That is interesting…I can’t believe a guy would actually say something like that.
Hey, that’s a very thoughtful point and one well-made. I generally try to convey that point in discussions in order not to promote the misconception that sex=bad according to Catholicism. I will sometimes go as far as saying I look forward very much to it but it has its proper place and that place is only in marriage. Well, sometimes I elaborate a bit more, but let’s not get there.
If I am not worth waiting for, then you are not worth knowing. If I am not good enough to marry , then you are not good enough for me. Your self esteem tends to take hits when people reject you for being nice or tell you other people are doing it and what not but you need to remember and keep telling yourself these little things to help make it through.
Actually gay. As in very open, “I like men, he’s so cute, etc, etc”. The other meaning he’s way uncomfortable around girls. If a guy isn’t confident, it’s a turn off. And if he seems uncomfortable around women, it makes me think he’s not comfortable in himself…which is a huge turn off, sorry guys.
Please do not take this the wrong way, as if I make any pretence to act old etc., but do be aware of the risk of falling for a guy whose main quality is lack of ability to notice need for change in his ways, in other words, someone who’s completely “syntonic”, meaning basically perfect self-affirmation. I’m not getting into what kind of guys you give chance in your age category, but I wouldn’t like you or any girl, for that matter, fall once again (like it happens every day) for the trap of wrongly perceived confidence (falling for what seems to be alpha qualities, ending up with a guy that mistreats them and they complain about it but can’t quit).
And many good men have turned bad at the hands of an ill tempered woman.
Uncomfortable with himself or uncomfortable in the environment? As was pointed out earlier, many of us are very comfortable with one environment but not another. I am not really attuned to shallower social interactions but tend to be very comfortable in with more intense or cerebral environments such as work, volunteer activities, and adult community and social organizations. Unfortunately, when I was single there were not many single women in those environments.
Both agreed.
Still being single, I would agree with the above statement. The last several volunteer efforts I participated in had a lot of women involved, but very few were single, if any at all. Most were there with their boyfriend/husband or already had a ring if their spouse was not there.
I’m in a field that’s about 90% men. I love it
(Sorry haha)So am I…unfortunately. (Well not 90%… but its mostly men)…thats what I get for being in the science/tech field.I’m in a field that’s about 90% men. I love it
There are usually less men at these events and alot of those that are there are either under 18 or over 50.
I was just speaking from my experience. The events I attend generally have a lot of participation from ‘young professionals’ (22-35 roughly). I have yet to see anyone under 18, but there are definitely some over 50ish. Regardless of age, many are in relationships.
It’s true most of these people are in relationships. The under 18 are usually in a group or with parents. Single ‘young professionals’ are hard to find.
Speaking of young professionals, there are sometimes associations of Catholic professionals in a given field. It limits you to one field, but at the same time, well, one may likely have something in common with a member of the same profession (“Motions and writs, don’t you look great today, Counsel!” “If you keep saying that, Counsel, I may just need to get you a restraining order!” etc.).
Yeah, everybody seems to have a boyfriend or girlfriend (typically means live-in) and not so few are already married.
This is definitely a good suggestion, but if you are in a field that is predominantly one gender, the professional organizations in that field are usually also of that gender, regardless if they are Catholic or not. Therefore, in my case, it is about 80%+ men.
Yes, that’s true. It can only really be one of the “avenues” in such cases–same as one shouldn’t limit himself only to his profession anyway!
I absolutely agree. I think it is great to branch out and do different things, meet new people, etc.
I guess so! I tend to believe in meeting people naturally, but my father criticises this outlook on theological grounds. He says I overemphasise nature as per facts observed. I must come up with an intelligent counter!