Question for catholic women

[mommyof4]

I wouldn’t know what to do with a wife who submitted herself to me in love! ha! I’d probably cry my eyes out every night and love her to death not knowing how, knowing that I’m most unworthy of such love (even from a human creature). I don’t know how that sounds to you, but it’s quite an inexplicable feeling. Also, what seems natural to me would be exactly as Paul says, to love my wife as Christ loves His Church. How does He love Mother Church? He holds her close, clothes her, feeds her, kisses her with graces; He is her support, and would even die that she might live. The last thing I would want to be is oppressive or abusive, as I can’t begin to imagine Christ treating us as such.

Can you please tell that all to my husband??? Please???

 

[Denise_Shae]

I wouldn’t know what to do with a wife who submitted herself to me in love! ha! I’d probably cry my eyes out every night and love her to death not knowing how, knowing that I’m most unworthy of such love (even from a human creature). I don’t know how that sounds to you, but it’s quite an inexplicable feeling. Also, what seems natural to me would be exactly what Paul in the name of Our Lord says to me, to love my wife as Christ loves His Church. How does He love Mother Church? He holds her close, clothes her, feeds her, kisses her with graces; He is her support, and would even die that she might live. The last thing I would want to be is oppressive or abusive, as I can’t begin to imagine Christ treating us as such.

Reading what you lovely ladies have said has awakened an anxiousness from within me that’s been laying dormant for too long. Pray for us men, that we might be as worthy of you as Jesus is of His Holy Church!

Tony,

My daughter will be 21 in five years. Can you wait that long? You’re every mother’s dream of a perfect son-in-law!

God Bless!!!

 

[mommyof4]

Tony,

My daughter will be 21 in five years. Can you wait that long? You’re every mother’s dream of a perfect son-in-law!

God Bless!!!

Mine is only 6 years out. I’ll even send her to a good Catholic college if you’ll wait!

 

[Denise_Shae]

Mine is only 6 years out. I’ll even send her to a good Catholic college if you’ll wait!

Hey momyof4,

I proposed to Tony first. My daughter has first dibs!

God Bless!

 

[havemercy]

Can you please tell that all to my husband??? Please???

I’m sorry, but I just can’t do that. He has to listen to God tugging at his heart through His creation, and through you. Pray and offer up each mass for him. Never lose hope. Okie dokie? How could you though. You have children! If I had kids I’d be the happiest person ever, and I’d have even more reason to have hope.

Tony,

My daughter will be 21 in five years. Can you wait that long? You’re every mother’s dream of a perfect son-in-law!

God Bless!!!

hahaha oh my goodness! What have I done?! Its at times like these that I pinch myself as a reminder that I fall short of expectations that I have of myself. Its nice to think that I’d be a “dream son-in-law” but I don’t think that’s a potential truth…Entirely. Thank you for your kind words.

Mine is only 6 years out. I’ll even send her to a good Catholic college if you’ll wait!

Hey momyof4,

I proposed to Tony first. My daughter has first dibs!

God Bless!

gulp

Please don’t tie me up and lock me in a dungeon for ten years while you make wedding preparations…Please?

 

[gmarie21]

The other thing That just came to me EWTN had a mini series on called “MARRIAGE WORKS IN CHRIST”.

One of the the 30 minute segments had do with this passage. I wish I could remember what they said. However, I do know that you can buy a DVD of the series through ETWN: ewtnreligiouscatalogue.com/shop.axd/Default just type in the name of the show in the search field.

The co-host are founders of the “Alexander House”. Their web-page is thealexanderhouse.org/index.html

YOu can also download it off of either website: EWTN’s or Alexander House’s. EWTN has a LOT of great downloadable programs.

 

[Mommyof02green]

YOu can also download it off of either website: EWTN’s or Alexander House’s. EWTN has a LOT of great downloadable programs.

I just found the “Listen Now” audios for the program “Marriage works in Christ” I don’t know which audio would be the one re: the scripture, but it’s there.

Here is the link to the “Listen Now” audios (they are free): ewtn.com/vondemand/audio/seriessearchprog.asp?seriesID=7074&T1=Marriage+works+in+Christ

Thanks for reminding me

 

[Loren_1of6]

I think it was Christopher West who explained it this way:

Sub means under, so submission means under the mission. Wives put yourselves under the mission of your husbands. What is the husband’s mission? “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church.” So wives are to allow our husbands to love us.

The way that husbands fulfill their mission has been beautifully portrayed earlier in the thread. I can’t put it any better than some of these grace-filled responses.

