Raising Hands during Mass

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netmil(name removed by moderator):
Show me where it is stated that holding hands at the Our Father is encouraged by the Rubics and I’m sure everyone here will think differently.
I said
I never said it was encouraged. I just said it is not forbidden, and do not ridicule those who use it. There is no posture prescribed, and when questioned directly the USCCB site did not condemn it.
So I ask again—Where did anyone say it was encouraged?
 
1yellow rose:
So I ask again—Where did anyone say it was encouraged?
I didn’t say it was encouraged. I didn’t say it was discouraged.
I said it looked strange.

Because someone is not encouraging, does not make it right.
 
netmil(name removed by moderator):
I didn’t say it was encouraged. I didn’t say it was discouraged.
I said it looked strange.

Because someone is not encouraging, does not make it right.
And i said
I never said it was encouraged. I just said it is not forbidden, and do not ridicule those who use it. There is no posture prescribed, and when questioned directly the USCCB site did not condemn it.
You certainly said a lot more than it looked strange, which is why I entered this discussion as I said.

I personally do not care what you think looks strange or otherwise, but there are many people reading who may not even be Catholic, and to see this total disrespect for a legitimate prayer posture and those who use it is not good advertising.
 
1yellow rose:
I personally do not care what you think looks strange or otherwise, but there are many people reading who may not even be Catholic, and to see this total disrespect for a legitimate prayer posture and those who use it is not good advertising.
Those who are not Catholic will read the title of the thread and see that it is “Raising Hands during Mass”
Give them some credit, please.
 
It is an unusual site, and somewhat hard to navigate IMO, but I thought it was interesting. And to answer your question, no we shouldn’t judge someone else’s conscience. But it seems to be popular to prove a point. BTW, I found a debate indexed on there where he was defending CCR as valid and fruitful with someone who feels it is invalid innovations from protestantism.

Gave me a whole new perspective on CCR. I am not very comfortable or familiar with it, but am trying to understand.

As to your point on his comments about being prideful. I think he made a fair assesment ( this is his opinion) how each extreme has it’s problems. I tend to agree with a prideful tendency to prove each other right. You have to admit that poking fun and mocking others to prove they are wrong is being prideful that “we got it right and you don’t”. I don’t know how else to describe it or feel about most of these debates.

I would like to know why it is so important to make other people feel foolish. ( I am certainly not saying that you did that, I’m just asking why it’s so prevelent) I thought making fun of people at Mass-I assume the picture was at a Mass-who were holding hands had no other intent but to say, “If you can see yourself here, you look stupid.”

It’s never enough to say I don’t agree with it and don’t want anyone to force me to do it. Or, IMO it goes against the rubrics and here’s my evidence/reasoning.

The problem, IMO, is that there isn’t enough taught on the subject to prove it wrong. There is no lack of opinion on it however. But, opinion is still opinion, not necessarily the truth.

It seems to me these debates, exhaustive as they are, always come back to the same thing. Comfort level and how it looks.

Those for it are continually reminded that they shouldn’t buy into doing something because it feels good. But the bottom line on the cons side is always-it makes me uncomfortable or it doesn’t look right to me, it looks silly, feels silly, I’m not touchy feely. Those are all valid opinions and feelings.

I wonder what would happen if someone posted a picture of people praying at Mass, standing perfectly straight with hands in perfect “praying hands” posture and made comments as derogatory as those that have been made on the other side?

I can think of quite a few hateful rejoinders to counter things such as; "gettin mo God on me. Goin for the touchdown. What’s next clowns and jugglers? What no confetti?

But I won’t.
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judicame:
According to the Catholic Encyclopedia, the Orans gesture traditionally has quite a specific meaning:

Is it a worthy replacement for the humble personal devotion lost during the 1960s and 70s?

Unusual looking site. Some perspectives and presumptions I have not seen before. I will have to take a closer look when I get the chance.
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I’ve seen the accusation of Pride levelled at traditional Catholics before. I have to say I find it a very strange accusation for one man to level at another; more so than accusing someone else of the sin of ridicule. Are we qualified to judge the conscience of others in this way?
 
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PJR:
I wonder what would happen if someone posted a picture of people praying at Mass, standing perfectly straight with hands in perfect “praying hands” posture and made comments as derogatory as those that have been made on the other side?

I can think of quite a few hateful rejoinders to counter things such as; "gettin mo God on me. Goin for the touchdown. What’s next clowns and jugglers? What no confetti?

