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Denise1957
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I do not judge this priest as handling the situation poorly. We don’t know all the details. I heard about it second-hand from two people. It’s easy to say what the priest ‘should’ have done. But we are not priests. You believe that it’s poor pastoral practice to pass the person up, but it should also be remembered that the priest is giving the Body of our Lord in the Holy Eucharist. He must act prudently because of this fact.Actually, this is another example of two things happening that should not happen.
I remember a case where a young man attended mass at our novitiate. During the Eucharistic prayer he stayed at his seat. I believe he knelt. This was several years ago. In any case, the brothers were all standing around the altar, as has been our custom for conventual masses for 800 years. After the mass, one of the novices asked him why he did not join the brothers. He said that he did not know that he was allowed to do so. He was used to the OF where people stay put. We all felt badly, because no one signaled him to join us. We just assumed that because we knew the appropriate thing to do, everyone who entered our chapel knew. Wrong assumption!
- The priest handled the situation poorly. Anyone who has been through the seminary knows that we never assume that people know what to do when something is new. The EF is new to most Catholics. There are other options here. The priest can simply ask the person to kneel and put out his tongue. If he feels that this may be distracting, he can proceed to give him communion in the hand and say, “See me after mass.” Then you explain the rules. This happens all the time to people who travel to different places. They may go to another diocese or may enter mass at a religious house that uses another form. They simply don’t know that they must do something like kneel. The person may be thinking that he has a choice here as well. Walking past the person without saying a word is poor pastoral practice.
I was not there, so I don’t know. If the priest had said, “Please kneel,” and the man had refused, then the priest has to make a judgment call as to whether the man is properly disposed for Holy Communion. He may not be a Catholic, for all the priest knows. At least the priest took some pastoral step in the right direction. The rule, when giving out Holy Communion is that you never deny anyone Holy Communion, unless you have a reason to believe that there is something wrong (not a Catholic, a public sinner whom the bishop has asked not to receive, a child that is too young to have made his Holy Communion, drinking, etc).
- That being said, the man was completely out of order. If I’m understanding this, to have to be escorted out, you must really be making a scene, not just mumbling under your breadth. What the man did was escalate the situation instead of help it. I’m sure that Father never expected this reaction either. The angry man may not have been well wrapped. Even when you don’t know what to do, you may be chagrined for a moment, but you don’t cause such a scene that you are booted out.
However, I close with the same comment as I did in the Italian case. The fact that the priest was not quick on his feet is no justification for such behavior. People need to learn that we don’t throw tantrums and become verbally and physically aggressive, because we don’t get what we want. Unfortunately, we’re living in a world that teaches entitlement. Entitlement is a slippery slope. When people are not well wrapped and they feel entitled, beware.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF![]()