Qualities for a husband I have come up with.. :)

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LilyElain said:
This reminds me of my days at Franciscan…the young freshman women would form crushes on a very nice Catholic boy…such a good Catholic man!
Then the first Friday of the month the Living Stones Pre-Seminarians would wear their shirts…so many crestfallen faces on that day! 😃
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That’s why I think that the good looking men should not become priests (except I want a nerdy looking guy myself). Leave some for the single ladies God, lol. There was a priest in my hometown who was soooo cute, even my former roommate (who was sooo not Catholic), would go to Mass, but would leave if he wasn’t saying Mass. She called him “Father-What-A-Waste”. :rotfl: There were many times she embarrassed me at Mass.
 
CountrySinger said:
That’s why I think that the good looking men should not become priests (except I want a nerdy looking guy myself). Leave some for the single ladies God, lol. There was a priest in my hometown who was soooo cute, even my former roommate (who was sooo not Catholic), would go to Mass, but would leave if he wasn’t saying Mass. She called him “Father-What-A-Waste”. :rotfl: There were many times she embarrassed me at Mass.
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:eek: Yikes…awkward!! There were a couple of those lovely priests around campus…but they were so good at their vocation, that we could never begrudge God his choices! 🙂
 
LilyElain said:
:eek: Yikes…awkward!! There were a couple of those lovely priests around campus…but they were so good at their vocation, that we could never begrudge God his choices! 🙂
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I loved my roommate, I’m thinking her outbursts were preparing me for if I have kids, and their tendency to say embarrassing things really loud. 😃 We had a priest at my college campus that used to be a gourmet chef before he became a priest. sigh And the guys I know think yelling “Nice (rude word for chest)!” is a compliment. :rolleyes:
 
Careful there ladies, or you will end up with exactly what you have on your lists. 😦

Don’t forget to put on your list:

(at the top) - Loves God above all things - yet still has room in his heart for me a close second!

Has strengths to compliment my weaknesses; has weaknesses that my strengths compliment
(ie - list weaknesses too, yours and his, or you’ll never find the ‘right’ guy).

God is more than happy to assist in providing a match when you keep these at the top of your list . . . 😉
 
loves god

truly loves me!

practicing catholic

wants a good family

not addicted to porn and at all costs flees from it

not abusive in any way

is that too much?

and pushes me closer to christ
 
spirit4life said:
Careful there ladies, or you will end up with exactly what you have on your lists. 😦

Don’t forget to put on your list:

(at the top) - Loves God above all things - yet still has room in his heart for me a close second!

Has strengths to compliment my weaknesses; has weaknesses that my strengths compliment
(ie - list weaknesses too, yours and his, or you’ll never find the ‘right’ guy).

God is more than happy to assist in providing a match when you keep these at the top of your list . . . 😉
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Ummm… I believe practicing Catholic was at the top of a lot of our lists, which would, I suppose, add the assumption that he loves God…:confused:
…and I hope I do end up with my list…he seems lovely to me! 🙂
 
tee_eff_em said:
Sorry to break it to all you ladies, but:

The bride ❤️ has already claimed me – I am most definitely off the market. :thankyou:

She wishes “Best of Luck” to all of those picking over her leavings 😛
tee
:rotfl:
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Ditto

All these ladies need to do is invent a time machine and many of their problems would go away.
 
royal_archer said:
Ditto

All these ladies need to do is invent a time machine and many of their problems would go away.
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If I made a time machine, I would so invest in stocks, and enter the lottery. I wouldn’t need a man if I were a multi-millionaire. 😛
 
All these husband and wife lists remind of the Seinfeld episode “The Race” when George opens the Daily Worker that Elaine’s communist boyfriend has. He reads the personals and an ad from a woman says “appearances not important” (George is bald and insecure because of it). He then says “Finally, this is an ideology I can believe in”. :D:D:D
 
My list…

Catholic or Christian (But Catholic friendly)

Intelligent and actually has an opinion on things. We don’t have to always agree, but if a man can debate me (Without it unraveling into an argument) and make me think about things totally wins in my book

Funny. My mother always told me to find a man who makes me laugh. And she is 100% right! I love to laugh, have written and performed my own stand up comedy and just am always generally cracking jokes. So if a man can make me laugh it’s the equivelant of the perfect physique for me.

