Really "over" my husband

[Love6493]

I’m so happy you wrote this. I was in a similar situation. My husband was actually aethiest and our marriage had gotten so bad. He would call me naive for believing in God and we would get into huge arguments about it and I could never prove him wrong. Then one day my Godmother posted a link on facebook about a book called “an exorcist tell his story” by father Gabriel Amorth. This book changed our entire lives and now my husband is a firm believer and will be Catholic next Saturday at Easter vigil mass!! The book is by the Vatican’s ex chief exorcist (he died last year). He talks about his encounters with the people he performed exorcisms on. I mean, there were some as young as five years old who during the exorcism spoke back in languages such as Latin, and Greek and after the exorcism only knew Italian (their native language) and had no recollection of the exorcism. This is the BEST book for non believers or those who are luke warm. We began to pray together as a family, he says the rosary daily and our marriage has turned around completely. One thing I must add is that Satan will try to test your marriage at times but that is because he wants you to divorce! You guys sound like you both love each other very much still but without a strong family faith it will be very tough to work out. Please look into this book or at least google the name Father Gabriel Amorth. The book is like 8bucks in kindle. I hope I helped! God Bless your family!!

 

[pensmama87]

I think this can be very common at this stage in marriage. I just had my fourth and we’ve been married seven years. We’ve had several rough patches, and adjusting to life as a family of six has dredged a lot of that stuff up for me, too. The thing I keep reminding myself is that we will get past it. We had an opportunity for a date night this week (just us and the baby) and it was amazing how quickly all the resentment melted away once we were actually doing something fun.

It’s very easy to say “let it go” but very hard to actually do, especially in late pregnancy or early postpartum. I know I’ve been really helped out by talk therapy in this time period, and I did have postpartum depression after two of my children (and some baby blues after the other two, too, but not as severe.) You can ask your OB or midwife about referrals if you’re not sure where to start. Couples therapy may be really helpful too, because it does sound like your husband is not coping very well with these challenges, either. As other posters have said, you need to present a united front for your children, and you need to agree on what that will look like.

I haven’t been able to read all the thread in detail, but what other support do you and your husband have? Family nearby? Do you feel connected to your parish? Do you have good mom friends? Does your husband have other male friends who are also dads? (This was HUGE for my husband and there was a huge shift in our marriage when he began spending more time with men who had similarly-aged children, rather than his college buddies who were still single and didn’t really get family life.)

Please be assured of my prayers!