you mentioned some choice hadith about how to behave with and treat non-muslims.
Below is the Shia counterpart to the sunni hadiths you mention above.
"Maalik! You must create in your mind kindness, compassion and love for your subjects. Do not behave towards them as if you are a voracious and ravenous beast and as if your success lies in devouring them.
Remember, Maalik, that amongst your subjects there are two kinds of people: those who have the same religion as you have; they are brothers to you, and those who have religions other than that of yours, they are human beings like you."
Imam Ali, letter 53, to his governor in Egypt Maalik Al-Ashtar,
nahjulbalagha.org/LetterDetail.php?Letter=53
“Treat the tax-payers with equity and justice and think over their wishes with patience and kindness because you are the treasurer of the subjects, representative of the people and the officer on behalf of higher authority. Do not force anybody to forsake his requirements and to do without his necessities (so that he may pay the taxes). In collection of taxes and revenues do not sell their winter and summer clothing, their slaves or such of their animals as are of service to them, do not resort to whipping, do not touch their property,
be they Muslims or non-Muslims”
Imam Ali, letter 51 to the collectors of taxes and revenues,
nahjulbalagha.org/LetterDetail.php?Letter=51
Muslims of All schools agree that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh&hf) said “I am the city of knowledge and Ali is it’s gate, whomever seeks the city should enter it from it’s gate”
Imam Ali taught us that people are two, either your brothers in religion or your equals in humanity and to treat with kindness, compassion and love those under our guardianship
this is very different to the behavior of some of the companions to towards non-muslims. And to justify their actions, they attribute the same behavior to the the prophet, meanwhile his closest and most beloved follower, Imam Ali (as) behaved and taught concepts and values which are completely different from the significant companions.
This is why we believe there are two very different ideologies within Islam, one is very violent and barbaric, the other is sublime and lofty, we believe the Islam of Ali (as) is the true Islam of the prophet Muhammad (pbuh&hf) and anyone else who does not follow the example of Ali has swerved away from the straight path.