Question for the Ladies....Did you ever have this guy

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Did you ever have this guy you really liked, at least from afar. And you wanted him so much to ask you out, and you gave him signals, but he was just completely oblivious?

(I’m curious how well or poorly guys pick up or don’t pick up on things, sometimes.)
 
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I guess it was a stupid question. Oh well. It’s probably just the opposite.
 
Yes, but I was equally oblivious that he liked me. I found out years later, and when I asked my friend why she had never told me back then that he liked me she said " oh, I thought you already knew that."

No, I didn’t, but looking back now I can see that he did. Duh.
 
Don’t wait for him to ask you out. If you wait nothing’s going to happen. Ask him. If he says yes, then good, you got what you wanted. If he says no you can move on. Either way, something happens. Doing nothing gets no results if he’s so oblivious he can’t pick up on your signals.
 
It happened from time to time, but usually I would just take matters into my own hands and ask him out or otherwise throw myself at him. That would usually end the situation one way or the other. Either we’d be going out or he’d be telling me in no uncertain terms why he didn’t want to ask me out.
 
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Did you ever have this guy you really liked, at least from afar. And you wanted him so much to ask you out, and you gave him signals, but he was just completely oblivious?
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I did that with two different guys (not always from afar) and I think they just didn’t like me that way.
 
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Did you ever have this guy you really liked, at least from afar. And you wanted him so much to ask you out, and you gave him signals, but he was just completely oblivious?
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Yes. And, I am now married to someone else and he’s still single as far as I know.

Because by far, the majority of the guys who gave me signals asked me out. Some I gave signals did and some didn’t-- so one assumes they weren’t interested as they never reciprocated.
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(I’m curious how well or poorly guys pick up or don’t pick up on things, sometimes.)
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Guys pick up on signals just fine. So do girls. It is hot/cold mixed signals that are a turn off. And the ones who never do anything about it while giving signals.

One could say that in this day and age girls can make the first move. In my experience, that does not work out very well. It’s a cultural norm that still has penalties associated with it for the woman. (in general, there are exceptions).
 
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My wife tells me I still don’t pick up on hints. Apparently I’m “oblivious” to hints
 
I was just asking if women had that experience…oh, I guess, you answered that way, but I thought you were giving me advice. 🙂
 
Thanks…I like that little motto. I suppose it’s better to finally simply ask.
 
“throw yourself…” that’s a good one.

No women has ever done that with me that I can remember. 🤔 It’s not a bad plan, I suppose, for the bold.
 
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I’m not sure I easily pick up on signals. I’m a bit uncertain and daft at times. One young woman is very friendly to all and sincere so that can be confusing as to wheter or not she’s giving me a signal or not. I hesitate a lot.
 
Hello.

Yes. So I waited until someone was interested in me. If I have to work that hard it’s likely that the guy just isn’t interested enough in me. I want someone who loves me. If a guy is truly interested he will find a way.
 
Hello.

Please, please don’t ask guys out. You’re depriving him of the chase.
 
hehe…I would not mind it. But I am a person that tend to have a rejection-phobia.

Or another think I’ve herd is this psychological term, something like approach-avoidance personality. lol
 
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