But I won’t.
It’s been done. I’ve had people tell me to get into the modern age, that I was stupid for not wanting to take that posture, and that they just don’t understand me. I was even told that there must be “something in the water” at my new parish because we celebrate an EWTN type Holy Mass. I have been told that I don’t love my neighbor because I don’t want to hold hands, that I am a bad mother for not allowing my children to do it and that I am not spiritual enough. But I don’t whine about it or accuse people of ridculing Christianity because of it.
I do understand that two wrongs don’t make a right, but the Silent Majority has been too silent for too long. " I am not comfortable with it", is ignored. “Get used to it”, becomes the mantra then it is stated that it is the norm.
When the shoe is on the other foot, those in control don’t like it.

I am at a wonderful parish where we have a Holy Mass with no innovations. I am blessed. Pitifully, I know people that are leaving the faith because of these types of things. Validate and change.
It hasn’t worked in the past to just say I am not comfortable. Perhaps something new is in order.
 
We hold hands during the Lords Prayer. It is not mandatory. If you do not want to, don’t. Personally, I like this gesture. We are one big family praying the prayer taught to us by our Father in Heaven. The greeting is also a wonderful gesture. These gestures gives us a feeling of belonging. I have been Catholic for 65 1/2 years and in the past, before “holding hands/ the sign of peace”, the parish was not nearly as friendly as now. We stand and visit after church, take the time to know one another. This may not be everywhere, but these friendly gestures have done a lot for our parish. The Catholic church, unfortunately, has been known for the 45/50 minute Mass, with some leaving right after communion. I see less of this now. As for the music. I sang Latin hymns in choir every day for 12 years during my school years. They felt “holy”. I still love that beautiful music, but I love the new as well. Some songs seem a bit inappropriate, but for the most part, great music. My grandchildren sing in the choir, (my son is the director) so maybe I am biased. It is wonderful to see young people with a smile, singing and praising God. We should be willing to accept some change in our worship service to accomodate the youth, and some of us oldies too. What would I choose…skip the hand holding, hand raising, sign of peace, beautiful guitar/violin music or have our youth go across the street to the church that gets their interest??? Yes, some of you will say we should not change for the youth, but, how often do you fall asleep in mass? My dad used to fall asleep, he wouldn’t if he were alive today. As I recall, song and dance were part of worship from the beginning of the church. They did what was appropriate for those days, now we do what is appropriate for today. I really don’t think God cares! I think He just wants us to worship Him and stop worrying about what is “correct”, hands up or down, etc!!! Besides, I think God wants us to have fun and also has the very best sense of humor…He made us, didn’t He???

Love and Peace;)
 
Anyone talking to you in that way is way off base. If you are not comfortable with it that is all that needs to be said.

I think maybe the ridicule/christianity post may have been misread. I made the same mistake when I scanned it quickly. Upon re-reading it I realized it said something different.

I think the poster meant ridicule in itself is not a good example of being Christian, I didn’t get that it was accusing you of ridiculing Christianity. Maybe I’m off base.

I can certainly see your point that these things are very important to you and you really don’t want it to become a norm. I would be just as upset if I witnessed someone making you feel foolish because you have such strong feelings and convicitions of how you choose to pray.

It is really too bad that we need to be so suspicious of each other. I have just never given what someone else is doing with their hands that much importance.(Unless I was in a backseat) I find it sad that so many people feel so threatened by this stuff. But, no one has ever treated me the way you have been treated so until I walk in your shoes. On the other hand some of the other side may not be like that and are just asking for the same thing you are.

I am truly sorry that anyone has been chastised while at Mass. We shouldn’t do that to each other. I don’t think the attitude of the orans advocates-on these threads anyway, your own experience is your own-wish to push the practice on you, but are trying to explain what it means to them. It seems to be just as pious to them. Who’s right and who’s wrong? Does there have to be a winner in this one?

Could both be legit? I think it’s possible. I really do respect your conviction to being faithful and reverent and I also respect that you are very uncomfortable with what you see as “creeping innovations” and feel called to point them out. I think we’d draw a lot more flies with honey though than with vinegar.
netmil(name removed by moderator):
It’s been done. I’ve had people tell me to get into the modern age, that I was stupid for not wanting to take that posture, and that they just don’t understand me. I was even told that there must be “something in the water” at my new parish because we celebrate an EWTN type Holy Mass. I have been told that I don’t love my neighbor because I don’t want to hold hands, that I am a bad mother for not allowing my children to do it and that I am not spiritual enough. But I don’t whine about it or accuse people of ridculing Christianity because of it.
I do understand that two wrongs don’t make a right, but the Silent Majority has been too silent for too long. " I am not comfortable with it", is ignored. “Get used to it”, becomes the mantra then it is stated that it is the norm.
When the shoe is on the other foot, those in control don’t like it.

I am at a wonderful parish where we have a Holy Mass with no innovations. I am blessed. Pitifully, I know people that are leaving the faith because of these types of things. Validate and change.
It hasn’t worked in the past to just say I am not comfortable. Perhaps something new is in order.
 
