Random Girl Gave Me Her Phone Number

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So I was at a weekend retreat for Catholic youth…Right before the retreat ended this girl, who I hadn’t talked to all weekend, gave me her phone number and requested that I text her.

If this had happened anywhere else, I would have thrown the piece of paper away. However, it happened at a Catholic retreat. Part of me says since it happened at a Catholic retreat, I should at least get to know her (I wouldn’t actually start dating her until I had gotten to know her better). Just because she was at a Catholic retreat doesn’t mean she was there willingly, but according to her name tag, she had been there before. It’s not the type of retreat you go to again if you don’t like it.

I discussed this with two female friends. One said to ignore it; the other said that it would be “polite” to respond.

Thoughts?
 
She’s a) “Catholic enough to be at a Catholic retreat” and b) basically walked up pushed her # on you.

!!!

Stuff like that does not happen to mere mortals. It is the stuff dreams are made of. Do you know how manuy decent Catholic guys pray for exactly that to happen???

My advice? Call and/or text IMMEDIATELY, as in, within 24 hours, particularly if you find her even remotely attractive. You’ll kick yourself for decades if you don’t. Plus time and tide wait for no man, and women love a guy who seizes the day.
 
Throw the number in the garbage and join the monastery.

You will thank me in about 50 or 60 years. 😃

-Tim-
 
Wow! How brave. Now, this is just me, but if I gave a guy my number, unasked… well. It would be a situation where I’d never see him again if I didn’t do something and had already decided that he was godly and faithful and attractive. 😊 The pre-vetting is done. She’s already sized you up. You’re in, if you want to be. Give her a call.
 
You know what? Amerrychase makes an excellent point, namely, the courage it took the young lady to do what she did *. Do right by this young lady and call her!

Plus I’m very old school about that stuff – upon further though, CALL rather than text. Maybe your doing so will make her year…ya never know…*
 
ARH521 said:
So I was at a weekend retreat for Catholic youth…Right before the retreat ended this girl, who I hadn’t talked to all weekend, gave me her phone number and requested that I text her.

If this had happened anywhere else, I would have thrown the piece of paper away. However, it happened at a Catholic retreat. Part of me says since it happened at a Catholic retreat, I should at least get to know her (I wouldn’t actually start dating her until I had gotten to know her better). Just because she was at a Catholic retreat doesn’t mean she was there willingly, but according to her name tag, she had been there before. It’s not the type of retreat you go to again if you don’t like it.

I discussed this with two female friends. One said to ignore it; the other said that it would be “polite” to respond.

Thoughts?
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Have a go. Worst case scenario you don’t have to speak with her again.
 
This young lady is obviously interested in you in at least some respect and is probably very nice. Unless she totally repulses you (which she clearly does not; otherwise you probably would not even bring it up, let alone think of dating her), I would certainly give her a chance.
 
No need to overthink things, or even think at all, just give the girl a call. Maybe you’ll hit it off, or maybe you’ll become friends.
 
I too had to endure numerous daily occurences similar of the Original Poster. It’s a knock on the door. So answer it already.
 
redeemersmith said:
Give it a call, you have nothing to risk
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Not quite sure I agree on the nothing to risk.

Dating or courting should only be for those who are trying to discern a marriage vocation. The OP hasn’t given us enough information.

Is he considering a consecrated religious life? the priesthood?

It’s not even clear to me from the post, if the phone number was given any intentions related to courtship at all. Maybe the girl had a question about something that came up at the retreat or some other matter.

Was there any sort of conversation attached to getting the phone number, or did a complete stranger run up, force a piece of paper in the gentleman’s hand and run off in the night?

Pax Christi
 
Dan_Daly said:
Not quite sure I agree on the nothing to risk.

Dating or courting should only be for those who are trying to discern a marriage vocation. The OP hasn’t given us enough information.

Is he considering a consecrated religious life? the priesthood?

It’s not even clear to me from the post, if the phone number was given any intentions related to courtship at all. Maybe the girl had a question about something that came up at the retreat or some other matter.

Was there any sort of conversation attached to getting the phone number, or did a complete stranger run up, force a piece of paper in the gentleman’s hand and run off in the night?

Pax Christi
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I am fairly certain that I am called to marriage

I literally hadn’t talked to her for all of the retreat.

She basically stole my name tag and stuck her number in with my name tag. She didn’t really say anything.

The note had her name, her number, and a message that said “text me!”
 
I’ve gotten a lot of responses saying I should contact her. Any thoughts on what I should say? As Dan Daly pointed out, her intentions may not be courtship, even though that would be the most logical explanation…but what if that isn’t the reason and I contact her and say something wrong?

#conundrum
 
A simple text to get a better idea of what she is looking for would help clarify where to go from here for you I think. Did she tell you her name?

Perhaps something along the lines of “Hi (name if she told you), what did you think of the retreat?”

God bless.

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One other factor that would influence my advice is your age and ability to support a family.

There is nothing at all wrong with getting to know someone of the opposite sex. However, if you are looking at a dating/courtship relationship, believing you are called to marriage is a prerequisite, but not the only one. In addition, you should be able to be married (or reasonably expect to be able in a very short time). That would include being of marriage age, and physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially able to support a wife and children.

Whether you are 12 or 20 and whether you are penniless or finacially stable would impact how to proceed.

Pax Christi
 
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