Pray for porn stars

[RolandThompsonGunner]

My comment “what’s normal?” was aimed at the suggestion that porn stars were basically all crazy or mentally messed up. No, I happen to think think many of them are just greedy or lack a proper moral compass.

Whether it’s actually mentally abnormal, I wouldn’t know.

To be clear, I didn’t mean mentally abnormal the way that, like, schizophrenia is mentally abnormal. I don’t think people who do porn are “crazy” in that sense. I mean that if you dig beneath the surface I suspect a lot of them (not literally all, perhaps, but a disproportionate amount) probably came from environments where they didn’t have healthy relationships with men. There’s probably a disproportionate number who came from chaotic families of origin (single mom, rotating cast of loser boyfriends, etc.) I’m not saying they’re “crazy”; I’m saying negative influences in their past might lead them down this path as adults.

For example, I remember seeing a study that a disproportionate number (again, not literally 100%) of women who worked as strippers had been sexually molested when they were younger, or just lacked a father figure. Maybe it’s not dispositive, but it seems likely that it factors in.

And I should make it clear that I’m very much a layman when it comes to psychology so I’m just repeating things I’ve read in passing.

 

[DeSales111]

There is nothing wrong with judging their actions harshly, of course the action of porn needs to be judged that way, it destroys lives in every way. I speak of not TREATING them harshly, as in degrading them and scorning them with anger. There was a time in my life when I didn’t think porn was wrong, let’s say from age 13 to about 40 something. It was because I did not know Christ then, my understanding of porn was blinded and distorted. I can tell you with all certainty that if anyone would have treated me harshly and scolded me with anger I would have rebelled even more. We must offer Christ to those caught up in the world of porn, not build a wall that shuts them out.

One more way to explain my thoughts. After my conversion I caught myself unintentionally feeling holier than thou. I looked down on others living in sin. Then after feeding an entire homeless camp for 2 years I had a different point of view. I could have scolded and treated the drug addicts and prostitutes of that camp harshly, but with the love of Christ in my heart I put my arms around them and saw through the hateful things Satan had done to them by traping them or lurering them in by promises of pleasure. I earned their respect and they trusted me, every one of them opened up to me and poured their hearts out to me about what went wrong in their life. I then saw each and everyone of them as a 5 year old innocent child, as they were before Satan did any damage.

So yes, I will tell a porn star she is beautiful, I will put a blanket around her, I will hold open a door for her, I will treat her with the same sweetness and gentleness as I would my mother, my wife, and Blessed Mary. I will not give her a lecture, shun her, tell her she is a tramp etc. Jesus could have thrown the first stone at the woman who committed adultery, but you see, He didnt, instead He offered her another chance and never degraded her by lashing out at her for her previous actions.

That’s why I hate porn, and Satan, but yet I can find a way to love those caught up in it. Christ is their ONLY way out, and if they can’t get out, He is still the ONLY light they will ever see. May God give us the wisdom, the courage, and the love line to rescue as many as we can.