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PJR:
Could both be legit? I think it’s possible. I really do respect your conviction to being faithful and reverent and I also respect that you are very uncomfortable with what you see as “creeping innovations” and feel called to point them out. I think we’d draw a lot more flies with honey though than with vinegar.
The few times I have tried to be sweet and kind here, I have been chased by poster and slammed. Some people talk in circles and continue to give the same references yet won’t accept another viewpoint.

Sometimes we don’t care to attract flies. Sometimes we just want like minded people to agree and begin to act.

I have stated many times on these thread that I have absolutely no problem with someone praying in the Orans position. Do it in private. Perhaps if someone who came onto the board 11 posts before would not feel a need to call names before reading, we could all get along. But so many time here I also have been told that I should accept the innovations because God is there with us. No matter what we do. That is questioning my spirituality. They can dish it out but can’t take it.

I try to keep it light. I feel bad for those people who are not strong enough in their convictions to think that what they are doing is absolutely right, no matter what is said. I knew that when I got slammed by the moderists, yet did not chastise and complain.
 
If the parish you are at doesn’t have any innovations and you are happy with it, it would seem the problem has been solved in your case.

So what would you say is the purpose of these discussions? Is it only to draw like minded into the discussion then? No other point of view allowed?

I will agree that the tone has been shrill and many are guilty of being overly sharp, myself included. It is obviously a passionate topic this faith of ours, to each of us.

I just happen to think that those who hold different views than most on these topics are quickly mocked when they try to explain their position or feelings. Not that it hasn’t been 2 sided.
 
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PJR:
If the parish you are at doesn’t have any innovations and you are happy with it, it would seem the problem has been solved in your case.

So what would you say is the purpose of these discussions? Is it only to draw like minded into the discussion then? No other point of view allowed?
Exactly!
I can’t tell you how many times I have been in true discussions here and people jump in with, this is getting heated!
No, point/counterpoint is what it is all about. Some people here can’t get it. The “You should be happy because Jesus is here.” is saying to me, you are not spiritual enough. But when I state something about an accepted prayer posture (orans) or one that is being discouraged (holding hands at the Our Father), oh my! it’s a pile on!!
And do I whine? No, I stand firm in my convictions and give references. I don’t call the person rude or juvinile, I back up my point. THAT is what these forums are about. Not jumping up and down like Yosemite Sam every time one is offended and dismissing with the wave of a hand those facts we don’t like. There is a reason why there is a discussion.

I have been stopped enough times with a simple, you know, we may both be right. That rarely happens here.
 
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mgy100:
My daughter’s teacher told them to do it. She refused and instructed the teacher that it is wrong. The teacher didn’t argue. Me and the teacher are going to have a talk. She needs a little Catholic instruction herself. In her first communion get together the teachers said communion was a symbol and a meal. I was going to ask when we became lutheran. She knows communion is really the Body and Blood and not a symbol.
Just an fyi, Lutherans believe in the real presence (not a symbol). They however believe in consubstantiation (Christ is with the bread and wine) vs our Catholic belief in transubstantiation (or becomes).

My wife is Lutheran so I have the inside scoop! :>
 
You know, I think you got ignored here. Thank you for your post. I enjoyed reading it. Your words are simple and wise.

I especially like your appreciation for Our Lord’s sense of humor. My favorite priest, may he rest in peace, gave me a picture of the laughing Jesus. He said to always remember to have joy praising Him. I keep the picture inside my book of music for Mass.
Mom of 5:
We hold hands during the Lords Prayer. It is not mandatory. If you do not want to, don’t. Personally, I like this gesture. We are one big family praying the prayer taught to us by our Father in Heaven. The greeting is also a wonderful gesture. These gestures gives us a feeling of belonging. I have been Catholic for 65 1/2 years and in the past, before “holding hands/ the sign of peace”, the parish was not nearly as friendly as now. We stand and visit after church, take the time to know one another. This may not be everywhere, but these friendly gestures have done a lot for our parish. The Catholic church, unfortunately, has been known for the 45/50 minute Mass, with some leaving right after communion. I see less of this now. As for the music. I sang Latin hymns in choir every day for 12 years during my school years. They felt “holy”. I still love that beautiful music, but I love the new as well. Some songs seem a bit inappropriate, but for the most part, great music. My grandchildren sing in the choir, (my son is the director) so maybe I am biased. It is wonderful to see young people with a smile, singing and praising God. We should be willing to accept some change in our worship service to accomodate the youth, and some of us oldies too. What would I choose…skip the hand holding, hand raising, sign of peace, beautiful guitar/violin music or have our youth go across the street to the church that gets their interest??? Yes, some of you will say we should not change for the youth, but, how often do you fall asleep in mass? My dad used to fall asleep, he wouldn’t if he were alive today. As I recall, song and dance were part of worship from the beginning of the church. They did what was appropriate for those days, now we do what is appropriate for today. I really don’t think God cares! I think He just wants us to worship Him and stop worrying about what is “correct”, hands up or down, etc!!! Besides, I think God wants us to have fun and also has the very best sense of humor…He made us, didn’t He???

