated to the “true” voice of all women and got their marching orders:
- Get out of the house and get a career.
- Forget about trust - get a contract - a pre-nuptial argreement.
- If there’s any kids, put them in day care.
- Gradually, it became, Once they turn 18, kick those kids out of the house.
- And there was also a movement to get teenagers “emancipated” from their parents.
In the 1960s, you dated, then you might go steady, followed by courtship where both families got to know each other, followed by engagement.** And it was necessary to go her Dad, who had been your age once and knew
exactly** what you were feeling, and he would cut through the hormones and ask the following:
How are you going to support my daughter? Where do you plan on living? Have you talked about having kids? And all the other practical questions. I went through it, though things did not work out.
The Church, as it is written in the Bible, teaches: husbands love your wives, wives love your husbands. Marriage was always taught to be a partnership. Did women who had moms and likely friends who were married, need the National Organization for Women to dictate anything to them? To create false fear? To make them feel trapped and to demonize having children? Abortion became law because of lies and deception. That story is just coming out.
If anyone sincerely believes that a man they want to marry will force them to be submissive, end the relationship. Women didn’t become “smarter” because of a group of radicals. My mother worked outside the home until a few months before I was born, and paid cash for our house. They were both refugees and had 6th and 7th grade educations. Guess what? They did alright. They had a boy and a girl, and a dog. Something that a small group of sometimes vicious radicals hated with a passion.
Let me be clear. We had crime and all the rest, but we did not lock our doors at night. Neighbors watched out for other neighbors, included the neighborhood kids. NO, it was not perfect, but it was without doubt, much better than what male-female relationships are today. And you got married for life.
Peace,
Ed