Received communion from a girl wearing ripped tights

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I didn’t read all the posts, but wouldn’t something such as dress be addressed during the training? I sure would think so.
 
The problem here is clericalism. The lack of a place and space in which the community is able to determine its own conventions creates a situation in which, unless a priest does it, no-one does it. Many secular organisations have dress codes. Catholics don’t seem (at least so it appears from CAF) to organise themselves into having one.
 
The bottom line is that regardless of how the Eucharistic Minister is dressed, the Body of Christ is the Body of Christ. I feel that if I was so overwhelmed by judgemental feelings at every Mass I go to, that I’d not go to avoid receiving in that state.
 
Remember my friend the door is open to ALL not just a few.

Sadly we all judge including myself. It’s wrong to judge. Say a prayer for forgiveness.
 
Students wear the strangest of clothes. If you go to Mass on campus, you can expect to see some odd sights. However, your attention should be on the Mass, not on what other people are wearing. Whether an Extraordinary Minister is appropriately dressed is a matter for the celebrant. Just remember that you are receiving the body and blood of Our Lord, Jesus Christ and that doesn’t depend upon the suitability or the dress sense of the minister.

In art, Jesus is usually depicted as a 13th century Florentine nobleman. If a 1st century Galilean Jew suddenly appeared to offer you Holy Communion, you might consider his clothing totally inappropriate.
 
HumbleIOughtToBe said:
It has been documented that some people are attracted to veils in a lustful way. I can’t link to the site that documents this phenomena without violating CAF regulation.
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Yes, this is true. There are other fetishes regarding Catholic dress–like you said, can’t link anything here. It wouldn’t be proper to do so. But it’s worth remembering that lust varies in its trigger. For people who are around miniskirts and punk accessories like ripped tights constantly (e.g., figure skaters, college students, musicians and other performers, etc.), it just seems normal and there is no sexual association.

OP, can you get in the line and receive from the priest, and just ignore the people who are wearing clothing that you have problems with? Don’t even look at them.
 
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Bataar said:
If that’s the case, they probably won’t change. They’re probably among the 70% of Catholics who don’t believe the Eucharist is the body and blood of Jesus. It’s issues like this and many others that drove me to the Latin and Mass.
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I’d be surprised if people who were attending daily Mass were among this group. And you cannot determine belief from dress.
 
College kids dressing like college kids, the horror! 😳:roll_eyes:

They are at Mass, daily Mass, and all you care about is how they are dressed?

And we wonder why so many young people leave the Church?

OP, if attending Mass at a college is so difficult for you, why do it? Is there not a regular parish Church in your area? Mass on college campuses is generally a lot more casual, especially daily Mass. Why not just be happy for the opportunity?
 
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This isn’t a question of whether or not it is “OK“ it’s really at the pastor’s discretion. What someone wears is not necessarily a sign of respect or disrespect. The laid-back approach the pastor may be taking with this college group may have its reasons. Perhaps they are coming from class. Perhaps they are coming from a sports practice. Because these things are fashionable, they might believe that they are dressing stylishly. Where you think they’re dressing sloppily. In my small town we are a farming community. Many farmers come to mass directly from the barn. They take off their boots, they wash their hands, and they come to mass. It is not disrespectful, it is the way things are in that context. I know a man who ministers to people in prison, and he wears clothes that are appropriate for going into a prison to give communion. If you are really concerned about it, I suggest you talk to the pastor and understand his reasoning.
 
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Theresa1 said:
I’m confused as to how this is ok.
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You don’t have to think that it is “ok”, no matter what anyone says.
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Someone told me to just go on the line with the priest
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That’s basically where you have to start. Everyone, without exception, has a limit as far as what is acceptable attire, even for people sitting in the pews. See what his is and what he thinks about the issue. Simply let him know of your concerns. Will he implement a dress code on the spot, in line with your desires? Doubtful. Nevertheless, it’s a worthwhile discussion and perhaps some progress can be made.

Dan
 
1ke said:
Many farmers come to mass directly from the barn.
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Interesting. I would never have thought to do such a thing and don’t think it was/is common in my particular country parish (judging by the smells I notice). Back in the day, if I was in the barn milking or cleaning up the animal byproducts, the first thing I would do after getting into the house would be to change my clothes (was never an overalls guy)…not to mention going to church.

Dan
 
At daily Mass, I see all sorts of attire.
Construction workers in their safety yellow, business people in suits, SAHM’s in jeans & t-shits.
If I am going to daily Mass, it means I have carved out that time in my schedule for Mass. People should be happy about that, not condemning me for my attire.
 
CilladeRoma said:
People should be happy about that, not condemning me for my attire.
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I’m not sure why you replied to me and said that. Am I unhappy about people going to Mass? Did I condemn anyone for anything?

Dan
 
LilyM said:
I’m presuming you mean ripped tights and nothing else on bottom (ie not covered by something more modest like a skirt or long shorts)?
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Theresa1 said:
And not even long shirts to cover.
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Sorry, but I am a bit confused about what they are actually wearing. @Theresa1, do you mean that they are wearing nothing but hosiery (and presumably underwear) on their bottom half? That would sound very odd and I would assume that what you are talking about are leggings rather than tights. In my opinion there’s nothing wrong with leggings, although I know some people consider them immodest. If you really do mean that they are just wearing hosiery that sounds like an odd way to dress under any circumstances.

In general, I’m sure that if it’s a problem the university chaplain will bring it to their attention. If he hasn’t done so, I assume he considers that it’s okay. At the end of the day, they are only human legs. Many years ago I was in Jerusalem and an Anglican priest had been given permission to celebrate Holy Communion in a Catholic chapel. It was incredibly hot, so I was wearing shorts and a t-shirt, like just about everyone else. The priest then asked whether I’d be able to serve for him and administer the chalice. I said I felt I should go and change into long trousers at least, as no vestments were provided for a server, but he said it was fine. I guess he has a point.
 
If I were on my way to Mass to serve, and I ripped my tights, my choice would be do I go home and change? This would make me late to Mass and unable to serve as I’d promised. I could simply go and serve even though my clothes were not perfect.
 
I know ripped jeans are a fashion but I don’t know about ripped tights.

We also don’t know if the tights were ripped only moments before.

I know I won’t have time to go home and change if the rip occurred during mass and even shortly before.

Edit: okay I now know ripped tights are a thing but I’ve never paid attention to fashion.
 
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You stated that you always changed before Mass.
I just gave an example of how that might not always be possible, and that my attending Mass should be more important than what I was wearing.
 
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