Excuse me, but I offered condolence as well as an opinion different from that of the OP on the subject of publishing an obituary, not criticism, insult, rebuke or anything even approaching rudeness, much less “unspeakable” rudeness. You are way out of line writing what your did.How unspeakably rude.
You are not excused. I find it unbelievable that you can justify posting some ‘statistic’ about how 1/3 of all pregnancies are lost during the first trimester and suggest that her grief should then be conducted privately. Why does a full term baby who dies after labor and delivery deserve an obituary but not a baby who dies earlier in the womb? You are entitled to your opinion but I can’t fathom posting a death stat to a woman who has lost a child and intending her to receive any comfort by pointing out that many others have died in similar circumstances and gone unremarked. Yes, I find that unspeakably rude.Excuse me, but I offered condolence as well as an opinion different from that of the OP on the subject of publishing an obituary, not criticism, insult, rebuke or anything even approaching rudeness, much less “unspeakable” rudeness. You are way out of line writing what your did.
I believe you just missed my point. If my Mother Died, I would put her obituary in the paper. Is Joseph any less a person than my Mother? I know that many pegenacies end in miscarriage. I am not sure the exact number. My point is that we are Catholic and we are to believe that life begins at conception, so my childs life began and what life is not worth celebrating?Excuse me, but I offered condolence as well as an opinion different from that of the OP on the subject of publishing an obituary, not criticism, insult, rebuke or anything even approaching rudeness, much less “unspeakable” rudeness. You are way out of line writing what your did.
When I miscarried, my doctor said that 1 in 5 pregnancies ends with a miscarriage.I am sorry for the loss you expereinced. But this response strikes me as unusual. Is it not the case that an estimated 1/3 of all pregnancies terminate through miscarriage in the first trimester? There are apparently many blighted pregnancies which never survive until term for any number of known and unknown reasons. I am not suggesting that you are not disappointed or grieving. I’m just wondering whether this is something to make the subject of public grief or a more private and intimate matter.
I am wondering if you tried to post the obituary in the paper my friend did this and it was printed. It was very nice.I believe you just missed my point. If my Mother Died, I would put her obituary in the paper. Is Joseph any less a person than my Mother? I know that many pegenacies end in miscarriage. I am not sure the exact number. My point is that we are Catholic and we are to believe that life begins at conception, so my childs life began and what life is not worth celebrating?
I am sure your comment was not ment to hurt my feelings. I know that you simply had an opinion and felt you should share. I am thankful for you condolences.
I haven’t posted it in our local paper. So many people wouldn’t understand and it would be hard to explain it face to face at this time. I mostly want to spread a prolife message. If I posted it in my local paper I think people would think it was all about recieving simpathy. I want my children’s lives to point to Jesus to show how wonderful a gift he gives.I am wondering if you tried to post the obituary in the paper my friend did this and it was printed. It was very nice.
I agree. How many thousands of parents die every year? Are you, Island Oak, advocating telling grieving adult children they should carry out their grief in quiet because it just “happens”? After all, their parents grow old and death just happens eventually.You are not excused. I find it unbelievable that you can justify posting some ‘statistic’ about how 1/3 of all pregnancies are lost during the first trimester and suggest that her grief should then be conducted privately. Why does a full term baby who dies after labor and delivery deserve an obituary but not a baby who dies earlier in the womb? You are entitled to your opinion but I can’t fathom posting a death stat to a woman who has lost a child and intending her to receive any comfort by pointing out that many others have died in similar circumstances and gone unremarked. Yes, I find that unspeakably rude.
That is a beautiful memorial for your child. And I think it is important for you and others who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth and abortion to remember these children (as they feel called) with something like this. It can be healing for you and it allows others, like those reading this thread, to cry with you and say a prayer.I have struggled with the sorrow of my son’s death. It seems that society just waves away the importance of life. My child has died and it seems that his very existances is denied. I believe that God gave me a special gift, a son. God created my son for a special reason. I may not fully understand that reason right now, but I believe his life is worth celebrating and sharing. I would like to encourage others to create obituaries for their unborn children. We believe life begins at conception so let us not let these children die without recognizing their importance, thier purpose. Don’t let society believe these children are not alive or precious. They exist from conception and they are our sons and daughters. I held my son after giving birth to him. He fit in the palm of my hand. I washed his little body and kissed his tiny head good-bye.
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Good idea… that sounds like the perfect place.I have been praying about where exactly to have Joseph’s obit, if at all. I think I shall try to have it put in our Church bulliten. They always put a little something in their for the others who have passed away. Actually they put something in there about my daughter who was stillborn at 31 weeks. For some reason they didn’t mention Joseph. Thank you for the encouragement.
Some how if we can reach people with our children’s stories, people would realize that life does begin at conception. I am so sorry you were never allowed to grieve for your children. They are your children. you should be proud to have two little Saints in heaven interceeding for you.In my heart of hearts, DW and I lost two children. In my heart of hearts, I grieve - 25 years later. I know I will meet them one day but Lord, excuse me y’all for saying this, you women can be so pragmatic - DW, MIL, and my own mother. Those werent’ miscarriages, those were my two children.