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There are moments in life when we must stop and reflect, look back from the direction in which we came, and see where exactly we’re standing. In some instances, it may seem like four or five years have passed without much progress at all, almost as if our feet have been slipping on the terrain. Where we stand, though, is the result of our own actions, decisions, and will. No one has forced our hand and we must own up to the responsibility of our actions, decisions and will, seeing how, in the past, it has caused us and other people suffering and anxiety. Every dollar spent is both cause and effect of the economy; every bad word spoken both cause and effect of an ill will.
I stand convicted as a sinner before God and Man. Lord, heal me and forgive me.
I found out today that a girl I went to school with – a girl who I once had a crush on for many years, actually – committed suicide sometime ago. She was such a sweet girl, and I feel sorry for her. I’ve never really understood the meaning of tragedy, but I think it must be something like this.
I’m going to die someday. And my girlfriend will too. I’m not sure which is worse: to live one’s life striving for money in order to pay the bills and buy a few simple luxury items like books and music and go out to eat once in awhile, or to sit at home without a job, without a worry, with nothing to do. I don’t think she really understands death, but who am I kidding, neither do I. I’m hardly the one to talk to her about it, but I love her. Fr. Bill talks every weekend about the parish’s debt and other social justice. Not him either.
I’m not tired.
 
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There are moments in life when we must stop and reflect, look back from the direction in which we came, and see where exactly we’re standing. In some instances, it may seem like four or five years have passed without much progress at all, almost as if our feet have been slipping on the terrain. Where we stand, though, is the result of our own actions, decisions, and will. No one has forced our hand and we must own up to the responsibility of our actions, decisions and will, seeing how, in the past, it has caused us and other people suffering and anxiety. Every dollar spent is both cause and effect of the economy; every bad word spoken both cause and effect of an ill will.
I stand convicted as a sinner before God and Man. Lord, heal me and forgive me.
I found out today that a girl I went to school with – a girl who I once had a crush on for many years, actually – committed suicide sometime ago. She was such a sweet girl, and I feel sorry for her. I’ve never really understood the meaning of tragedy, but I think it must be something like this.
I’m going to die someday. And my girlfriend will too. I’m not sure which is worse: to live one’s life striving for money in order to pay the bills and buy a few simple luxury items like books and music and go out to eat once in awhile, or to sit at home without a job, without a worry, with nothing to do. I don’t think she really understands death, but who am I kidding, neither do I. I’m hardly the one to talk to her about it, but I love her. Fr. Bill talks every weekend about the parish’s debt and other social justice. Not him either.
I’m not tired.
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You are in a relationship with a girl that you state does not understand death right after you just heard an ex-girlfriend comitted suicide - this says one of two things.
  1. You don’t understand the purpose of marriage as this girl can in no way consent to a valid Sacrament if she cannot understand life and death
  2. You are horribly judgemental of your girlfriend and disrespectful and you need to get off the internet and apologize to her immedately as well as call off the relationship for her own good.
 
joandarc2008 said:
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You are in a relationship with a girl that you state does not understand death right after you just heard an ex-girlfriend comitted suicide - this says one of two things.
  1. You don’t understand the purpose of marriage as this girl can in no way consent to a valid Sacrament if she cannot understand life and death
  2. You are horribly judgemental of your girlfriend and disrespectful and you need to get off the internet and apologize to her immedately as well as call off the relationship for her own good.
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Whoa! Cut a little slack here! He’s just musing in a pensive state, and needs someone to listen. This is not a detailed expose of their relationship, just a one-sided reflection on a current sadness. Why not we allow the discussion to develop just a bit more?
 
Jesus.our Lords peace be whit You.
I can say that I might come close to know how You feel,no one can never say “I know how You feel” whitout telling a huge lie. We all feel different. Yes,we will die,but somewhere in France is a headstone on a cemetery that has theese words on it: “I die to live”. Life,as we know it,ends whit death,but it is up to us to live so that we won’t die in any other meaning then medical,live so that we will keep on living,for ever.
I am sorry to hear about Your high-shool sweetheart. I fell in love whit a girl,o she was beutiful,blue eyes like a Irish lake,hair of gold,and a heart full of love. We did date for three days,I wos 15 and she wos 12,back in the “good old” -70. But we stayed friends for over 30 years,and I married,and when I said “I do” I wos thinking about her,not my soon to be wife. I am divorced now,and some years back,I lost my first,and true,love to drugs and alcohol. She found the wrong people,and I miss her so. Thats why I can say I think I know to a point how You feel. Hang on to Your girlfriend,treat her good and show Your love,and what ever needed to be said,don’t wait untill the next day.
I will offer a Hail Mary for you both,and I am sure all will be good.
 
joandarc2008 said:
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You are in a relationship with a girl that you state does not understand death right after you just heard an ex-girlfriend comitted suicide - this says one of two things.
  1. You don’t understand the purpose of marriage as this girl can in no way consent to a valid Sacrament if she cannot understand life and death
  2. You are horribly judgemental of your girlfriend and disrespectful and you need to get off the internet and apologize to her immedately as well as call off the relationship for her own good.
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Keep working on that annulment, why don’t you?
 
po18guy said:
Whoa! Cut a little slack here! He’s just musing in a pensive state, and needs someone to listen. This is not a detailed expose of their relationship, just a one-sided reflection on a current sadness. Why not we allow the discussion to develop just a bit more?
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Because he was over on another forum posting several threads that were of this type to his girlfriend claiming his girlfriend has a learning disability. He then had a thread closed after coming on and saying that he had “pwnd” all of us because he felt the need to brag about the relationship lasting five months even though every small decision needs a thread. Then there was a thread about CAFers weren’t worth sharing with. A quiet pensive sharing does not mean you need to further accuse/diagnose your girlfriend.

If you want to come on and ask for support and prayers do that. If you want to veil an attack on your girlfriend in it that is wrong. Switching sections will only get you by for so long.
 
Epistemes said:
Keep working on that annulment, why don’t you?
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And there it is - it is like one other poster said so aptly on another thread - we all hope you get the outside help you need before this goes to marriage or she will be on here years from now trying to figure out how to get away from a Narccissist.
 
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