Every Calvinist I have met claims they are one of the Elect and that is why their salvation is assured.
Are you sure they’re “Calvinists”? Do they claim to be Reformed? Or are they OSAS (“once saved, always saved” Evangelicals?)
If someone “backslides” into sin does that mean they were never saved in the first place?
That calls for discernment. 1 John 2:19 says that those who “went out from us” were in fact “never of us” in the first place. But it is also true that we all “stumble” in many ways, but not so as to “fall.” So putting all that information together, I would say this: When you observe another Christian (ore even better, when you observe yourself!) “backsliding,” it is important to call him/her (yourself) back to repentance. If the person never does repent, and dies, then only then can we safely assume that this person was probably
not among the elect. But in the present moment, we lack the vantage point to know how this person’s story finally turns out. I fear that perhaps you’re only looking at this from the human point of view. But there is also the fact that God is in no way neutral here; rather it is God who will make sure his elect are brought safely and finally into the kingdom. Our trust, therefore, is in Him and His promise to save; it is not in ourselves. Were I to look to myself, I would be forced into despair, since I could never with any confidence claim to be able to live my life sufficiently within God’s will by my own resources.
I want to make sure I understand what you are saying. If a person who believes they are “saved” commits one sin of adultery and does not confess or repent are they still saved?
I would answer that this way: King David was elect from all eternity. Yet not only did he commit adultery, he also committed murder. And yet he was “saved” still because it was God’s will to bring him to repentance. Nothing happens outside of the will of God. David’s sins did not change his elect status. The tradeoff, however, is that neither David nor anyone else at the time, could possibly know his eternal destiny. Only God was privy to that and we only know what it was because of Scripture. So from David’s point of view, it would have been possible to see himself as “lost,” not knowing that God was faithful to fulfill is promise to him, even though David himself was faithless for a time. Certainly David never made the inference that because he had the “joy of his salvation,” that he could thereby sin with impunity and Evangelicals who do make this inference are simply in error.
Do you agree or disagree with Pastor Charles Stanley who writes in his book Eternal Security: “If you have placed your trust in Christ’s death on the cross as payment for your sin, you are an eternal member of the family of God. Acting like God’s child didn’t get you in. Not acting like one won’t get you tossed out. God’s unconditonal love is eternal. Salvation is forever.”
I agree with some of this. For example, salvation is forever and God’s love is unconditional. I also believe that if you are
truly in God’s family, you won’t ultimately be disinherited. Witness Kind David. That said, I don’t think we can
know this side of eternity if we are. The mere fact that someone
claims to have put his trust in Jesus, etc, isn’t proof positive of anything more than a “conversion experience.” The trust in question isn’t a one-time event, but a way of life. Belief and trust are present tense verbs in Greek and therefore imply ongoing, habitual action. Does not the parable of the seed tell us this much? A person who receives the word with joy and then gets withers for lack of roots isn’t, in my view, a
true member of God’s family.
" You have been sealed…The moment you trusted Christ as your Savior, God sealed you…how then can we lose our salvation? To be unsaved would mean to remove the seal."
The “seal” metaphor is definitely Biblical (Ephesians 1 and 4) and it is “unto the day of Redemption.” But once again, this only
describes the true believer. The same Paul who says this of the believer also says this to the Ephesians:
19 They [the Gentiles] have become callous and have given themselves up to sensuality, greedy to practice every kind of impurity. 20 But that is not the way you learned Christ!— 21 assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, 22 to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, 23 and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, 24 and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
In other words, Paul is writing to communities with both believers and unbelievers in them–perhaps some close to belief, but not quite there yet. Elsewhere he tells us to “examine ourselves” to make sure we’re in the faith, (2 Corinthians 13:5). So there isn’t a magic formula such as “I have accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior” that makes one a Christian; rather I think it is the person who truly has “put off the old self” and otherwise meets Paul’s description of a Christian that can plausibly claim to have been sealed by the Spirit unto the day of redemption. It’s not those who made an “altar call” or had some kind of cathartic experience at the youth retreat, only to go back to being the exact same person they were prior to it.
"We must understand what exactly sends a person to hell…sin alone isn’t enough.
Heresy. Sin is the only reason for going to hell. Sin is a rejection of Jesus.