Question for the marrieds; How did you meet?

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Title says it all :rolleyes:

As a single youngin It would be fun to see how some of the catholic couples found each other. Those who dont mind sharing their story, please do šŸ‘
 
We met through avemariasingles.com. Heā€™d been on the site for about two years, and I for one, before we met each other. Each of us had met other people through the site, but it hadnā€™t worked out. (Not disastrously, you understand, just not the right person for either of us, and that was usually clear after the first date. šŸ™‚ ) Corresponded for two months, dated for nine months, engaged for six months, weā€™ve been married now for almost ten months, and our first baby is on the way. šŸ˜ƒ It was kind of long-distance, as we lived 4 hours apart during the dating and engagement, but if anything that helped us learn to communicate more, which was particularly important as weā€™re both introverts who arenā€™t naturally very talkative. Amazing what talking on the phone nearly every night for an hour can teach you about communicationā€¦ šŸ˜›

One thing we liked about the online format was that we knew from the first read-over of the other personā€™s profile that this person was solid in his/her faith, as some of the profile topics include NFP/contraception, Mass attendance, belief in certain important tenets, and so on. This eliminated some of the initial awkwardness associated, I imagine, with a lot of ā€œreal lifeā€ first dates when one is trying to figure out if the other person is potential spouse material.
 
I put online dating, but thatā€™s not exactly how.
We met on a forum we are both members of, but dating is not its primary purpouse. I posted in a new thread for people who are looking for company, anything from sports to serious relationships. I was a little lonely, many things were changing in my life and my friendsā€™ lives and I just wanted some new company, I didnā€™t have anything specific in mind. He sent me a message and we started talking.
We PM-ed, IM-ed and Skyped, but we both thought we the other person was too different for a relationship. Well, turns out we were just right. We started dating the third time we went out. We got engaged after nine months and married on our third anniversary. Itā€™s been nine and a half months and itā€™s going great! šŸ™‚
I should say that he wasnā€™t Catholic at the time, and I was only loosely Catholic. That has also changed for both of us since then.
 
We met at a fraternity party his fraternity was throwing in college.
 
We met through friends; my friend was dating his roommate at the time. I was a fallen-away cradle Catholic, and he was somewhat anti-Catholic, undecided on religion in general, but he did believe in God. We were married within six months of our first dateā€“certainly not something Iā€™d recommend for everyone, but God does work in mysterious ways! šŸ˜‰

About 5 1/2 years after our wedding, we both joined the Catholic Church and had our marriage convalidated.

We have six children, and will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary next month. šŸ˜ƒ
 
Phalanx said:
Title says it all :rolleyes:

As a single youngin It would be fun to see how some of the catholic couples found each other. Those who dont mind sharing their story, please do šŸ‘
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This is terribly off-topic, but:

All hail the king of the polls! :bowdown2::bowdown2:šŸ˜ƒ
 
Phalanx said:
Hahaha! Thank you, my loyal poll soldier! :knight1:

Hahahaha awesome šŸ˜ƒ

Really nice variety of cool/funny/beautifull answers we have so far,
Keep em flowing, and this Poll will be wonderfull šŸ‘
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I met my husband 50 years ago, by cashing my very first paycheck at his place of business and he looked for me at where I worked. It was on my check. My boss introduced us, she knew him. We were married 8 wonderful years and had 4 boys, before he died in an accident.

Several years later I was back home visiting family and I met a guy I had dated in High School and hadnā€™t seen for 12 years. We started dating and married a year later and had 3 boys before he died of heart failure,18 1/2 years later. That was 30 years ago and I decided that was enough. Both my husbands were converts and I am soo thankful for that. God Bless, Memaw
 
In the era before widespread internet usage, our local radio station had a ā€œdate lineā€ - phone version of internet matchmaking. A brief phone conversation was enough to eliminate most guys I was matched up with (pre-email) and the few I went out with were blah - except my future husband who was the only one who was willing to attend a ā€œchildrenā€™sā€ film with me (even though we were in our late 20ā€™s/early 30ā€™s).

Yep - our first date (and love connection) began with mutual admiration for Bugs Bunny, Elmer Fudd, Yosemite Sam, and Foghorn Leghorn during a premier of Space Jam šŸ™‚

I was impressed he was willing to go (aka have fun) - he was impressed that I let him buy the tickets but paid for his diet Coke. Add in our similar upbringing (both Catholic - youngest of 7 for me, youngest of 8 for him), our sense of fun and adventure (second date was ice skating - though neither of us really knew how) and it all got better from there šŸ˜ƒ
 
Nurse at hospital. He was a resident. He chased me until I caught him.šŸ˜ƒ
 
I was her boss, but transferred and then we started dating. The transfer was for different reasons. I recommend dating women who are your subordinates, that way they are already used to doing what you tell them to in case you get married.
 
white_sheep said:
I was her boss, but transferred and then we started dating. The transfer was for different reasons. I recommend dating women who are your subordinates, that way they are already used to doing what you tell them to in case you get married.
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:hmmm::ehh: That could also lead to sexual harassment chargesā€¦
 
It appears many do not marry the boyfriend/girlfriend they have/had during secondary school and/or university.
What is the essence of these romantic relationships without the view or anticipation of marriage?
Should adolescents avoid them?
 
:whistle:
Phalanx said:
Title says it all :rolleyes:

As a single youngin It would be fun to see how some of the catholic couples found each other. Those who dont mind sharing their story, please do šŸ‘
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He said I was stealing his equipment:blush:
 
HB11 said:
:whistle:He said I was stealing his equipment:blush:
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actually it was his chairs and containers, we worked in the post office. His tour was the one before mine and I needed equipment for the mail and chairs to sit on to separate the mail to its station. We got married a year later.
 
white_sheep said:
I recommend dating women who are your subordinates, that way they are already used to doing what you tell them to in case you get married.
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And of course your wife knows thisā€¦right? :stretcher:

We went to the same college and despite having a number of mutual friends never met until several months after graduation. One of the mutual friends took me along to a party at her house. Neither of us was looking for a ā€œrelationship,ā€ both of us having just having gone through miserable breakups, but it eventually kind of grew on us. šŸ™‚
 
white_sheep said:
I was her boss, but transferred and then we started dating. The transfer was for different reasons. I recommend dating women who are your subordinates, that way they are already used to doing what you tell them to in case you get married.
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I really hope this is a joke, though given what Iā€™ve read on CAF in the pastā€¦ Iā€™m not so sure.
 
We met here on the CAF - here in the family life section, actuallyā€¦ šŸ˜ƒ

Long-distance relationship - him in KY, me in VT. Chatted for 6 months, dated for 13 more months before getting engaged. I moved to KY 3 months later, and we got married 3 months after that. (And we had a 2-month-old daughter by our first wedding anniversary!!) šŸ‘

Woot!!!
 
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