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Melissa
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I have recently entered a most difficult period in my life, and it is going to be quite a struggle while we are getting through the situation.
My marriage is over. Not legally, yet; but it is over.
On the 28th of April, my husband was arrested for 1st degree rape and 1st degree sexual abuse. Based on my knowledge of him and the conversations (3 phone calls) while he was in jail, I have no doubt of his guilt in the matter. (The legal system may be required to consider him innocent at the moment, I am not so required.) He is currently out of jail because the preliminary hearing failed, although the case is soon to be presented to the grand jury (and upon indictment he will return to jail). I have an order of protection against him, and am having some significant financial difficulties (and he has done everything he can to make my situation worse … but that will just look all the worse for him when he gets in front of the judge). During the marriage, he was verbally and emotionally abusive towards me, such that the detective who notified me of the arrest and charges actually referred me to the domestic abuse organization here (they run a shelter as well as a number of counseling programs). I fear that if he were to be where I am that he would tip over into physical violence against me.
I do intend to divorce and move, with the children, to another state where there is a house (paid for) available to me, as well as a job that I can support them with. But I have a long legal slog to get there.
My marriage is over. Not legally, yet; but it is over.
On the 28th of April, my husband was arrested for 1st degree rape and 1st degree sexual abuse. Based on my knowledge of him and the conversations (3 phone calls) while he was in jail, I have no doubt of his guilt in the matter. (The legal system may be required to consider him innocent at the moment, I am not so required.) He is currently out of jail because the preliminary hearing failed, although the case is soon to be presented to the grand jury (and upon indictment he will return to jail). I have an order of protection against him, and am having some significant financial difficulties (and he has done everything he can to make my situation worse … but that will just look all the worse for him when he gets in front of the judge). During the marriage, he was verbally and emotionally abusive towards me, such that the detective who notified me of the arrest and charges actually referred me to the domestic abuse organization here (they run a shelter as well as a number of counseling programs). I fear that if he were to be where I am that he would tip over into physical violence against me.
I do intend to divorce and move, with the children, to another state where there is a house (paid for) available to me, as well as a job that I can support them with. But I have a long legal slog to get there.

