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water
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what is “his flat”? 
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Voco_proTatiano
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Sorry, I did not mean to imply that he had possessions. It was just a lazy way of refering to the flat he was occupying.what is “his flat”?
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Siena
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an apartment.what is “his flat”?
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lizaanne
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Hold the phone there kellie - that’s a leap and you know it. We have no idea what’s going on there.
~Liza
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Island_Oak
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It appears his superiors are aware of this situation and do not share your concerns–especially since they appointed this woman to be a spiritual director for your parish. She may be an integral part of how he manages his various duties to the parish. Is this all that different from an executive who brings his administrative assistant with him into a new position/company? At this point, M.Y.O.B. and at all costs refrain from gossiping about this with other parishoners.
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Voco_proTatiano
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I could not agree more.
There is too much unhealthy concern with other peoples sexual matters. and not enough concern for loving charity.
People should spend more time reading the Gospels, and less time using the epistles to sit in judgement.
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MrS
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Why not just go and visit your priest, and welcome him to the parish…
if there is a rectory, ask him what is wrong with it.
he is married to the Church, afterall… so…
if the situation arises, ask him about the “other woman”
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if there is a rectory, ask him what is wrong with it.
he is married to the Church, afterall… so…
if the situation arises, ask him about the “other woman”
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johnpaul2_fan
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I think that the best thing to do is to start praying (a lot) for him. 
Truly if all Catholic lay people dedicated themselves to praying for their priests we would have a lot less to worry about.
All of our priests really need our prayers, more than we can imagine!
Truly if all Catholic lay people dedicated themselves to praying for their priests we would have a lot less to worry about.All of our priests really need our prayers, more than we can imagine!
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billkennedy2000
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We are not suppose to act in ways that would bring scandal to our Church. While a priest maybe be able to live with a lady in the same flat and keep his vow of chasity, it would cause people to gossip. It’s not our place to judge others but if someone asked my opinion of this situation I would tell them it is a bad idea to bring scandal on our Church.
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water
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Ohhh, thank you. hmm, I’ve found it is very odd for a priest to share an apartment with a lady. I never heard of this before.
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kellie
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Meaning she is free to date, not meaning she was having sex with the priest, but free from the boundsof chastity associated with being a nun.
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Abira
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I have known protestant vicars who live with lodgers for a time - people who travel in christian bands or youth groups etc.
I have never had a problem with this. Until I thought that any relationship was sexual I don’t understand what the problem is.
I’d also consider the point that for anything to appear sinful or cause scandal…it needs people who view the situation as sinful or scandelous and so speculation and gossip are half the problem.
I would trust in the priest until he proved me wrong. I think it’s completely possible to have friendship that is not sexual. Would anyone be commenting on monks and nuns who live together? I think that sometimes it’s nice to have someone around when you live alone.
I have never had a problem with this. Until I thought that any relationship was sexual I don’t understand what the problem is.
I’d also consider the point that for anything to appear sinful or cause scandal…it needs people who view the situation as sinful or scandelous and so speculation and gossip are half the problem.
I would trust in the priest until he proved me wrong. I think it’s completely possible to have friendship that is not sexual. Would anyone be commenting on monks and nuns who live together? I think that sometimes it’s nice to have someone around when you live alone.
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lizaanne
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billkennedy2000
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Are we not taught to avoid the near occasion of sin? There is nothing wrong with a man and woman living together as brother and sister.
By the actions of this priest he is setting an example for his parishoners that it is ok to put yourself in a situation that could cause sin.
Some are called to lead by example, remember Luke 12:48 “…And to whomsoever much is given, of him shall much be required…”
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kellie
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I agree with this post.
My concern is to why this priest feels the need to bring this spiritual director with him when he moves parishes.
And why she feels it’s ok to get a free ride so to speak with the accommodation.
Unless of course she is paying rent.
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kellie
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Sorry, I don’t know how to word my thoughts some timesOk - now I know what you mean -
~Liza
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Joe_Kelley
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Do you know of such a situation? It has been my impression that they observe a very strict separation in separate monasteries.
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Abira
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sorry Joe… I meant to say that for me, I have trust in people vows. I trust that monks (living with monks) and nuns (living with nuns) are not sexually attracted to eachother and can live with companionship… In the same way I believe a man and a woman can live with companionship and friendship in some situations. They don’t create the scandal… those who gossip do that.
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beckers
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MAybe he converted from a different rite and has a wife? Or maybe he needs assistance or maybe it’s no one’s business. If you have a problem ask him or the diocese. But please don’t assume anything or start spreading rumors. Rumors can ruin people’s reputation and that is hard or impossible to fix.
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Sixtus
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This promises to be the bigots busmans holiday. What a brillian topic.
Why should a priest not share a flat with whomsoever he choses?
Not all are called to sins of the flesh.
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