Height. This one is debateable. I mean, I have never dated anyone shorter than me before…but my current crush is excactly my height and I’m only 5’3! But he has everything else I’m looking for so it doesn’t matter.

Compassionate

Loves his family and wants a family of his own someday. (Wife, kids, a house, in laws and a dog)

Is responsible and down to earth. Can take care of things, the good, bad and just plain odd. (I have two severely autistic siblings…sometimes I have to deal with odd things. I need a man who is okay with “different”)

Masculine. Not in the “Ogg club things” type of way, but in the way that he knows how to treat a woman.

Loves the great outdoors…camping, and hiking or even just nature walking.

Is passionate about something. I’m passionate about things, (God, photography, writing, nature, martial arts) and I frankly don’t understand people who aren’t.

Oh and I want a man who takes care of his shoes. My 102 year old great grandmother always told my mother and grandmother and me…“If your man cannot take care of his shoes, how can you expect him to take care of you?”

Yeah my list is long…but I’m WORTH IT!
 
Jay82 said:
I think having an active and interesting life is only part of the relationship process. Based on personal experience, I am involved in numerous things which have me busy almost every night of the week. I have a very good career and have advanced way ahead of someone in their 20s, I have natural leadership qualities which are present at work and in my daily activities such as planning social and volunteer events, running sports teams, organizing trips (both leisure and for the sports teams to compete in tournaments), and I have a great group of close friends. That being said…the aforementioned qualities along with being very nice, very fit, etc attract women regularly…especially when they first meet me. However, once they get to know me a bit, despite the ‘interesting’ lifestyle they quickly realize I’m a nice and predictable guy they always know what to expect from. There is no ‘mystery’ for lack of a better term. As a result, they say I’m a great guy and they are so glad to have me as a friend. At which point they tell their other female friends about me and how they need to meet me, and soon after, the pattern continues.
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You sound attractive from the way you describe yourself. Out of curiosity, what kind of dates do you you generally go on with the women? Are they exciting, maybe scary (like skydiving together)?

I have been thinking about all this more, I guess a lot of attraction is subconscious so it’s hard to describe. But maybe you’re right, maybe “nice and predicable” is not exciting, or at least not exciting enough to raise heart rate and give chills. Maybe the women just aren’t looking for a long term relationship? It’s most exciting in the beginning, then new guys are more exciting.
 
LilyElain said:
Ummm… I believe practicing Catholic was at the top of a lot of our lists, which would, I suppose, add the assumption that he loves God…:confused:
…and I hope I do end up with my list…he seems lovely to me! 🙂
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He should only be so lucky. 🙂
 
chevalier said:
Jay, I can relate to your story. My qualities that attract women are different, they’re generally on the academic and social side, maybe with some no-nonsense traits I developed and some warrior-like ones that dad passed to me. I *am *able to pull off things like one only seems in films, but it always tends not to result in a relationship.
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I can’t say I pull things off that only seem to happen in films, but I can relate to appealing on academic side of things too despite the fact I didn’t mention it originally. I do guest lecturing/speaking at a big University and formally mentor college students. As a result, I have a strong network in that area, but the dating results tend to follow the same pattern as any other aspect of my life.
 
flyingfish said:
You sound attractive from the way you describe yourself. Out of curiosity, what kind of dates do you you generally go on with the women? Are they exciting, maybe scary (like skydiving together)?
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I don’t think I’ve gone on any ‘scary’ or ‘exhilarating’ dates. I generally do things like: dinner related stuff, sometimes an activity we can both participate in such as bowling/mini golf, happy hour, some professional sports games if she is into that, museums, I have also done hiking as well, etc.
flyingfish said:
I have been thinking about all this more, I guess a lot of attraction is subconscious so it’s hard to describe. But maybe you’re right, maybe “nice and predicable” is not exciting, or at least not exciting enough to raise heart rate and give chills. Maybe the women just aren’t looking for a long term relationship? It’s most exciting in the beginning, then new guys are more exciting.
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I think that a good portion of attraction is subconscious. I think we are all drawn to certain characteristics and part of that is based various things we have experienced throughout our life.
 
Jay82 said:
I think that a good portion of attraction is subconscious. I think we are all drawn to certain characteristics and part of that is based various things we have experienced throughout our life.
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I think in your case, or mine, the problem is on the subconscious side. This is not to denigrate the choice that goes not to my liking as supposedly not being a normal decision, but I think the factors are generally rooted in the subconscious.
 
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