Love and Peace;)
 
Mom of 5:
We should be willing to accept some change in our worship service to accomodate the youth, and some of us oldies too. What would I choose…skip the hand holding, hand raising, sign of peace, beautiful guitar/violin music or have our youth go across the street to the church that gets their interest???
It took me some time to get back to your post.
My parish has an EWTN type Holy Mass. We have six of them on Sundays. Along with those, we have 200 Altar Boys. 300 children in our Youth group, and a multitude of Choir Girls.

Consider that children do not need to be entertained. That is not what we should be conveying to our children. We are there to share in Christ, not each other. When one puts the emphasis on entertainment and community instead of Christ, it does send a sign to the Youth that the Protestant church has everything we have. They don’t. And Protestants do the whole Protestant Community thing so much better than we do, but we have the Eucharist.

I actually have no problem with a Youth Mass, but a traditional mass should be offered as well. Then as the children grow in faith, they can grow into a more mature Holy Mass and not look to be entertained.
 
They will know we are Christians by how we love one another.


Does anyone here believe Holy Mother Church is BIG enough to embrace all of us, no matter how we hold our hands?

Do you think the Lord is looking down at us while we worship Him, screening out the ones who lift their hands, clasp their hands, put their hands palm to palm or just hang them at their sides.

WHEN IS THIS SILLYNESS GOING TO END?
 
robertaf said:
They will know we are Christians by how we love one another.

Does anyone here believe Holy Mother Church is BIG enough to embrace all of us, no matter how we hold our hands?

Do you think the Lord is looking down at us while we worship Him, screening out the ones who lift their hands, clasp their hands, put their hands palm to palm or just hang them at their sides.

WHEN IS THIS SILLYNESS GOING TO END?

Why is it that because people disagree you think we do not love each other? Why is it that a disagreement makes us less Christian. Christ himself disagreed with the moneychangers at the temple.

What exactly do you think this type of forum is for? It’s a discussion forum.

My goodness.
 
I suggest you go back and read some of the posts. How do you think they look to others?

Christ did kick out the money changers. You are not talking about the sinful folks Jesus got so angry at. Why would you even try to make such a comparason?

You are talking about your Brother and Sisters in Christ who just use a little different body language in how they pray.

No, I do not think these forums are for this sort of discussion. They aren’t meant, in my opinion, for debate that eventually ends in someone getting suspended.

Is Holy Mother Church Big enough to embrace all Catholics?
Does Jesus screen folks for the way they hold their hands? You didn’t answer those questions.
Why is one opinion more valid than another? Why not allow those in authority to deal with these things?
 
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robertaf:
I suggest you go back and read some of the posts. How do you think they look to others?

Christ did kick out the money changers. You are not talking about the sinful folks Jesus got so angry at. Why would you even try to make such a comparason?

You are talking about your Brother and Sisters in Christ who just use a little different body language in how they pray.

No, I do not think these forums are for this sort of discussion. They aren’t meant, in my opinion, for debate that eventually ends in someone getting suspended.

Is Holy Mother Church Big enough to embrace all Catholics?
Does Jesus screen folks for the way they hold their hands? You didn’t answer those questions.
Why is one opinion more valid than another? Why not allow those in authority to deal with these things?
I just went back and read this. When someone from the traditional camp gives a reference it is ignored. I really think that you should reread the posts standing in the other people’s shoes. I’m talking about brothers and sisters in Christ who have put innovations into the Holy Mass. Pray however one likes but in public prayer, keep the innovations out.

Is the Church Big enough to embrace all Catholics, of course.
Does Jesus screen folks for the way they hold their hands? Hmmmm, how do you know whether He does or not? I’ll ask him when I get there, but until then, I’m sure that He wanted us to be more intellectual than to just say, Okay I’ll go along with the crowd.
That leads to more and more liturgical abuses. I’m sure He’s not happy with that.

Please note that the person suspended was name calling. That is not allowed. Proclaiming that someone is wrong for disagreeing someone’s actions by calling names is not particularly correct.

As I stated before, be strong in your convictions. Give references and ignore that which annoys you. We may both be right, there are grey areas but no subject is so taboo that it cannot be debated.

And it helps when those on the the sides do not ignore or sweep references away. If you see something referenced, give one of your own. That’s how this is suppose to work.
 
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