I am worried about the “ethnic-ness” of the churches…
I can agree here.
I was baptized in an ethnic Roman Catholic parish (Polish, actually), but my folks moved to the 'burbs when I was a wee one. In the suburban parish we always had Irish pastors and a variety of other nationalities for associate priests (this was a long time ago, when such discrimination in assignments was still possible). The older teaching nuns were from Lithuania, I believe, although the younger ones were all American.
After I became an adult, I tried to visit a Polish parish like the one my father belonged to, and the experience did not go well. I must say that I had called ahead, and the priest answered in Polish. I spoke in English and he interrupted me and said “you do realize that this is a POLISH parish, don’t you?”, I said “yes”. He said “you won’t like it”, he did not say ‘
probably won’t’, so much for encouragement.
It took a while (a few months) for me to get up the determination but eventually I went anyway, despite the words of that priest. I was very self-conscious in my ‘Americanness’, I didn’t understand a thing (it turns out they started off with an hour of what probably was the Divine Mercy chaplet in Polish) and I felt like everyone was staring at me. No one welcomed me or even looked welcoming, I practically ran out the door at the end of Mass. I am sure my face was all red.
So this kind of experience can happen to anyone, and I sympathize with those who subject themselves to such an experience.
Are there ethnic parishes in in North American Holy Orthodoxy? Yes, indeed. Just like there are ethnic parishes in any church or religion.
There are also the very mixed acculturated parishes that seem so American, with people of diverse backgrounds.
Stepping out of one’s comfort zone is hard. It pays to call ahead.