 

[havemercy]

I think it was Christopher West who explained it this way:

Sub means under, so submission means under the mission. Wives put yourselves under the mission of your husbands. What is the husband’s mission? “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church.” So wives are to allow our husbands to love us.

The way that husbands fulfill their mission has been beautifully portrayed earlier in the thread. I can’t put it any better than some of these grace-filled responses.

Yikes! Men, lets get outta here!

 

[ALLFORHIM]

I’m sorry, but I just can’t do that. He has to listen to God tugging at his heart through His creation, and through you. Pray and offer up each mass for him. Never lose hope. Okie dokie? How could you though. You have children! If I had kids I’d be the happiest person ever, and I’d have even more reason to have hope.

hahaha oh my goodness! What have I done?! Its at times like these that I pinch myself as a reminder that I fall short of expectations that I have of myself. Its nice to think that I’d be a “dream son-in-law” but I don’t think that’s a potential truth…Entirely. Thank you for your kind words.

gulp

Please don’t tie me up and lock me in a dungeon for ten years while you make wedding preparations…Please?

You guys are hysterical I said the same thing to a boy very grounded in his faith. But he is only 3 years older then my daughter

 

[ALLFORHIM]

Yikes! Men, lets get outta here!

LOL Well I did ask for women so sink or swim

 

[havemercy]

LOL Well I did ask for women so sink or swim

Yes I realize that. I’m sorry if my posting was inappropriate or unwanted.

 

[ALLFORHIM]

Yes I realize that. I’m sorry if my posting was inappropriate or unwanted.

Hi,
No of course not. I was just joking! Feel free to post all you want. But be careful you might find yourself in a pre-arranged marriage—LOL

 

[deb1]

Actually men have it much harder in the bible then women. Much more is expected from the man.

Not only is he to love his wife as Christ loved the church but in Peter(can’t remember the exact verse) Men are told that if they don’t honor their wives their prayers won’t be heard in heaven! Women are never told that anything bad will happen to their prayers if they do not submit!

The marriage relationship that the bible lays out is actually very empowering for women. Yes she is to be in submission but this is voluntary on her part. Just as we come to Christ with our own free will, the woman willingly submits to her husband. She can’t be forced. The man though is called to protect her and even, if necessary, die for her. He must love her and honor her.

 

[Denise_Shae]

I’m sorry, but I just can’t do that. He has to listen to God tugging at his heart through His creation, and through you. Pray and offer up each mass for him. Never lose hope. Okie dokie? How could you though. You have children! If I had kids I’d be the happiest person ever, and I’d have even more reason to have hope.

hahaha oh my goodness! What have I done?! Its at times like these that I pinch myself as a reminder that I fall short of expectations that I have of myself. Its nice to think that I’d be a “dream son-in-law” but I don’t think that’s a potential truth…Entirely. Thank you for your kind words.

gulp

Please don’t tie me up and lock me in a dungeon for ten years while you make wedding preparations…Please?

Fear not, Tony. We’re just having some fun w/you.

****I wouldn’t know what to do with a wife who submitted herself to me in love! ha! I’d probably cry my eyes out every night and love her to death not knowing how, knowing that I’m most unworthy of such love (even from a human creature). I don’t know how that sounds to you, but it’s quite an inexplicable feeling. Also, what seems natural to me would be exactly what Paul in the name of Our Lord says to me, to love my wife as Christ loves His Church. How does He love Mother Church? He holds her close, clothes her, feeds her, kisses her with graces; He is her support, and would even die that she might live. The last thing I would want to be is oppressive or abusive, as I can’t begin to imagine Christ treating us as such.

Reading what you lovely ladies have said has awakened an anxiousness from within me that’s been laying dormant for too long. Pray for us men, that we might be as worthy of you as Jesus is of His Holy Church!****

It’s not often women come across men who feel this way. Especially in this day and age.

However, I can’t complain. My husband is very good to me, and from the beginning, has always put me first in his life.
Therefore; submitting to him is a pleasure, not a chore, for he works very hard and asks so little of me, yet gives so much.

So, if he enjoys ESPN on Sundays, I really don’t begrudge him. I just wish he’d attend weekly Mass, even if we can’t go together.
There’s really nothing stopping him from going to Saturday night Vigil, but as a dear priest friend of mine once told me, “Don’t force it”. So I decided to “let go and let God”.

God Bless you, Tony, and stay as sweet as you are!