First of all, congratulations for asking on this thread. This shows strength, courage, AND intelligence to question your doctor and look for answers. I was once told at a big city women’s clinic that I had fibroids and would never have children. 20 years later an OB-GYN said during an exam: “You have never had fibroids!” It’s always good to question.
I kept track of my cycles for many celibate and non-celibate years. I also took my temperatures. I wish all girls would be taught how to do this. I learned so much about ALL of my cycle, not just five or six days of the month. I could anticipate better my PMS symptoms and take better care of myself–my overall health. I could learn when I was most fertile and believe me, each month was different. The combined method of calendar, oral thermometer, and mucus observation can be very effective, and when understood by both a responsible husband and wife, can be more effective than the lousy but much touted Pill. EVEN WITH IRREGULAR CYCLES!!!
But the other problem is what is going on with your health? Find a good doctor, OB-GYN, nurse practitioner or physician assistant who really understands women’s health and natural hormones. A pro-life Catholic or Christian is always ideal, but I never could find one. If you can’t find someone pro-life, ignore the rest of their agenda and just listen to them about natural hormone balancing. There are many other non-Christians out there who reject the Pill pushing.
There is a lot of literature on the progesterone-estrogen balance as well as about estrogen dominance as a result of too much hormones in our food and petrochemicals in our environment. They mention cleaning up the diet, avoiding plastics, polyesters, hormones and chemicals in your food, health and beauty products, detergents, etc. It is controversial but I believe there is some truth to this. It could explain why women have so many gynecological problems and why girls are developing earlier and becoming more aggressive.
The pill is a synthetic hormone. There is much literature out there about how much “better” it is since they have calibrated the right doses, blah, blah, blah. I am skeptical about anything that takes our normal, imperfect cycles and creates an artificial one. I still wonder about the long term effects on women who have taken the pill for years. Why did anyone ever allow this kind of “medicine” ? There could have been so many other ways to help women with good reproductive health AND keep us healthy. But they stopped most research with the dang pill. (OK I have strong opinions here but I still see women with serious problems as well as strokes from using the pill.) I still prefer the term “fertility awareness” as a focus for women instead of “birth CONTROL”. Can you imagine what women’s health (and the world) would be like if all research and practice backed the idea of fertility awareness instead of birth control? I believe that someday we will ALL look back on this artificial folly-the Pill–and wonder what on earth were we doing to our women!!!
Good luck in your search. Many women have been finding better physicians. Keep looking. God bless you.