Raging sex drive...help!

[Smber2c]

Here is an obvious solution:

GET MARRIED SOONER!

The Bible says to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and every woman to have her own husband. If you can’t control this, you need to get married now. Not in three years.

For years, I was fighting a battle with masturbation. Thru high school, college, and for a bit after. Constantly falling, then going to confession. At one point I confessed every 2 weeks for probably 2 years. I always feared the priest would finally jump up and throttle me for reapeadedly injuring Christ in the same way over and over.

I had periodic victories of 4 or 6 weeks; but then some stress, some void of work to do, some pressure would get me back to these strongly engrained habits.

I got engaged last December.
I got married in May.
I have failed twice since May, but I feel much stronger with a holy outlet for that energy. I have faith and confidence that I won’t ever again.
…sure we meant to use NFP for a while since I’m about to go back to school…but passions kept making up cut that abstinance window a bit short and we are now due in May.

I’ve known for a while that masterbation (at least for guys) has 2 addicitons. The physical sexual urge. That’s the one strongest in the short term, and the one the marrital embrace will greatly help.
The other is the psycological addiction (when we start using it as an answer to problems like depression, stress, boredom, lonliness, etc…) and any relationship (marriage, engaged or friends) can help this one, but the other person has to be aware of your need and be willing to help you.
This is where my most recent falls came. Not from sexual urges, but from getting finished with a job and having 2 weeks off. Suddenly I had nothing to do - surfed the web for hours a day and ended up on some old sites from when my passions periodically ruled my web browsing.

A say all that to illustrate that marriage can help. It has helped me. At the same time it won’t fix it all. We’ll still need to make and effort.

And I need to remember that for every 1 devil that tempts the busy man, 10,000 are tempting the idol man.

 

[YipYupYep]

The other is the psychological addiction (when we start using it as an answer to problems like depression, stress, boredom, loneliness, etc…) and any relationship (marriage, engaged or friends) can help this one, but the other person has to be aware of your need and be willing to help you.

Good work.

This is a very important understanding. Most, are forever battling with the symptoms and the root cause goes untreated. The treatment is understanding the nature of the mechanism. Binging on acts of impurity begin with the attempt to narcotize themselves with sex to escape some emotional pain.

Next. Having an accountability partner increases your chances of success. There is special software out there that will send your partner a daily email with all the sites you have visited.

Good luck to you

 

[4given]

If you were conceived in lust by your parents you will have lust in you.

Who says? And is there something wrong with parents wanting each other physically? NO.

 

[santodomingo]

I am an 19 year old girl and, have always been a very conservative catholic. I have a severe problem that I have been trying to fix for a few years. I have an abnormally, ridiculously high sex drive that I can’t seem to overcome no matter what I do. I have been with a young man for 2 years now, who is now my fiancee. We lost our virginity to eachother when we first started going out, which we dreadfully regret, and we made a commitment to purity ever since then. But for some reason within the last few months I want nothing more but to have sex with him again. Sometimes all I have to do is look at him and I am overwhelmed with sexual desire. I masturbate almost every day and am constantly filled with impure thoughts. Recently, I nearly seduced him because I wanted it so bad. I have tried everything to make it go away, because I know its so sinful. I have prayed novenas, begged the Blessed Mother for help, and talked to a priest about it. I don’t want to be in Purgatory for 10,000 years because what I do, and I don’t want him to think I’m becoming a slut. I even cry when I’m praying because I can’t stop thinking about sex. I don’t know what else to do, I know I need to stop, but I don’t know how. I love God, and I love my fiancee very much and am doing everything to keep myself from bringing him down with my impurities. Is there any possible way to calm my sexual urge?? We arent going to be married for three more years, so its a long commitment. Feel free to pray for me as well!!!

I really empathize with you. I find it surprising that, as a woman, you have this sex-drive, but in essence it´s the same problem as if you were a man.

I also struggled with lust. The only way I beat it was with the Miraculous Medal and the Holy Rosary. With a rosary in my hand I find it impossible to have impure thoughts. Take your rosary with you wherever you go. Copy Padre Pio, who stored rosaries in every pocket or draw, so that whenever you feel temptation coming on you have something to point you towards God. He called his rosary “his weapon”. It is a powerful weapon against Satan and his temptations.

This is what worked for me. We all have different paths to walk, with different crosses to carry, so it won´t necessarily work like that for you, but you could always try. You´re in my prayers.