What is common right now is that few people ever get to know their pastor or their pastor get to know them. And this is accepted as “ok”, even a good thing. It boggles my mind. The typical kid who graduates from high school who is a member of a family that attends mass every week has never had a priest visit his home for dinner, has no idea what priests are like. Indeed, they think priests are kind of weird. I know, I have taught teenagers CCD enough to learn this. And we wonder why vocations are down.
We had a pastor for something like 25 years, and there were a goodly number of parishioners who never “got to know him” - it was a sizable parish, and if you only show up on Sunday, walk out the door after Mass and don’t show up for another 7 days, it is more than a bit hard to “get to know” someone - for either side. I live near a parish of three thousand families (not people - families). In a parish with 400 families, there are going to be a number who would not think of inviting the priest to dinner.
And by the way, prior to my entering college, my parents had a priest over for dinner probably 8 or 10 times a year; maybe once the pastor, and never the assistant priests. we happened to know a lot of priests, including at least 3 who were relatives.
Vocations are down because the world, and all too many Catholics, are secularized. Having the priest over for dinner would make about zero impact on the issue of vocations; and the larger the parish, the less impact, if it is possible to go into negative numbers.
Everyone seems to have an opinion on how we could increase vocations. I would suggest that a parish with 24 hour perpetual adoration is more likely to accomplish that than having Father for dinner, and I base that on the parish I was in for @ 25 or more years: 3 priests, 2 deacons, one deacon candidate, 2 seminarians, and 2 women professed to orders of sisters. The pastor went to few homes for dinner.
The parish is only a microcosm of the Church; and the priest is not ordained to only a parish; he is ordained to the diocese. As to how long he stays in a parish, some can do so to the benefit of the parish, and many are benefited by being moved periodically, as there is seldom a parish of “one mind”. Cliques are in parishes just as much as anywhere else in life, and frankly, if I were a priest, I would welcome being able to start afresh after a move; putting up with the insidiousness of the petty politics which seem to be in every parish I have ever had significant contact with would drive a sane person bonkers.