RyanL;
Understand, I do get where you are coming from. really, I do.
But, before you decide that freindly sounding words are a necessity, have you considered his “freindly” question/assertion of:
Intelligent people like you cannot believe that a few quotes taken in or out of context from historical documents of valid or questionable origin, can be used to accurately state the beliefs and teachings of the Catholic Church and its leaders.
in its meaning?
Yes, he said it in a “nice” way, but has just called everyone un-intelligent for thinking that a “valid” document from a reliable source
in its proper context to be capable of providing an accurate statement of beliefs of a Church! As a Catholic, do you believe yourself to be not “intelligent” for believing that the Catechism
is a sure norm for teaching the Catholic Faith? We are not talking about your personal reflections and understandings of what it says, but the teaching of the Church and the faith it intends to convey. Your friend, however, just asserted that you were, even if it was done in the most indirect manner he could. He gets his personal attack in on all of us, and gets defended for it!
Did you even read past the “nice”?
Yes, I find the doctrinal content of the lds faith to be “silly” due to its inherently self-negating and contradictory nature. However, I did not ever call your
freind stupid. On the contrary, I have given him far more credit than he has given myself, or even you. I did demonstrate his innacurracies of doctrine, which can only be assumed to be intentional when he claims to have enough knowledge to answer our questions. And these are not “deep” or difficult questions; they are well known to every mormon! That my assuming he is intelligent and even cursorily knowledgeable to the extent that he claims
brings us to the logical conclusion that he is not being straightforward (or Honest for a less PC way of putting it) in his answers. His intent is betrayed/discerned by the fact that he bothers to be evasive in his responses and answers. If he was interested in an honest discussion of actual doctrines, then he would gladly expound them, and not worry that we won’t be convinced by them for conversion purposes.
While I appreciate your intention, the fact is “nice” is not automatically “loving”, as you friend has shown; nor is being direct in exposing what is being hidden being uncharitable. I guess we will just have to disagree on what we each perceive. I’m Ok with that. I have no use for such games. Perhaps if he gave it a try, he, and you, would find “nicer” posts from me when care is taken to be truthful and accurate.
I also, personally, do not feel comfortable adopting his methodology in an effort to
appear as nice as he is perceived to have been. I have done that in the past, and all it accomplishes is to dillute and hide the truths being discussed. The effect of that is he accomplishes his aims, to hide the truth; and we lose ours, to reveal it.
The
only nice thing about being an ex-mormon, is I know when he (or any mormon) is hiding the doctrines/truth being asked about. I even used to defend them myself when I was an active mormon. I don’t have to believe that they
are “true” to know that they are truthfully being taught/believed. Yet, in another standardized response of a mormon, this basic truth is denied, saying instead that “that you cannot learn the truth of anything from its critics”, thereby trying to preclude any objection to whatever he has to say. That he made such a pre-emptive move (this was in the first post) also only demonstrates his mental faculties and deliberate posturing.
Again, what am I to conclude? How can I be allowed to call him a spade, in this case a spade meaning “dishonest about lds doctrine”, if I am not allowed to do so? Have I not demonstrated our mutual appreciation for his intelligence? Have I not acknowledged his level of knowledge? This isn’t a simple ad hom; we cannot even
get to a discussion about what the lds believe if we play it by his rules! There is no conversation! This is the result of his actions, not my “attacks” or even admittedly curmudgeony, at times, demeanor.
He invited
us to ask him about lds beliefs, and then
he denied them. Calling the bluff will certainly make him uncomfortable, but it still remains that it happened.
I am not “clubbing” him about it, I am just making sure he has no room to hide his “spadiness” with PC nonsense. A spotlight is not a club (well, unless its a Maglite

).
