Question for people in their twenties

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Aurelia:
Thanks for all the advice. My son is going to a Catholic University, and is a member of Totus Tuus. I know that the Lord will provide the right mate at the right time. But, basically, what I wanted to know was, how prevalent is this attitude among young women today? I guess someplaces it is, and some places it isn’t.
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Well I’m in my later 20’s, but I’d say many in their early 20’s are not ready to commit to marriage yet, and as such it may be hard to think about children too. And who doesn’t want to marry rich? LOL 🙂 Anyway the attitude he sees is probably prevalent among young women who don’t yet have a calling to be a wife and mother. Just because some may think this way now doesn’t mean it’s what they really want, or how they will feel when they meet a young man who truely loves and cares for them. If that makes any sense.
 
I’m 27. I remember what I was like when I was 20, and my morals and attitudes have done nearly a 180-degree turn since then. It took a lot of growing up and a lot of grace to help set my priorities on the right path.

Perhaps your son is looking at the wrong types of girls, or perhaps he is not being fair by judging how they will be in several years by how they are now.

If it’s any consolation, when I was 20 I didn’t even want to get married, I wanted a career where I would be rich and famous and have people treating me like royalty. A few years later I reverted to my Catholic faith, graduated with a science degree, went into research (which I love but which will never make me wealthy), and married a fellow scientist who will also never be wealthy. We’re happy now, and all that we wish for is that all the bills continue to get paid, a few children, and eventually a slightly bigger home in which to raise said children.
 
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gaothdearg:
Yes, my thoughts exactly!
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Okay, somebody who is adept at starting a thread or whatever it’d be for the matchmaking, get going’. 🙂
I’ll see if I can get my 24 year old daughter to look at it.
Do any of you have my experience of having a young adult child who WANTS to get married but won’t use the catholic websites? It frustrates me so much that my daughter thinks it’s being ‘desperate’.
She would meet so many nice catholics.
KellyEr~
 
I don’t have any problem with people not marrying. If he doesn’t want to marry, more power to him.

The only problem is people end up falling in love and/or giving into thier urges. So marriage is better than not being able to control yourself.

So, if he’s going to marry, he’ll find the right girl soon enough. If not, he’s got an easier life ahead of him. There are many girls who are that way…and some become that way.
 
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Aurelia:
I have a twenty-year old son who is depressed about finding a good girl to marry. He told me that girls these days are either not interested in marriage, or they want to marry rich guys and have no children. How widespread is this attitude?
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I work at a shelter for homeless families and I’m shocked by the number of young women on staff who say they never want children. They’re all college grads or students and most would be excellent parents.

Forgive me for saying that this makes a real contrast with our clients who apparently reproduce without a second (or a first) thought and depend on the gov’t to support themselves and their offspring.

Oh, my co-workers aren’t looking for rich husbands that I know of.
 
I’m 21 year old girl and, while there is certainly some truth in what your son is saying, there is still a pool of good orthodox Catholic girls who aren’t blinded by the world’s lies.

I would advise him to

a- Pray to St. Raphael the Arcangel who is the Patron Saint of lovers and of good encounters, as his intercession helped me found my future spouse, and helped a friend of mine also.

b- To start socialising with good Catholics.

Tell him to carry on having hope and to know that good girls DO exist, and to never ever settle for anything less.

With prayers,

-x-
 
I married at 29. And wasn’t happy about having to wait so long.

Something that helped me a lot was being told to learn to be happy where I was at. Be grateful for the gifts you have. Use the free time you have now to bike, camp, hunt, travel, etc. Most importantly, be involved in the church. Working for the faith with others helps you grow in yur own faith and has the handy side effect of exposing you to lots of people, like women.

When you perceive that you can’t be happy until you FIND her, you will be unhappy and will be repellant to women, even faithful ones. Women are attracted to confident, fulfilled men moreso than rich ones.

I was in college bible studies, spent a year doing NET retreats, joined a young adult prayer group, volunteered at a homeless shelter, went on/worked on various diocesan retreats and went on a diocesan minimission to Bolivia. Met lots of people, learned lots of things, dated a few good women, married ONE!
 
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