-OB/GYN professionals ridicule us when we dare to bring up the Natural Family Planning method. They are laughing at us, treating us like dummies.
I don’t know
why but the only physicians, including OB/GYNs who really know NFP are the fertility doctors. It’s a shame really.
-OB/GYN professionals push contraception and abortion on us. They especially push contraception on us 6 weeks after we have given birth to a baby
I know that a lot of people say this, and again, I don’t know why doctors do that. But I personally have never had doctors who have pushed contraception on me. I’ve had them offer for a medical reason, but they were totally fine with me not wanting contraceptives.
-We have to write a “birth plan” stating the procedures and meds that we refuse to receive during and after labor (I want a natural birth experience, no induced labor, no drugs). oh and yes if we go into labor early , we want them to resuscitate our baby if not breathing thank you (this is not to be taken for granted).
That has to do with malpractice and insurance issues. OB/GYNs have the HIGHEST malpractice insurance rates and they are the largest users of them. Many doctors have left their practice for other states, or even other areas of medicine due to the high malpraactice insurance. However, it’s a good idea anyway to do these things anyway. You want to always make your wishes known. However, when you do actually do these things (make your lists, make your needs known), I would have extremely high expectations of my caregivers. In other words, if they ask you to make these choices, they darned well honor your wishes and deliver what you choose.
-I had to change OB/GYN doctors 3 times because they are all pro contraception/ pro
It’s not unusual to doctor shop. Just keep doing it until you find what you’re looking for.
-The doc I have now is anti abortion but pro contraception (which I understand, it is such a lucrative business).** I don’t trust him 100% because on my last pregnancy, he wanted to induce the labor before term against my will and for no medical reason. I was not sure if the vaginal exam wasn’t an inducing procedure (sweeping of the membranes as it is called). **Please note that most induced labors end up in a C-section. Docs don’t cash much money with natural birth.
This is exactly why the woman’s right to consent or refuse treatment is soooo important and I fight for it. I don’t trust your doctor 2% if you in any way at all think he violated your rights. And I wouldn’t go back. And it’s always a good idea to bring someone with you to your doctor’s office especially when you’re pregnant and planning a birth.
Sorry, I know you’ll disagree with me and that’s okay. But I don’t give a rat’s petutie whether my doctor is pro-life or pro-choice, or whether or not they like contraceptives. What matters to me is if they honor MY wishes and do what I want in my case. If they are capable of being impartial and will do what I want, I don’t care what they think because I have to trust that they will honor my wishes. As healthcare providers they MUST be able to set aside their personal feelings and biases and deliver the care their patient requires. I won’t have a doctor that I can’t trust to do just that.
A few questions:
Is there a silent population control agenda in this country? Is there an eugenic agenda? I am not the kind of “conspiracy theory” person but I have/know of so many experiences of this kind that I can’t help but wonder. Why do I feel discriminated against? Shouldn’t I be able to trust my doctor when I entrust him with my fertility, my health, the health of my babies?
I don’t think those agendas exist. I think that there are insurance and malpractice issues that the doctors are dealing with. You need to sign waivers for those tests because the general public wants them, and requires them and the doctors can get in trouble if they don’t provide them. Doctor have to educate you about these tests and educate you about your options — this is different that pushing them. Doctors have to be very careful that they have disclosed all the information and have gotten consent or refusal from you.
Personally, I think you feel discriminated against because you’re unable to find a strong advocate for you. You need to find a doctor or a nurse that will fight for you to the death
and honor your wishes whether they agree with your opinions or not. And yes, they exist. However, they are still responsible for full disclosure. So rather than get upset about what they’re trying to disclose, I’d just calmly say, “no, that’s not what I want, I want this” etc.
And yes, you absolutely have to trust your doctors and nurses. Keep looking until you do. But my advise to you is that it is more important to find someone who is willing to honor your wishes despite having a different opinion that you, rather than trying to find a match to your views. Sorry, but I’ve never found IRL the scrupulosity that I have found on online forums and you might find one if you look hard enough, but IMOHO it’s more important to find someone who understand your needs and who will comply with your wishes. They are out there. It’s their job.
, but Jesus Christ, through His Church, moves beyond the lines of political affiliation. You can believe what you want, but the conservative and liberal sides have their large share of flaws and corruption so, Jesus would not agree with you on this one.