This mess started in post 5 with the “my way is better that your way” stuff. That sort of school yard shenanigan is never profitable. What one bishop says is not relevant out side his diocese in areas of discipline. They Catholic Church allows, in the case of the OP to receive in his hand. That should be enough for any traditional, orthodox and faithful Catholic. Period. Mama said it’s okay and she’s in charge.
Accept or reject Her authority. But if one does accept the authority of the Church, then one should tend to one’s own row, do what is best for his own spiritual growth, and desist in telling other faithful Catholics how to better be faithful Catholics.
Again, I receive in the hand because I find it more reverent. That should suffice.