I can’t get past him having sex with a nine year old. …
You are supposing this to be a fact. But it’s an allegation, until the evidence has been weighed. Since consummation does not leave any historical trace, and Aisha had no children, there’s not much chance that the charge will ever be proved.
There is another hadith that shows Aisha remained with her parents until after puberty, and in fact that she was already past puberty when they left Mecca for Medina. This
hadith is also in the collection known as Sahih Bukhari:
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Narrated ‘Aisha: (the wife of the Prophet) I had seen my parents following Islam since I attained the age of puberty. Not a day passed but the Prophet visited us, both in the mornings and evenings. My father Abu Bakr thought of building a mosque in the courtyard of his house and he did so. ... Abu Bakr was a softhearted person and could not help weeping while reciting the Quran. The chiefs of the Quraish pagans [that is, the rulers of Mecca] became afraid of that (i.e. that their children and women might be affected by the recitation of Quran).
Abu Bakr was the first outside the family of Muhammad to believe. That would be about 613 AD, and if Aisha was at puberty then, she must have been born about 602 AD, making her 20 years old at the Hijra, in 622, and she is supposed to have married Muhammad in the same year, or two years later.
However another Hadith says
Narrated Hisham’s father: Khadija died three years before the Prophet departed to Medina. He stayed there for two years or so and then he married ‘Aisha when she was a girl of six years of age, and he consumed that marriage when she was nine years old.
That would make her just 4 at the time of the hijra. So we have a roughly 16-year range: either she was at puberty before the Hijra and able to recount what her father and Muhammad did in Mecca, or she was only a baby then, and her memories would have no weight.
Having said that, there is nothing inherently unlikely about an arranged marriage between a girl or even a baby of one family, and an important (and therefore old) man of another family or tribe. That is how alliances were made or cemented.
We should ask what it was that happened at nine years old, supposing we prefer that account to the post-puberty marriage account. The translator of Sahih Muslim tells it this way: (008: 3309:
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” ‘A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house at the age of nine. She further said: We went to Medina .... Umm Ruman (my mother) ... took me to a house, where had gathered the women of the Ansar. They all blessed me and wished me good luck and said: May you have share in good. She (my mother) entrusted me to them. They washed my head and embellished me and nothing frightened me. Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) came there in the morning, and I was entrusted to him.”
No mention of consummation there, but there is in other accounts. The word “enter” in Arabic is used both for going to live with, and for sexual penetration — so if we are using these early-marriage version, what happened at 9 years old. Was it cohabitation or consummation, in western terms? In Muslim terms it doesn’t matter, because the principle in Islamic law is that a man and woman who are alone in circumstances where they would not expect to be disturbed are considered to have had sexual intercourse, with all the legal consequences. In the case of a couple with a marriage contract, the legal consequence is that the marriage is valid, it has been ‘consummated’, whether or not they were actually intimate. This is not a presumption that all men and women are constantly wanting to jump into bed together, rather it is a legal practicality and also a matter of politeness. The alternative to making “being alone together” legally equivalent to physical consummation, is to try to ascertain the actual
facts, as in Western law.
However today we do wonder whether the marriage with ‘A’isha was consummated in the literal physical sense. All I can say is that Muhammad was capable of having children, but only actually had children by his first wife, Khadija, and again towards the end of his life, with Miriam, the Egyptian Christian. Several of his wives had young children by previous marriages, so if none of them had children after marrying Muhammad, perhaps these marriages were - in western terms - cohabitations not consummated marriages. I suspect that Muhammad’s reputed love of women was like his love for the poor and oppressed: he loved them enough to take them seriously as people, to accord them rights and importance that they did not have in the eyes of the tribal leaders.
There are two traditions in the same source (Sahih Muslim), giving different answers as to Aisha’s age. It just so happens (?) that in western media one is very prominent, and the other somehow overlooked. These discussions are not in fact about Muhammad — they are about finding excuses for the hatred of a people and a religion.