Xenon-135:
Ahimsaman,
Thre is no jest here. Such matters have always been a cross for me to bear as well as anger, lust, and hate.
You can take a family outta the Highland, but you can’t really take the Highland out of them. I don’t exactly like having such reactive inclinations; it often results in ways that I had rather it not. This is why I don’t own a handgun. I would rather apply a minor amount of sensibile restraint than a maximum amount of prision sentence.
Dear Xenon-135,
I suppose voodoo is out of the question? (just kidding)
OK, kidding’s over.
First, I really liked jmm08’s response in post #33.
Second, here are a couple techniques you might consider, more psychological than spiritual…
As far as anger, I felt angry for a long time to people who thought they were right and I was wrong, and treated me like dirt. I was actually right, as time revealed, but of course there is no way to get “I told you so points” out of them. Once I uncovered a book I had, “2000 insults for all occasions” and started looking up insults that might apply to them and making a list. (Example: he’s the type of guy who would throw a drowning man both ends of the rope.) After I got some seriously exaggerated insults listed, I wrote a very cynical letter to them, trashing them beyond belief. Then I looked back at the insults again and begun to get amused by it all. I shredded the letter and the list of insults. After that, I had fed my desire for control over them, as I felt like I had some mastery over them even though I would likely never communicate that to them.
Another technique I saw used in a Catholic Charities counseling center for a child who had anger problems was to draw a picture of the thing she was angry at and hang it on the wall. She then proceeded to fling wet facial tissues at the picture as hard as she could. It was a lot of fun, and gave her a method to relieve her stress.
Neither method corrected the misunderstanding or “fixed” the other person, but both provided a safe outlet for anger and eventually led to more control over future anger.
Come to think of it, maybe those techniques are a bit like voodoo?
Anyway, take it for what it’s worth. It’s best to learn not to be angry at all, but these methods have both led toward less anger, acceptance, and an ability for me and the child to face those people who were making us angry.
Alan