Received communion from a girl wearing ripped tights

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CilladeRoma said:
You stated that you always changed before Mass.
I just gave an example of how that might not always be possible, and that my attending Mass should be more important than what I was wearing.
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Yes, I did and I do. The fact that I do that is no reason to suggest or even think that I am unhappy that people are at Mass and/or am condemning some who are.

Dan
 
Well there are two different situations at play here. And there is a difference between merely attending Mass and actually serving at Mass, for example as a reader and Lay Eucharistic Minister.

Men and women showing up straight from work to attend Mass is not the issue. I’m fine with seeing Cops in uniform, nurses and doctors in scrubs, construction workers in jeans etc etc.

This is about men showing up in football jerseys and sandals and wearing ball caps with sunglasses or women in shorts that are barely 1/4 of the way down the thigh and wearing a shirt that shows their stomach.

The inappropriate part isn’t just the clothes, but instead had to do with their view of why they wore what they did. I’m sure if we did a poll and asked people what they should wear to a wedding or a funeral; shorts, sandals, yoga pants, and ripped jeans probably wouldn’t make the cut.

So there’s nothing wrong with teaching people how they should be dressing to attend Mass. Your financial status shouldn’t dictate your willingness to at least dress modestly and respectfully.
 
I think it is regrettable the new low in terms of morals that sometimes society falls into. I think you should speak with the church priest to bring your concerns.

It is really a blasphemy to do something like that to our Lord and causes scandal if nothing is being done.

God Bless
 
I don’t know if this suggestion will be helpful but I’ll throw it out there.
If you think of this as a strategy of the devil to distract you, he’s become very successful at it. He has found that this strategy is working so he’s turning up the heat on it. It’s getting a stronger control of your thoughts during mass.

What can a person do to push those thoughts aside? Bring a small prayer card to look at. Keep your eyes closed as you pray. At the beginning of mass, tell our Lord how sorry you are about the situation and ask him to help you put it aside on a shelf while you are in the church. If you need to talk to him about it, you’ll pick it up again on your way out. It takes a lot of self discipline to do that.

God bless you that you are a daily communicant. The devil hates that! St Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle!
 
Theresa1 said:
The Mass I attend is at a college campus and this occurs daily.
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This is probably one of the key parts of the post. Unfortunately, some college students don’t have the greatest sense of modesty. If you don’t have another choice of churches, then my advise to you is to go to communion in the priests line. On a college campus, the priest is catering to the kids for the most part. He wants them there, he will do almost anything to keep them engaged and attending. He will not die on the hill of a dress code for EM’s.

You also have the other option of volunteering as an EM yourself and then providing a quiet example of how an EM should dress. This may or may not be successful, it will depend on your attitude.

Don’t get me wrong I feel your pain, I’ve gone to youth masses where the lectors are dressed in miniskirts which ride up when they bow before the altar (YIKES). Frankly, I’d be happier if they wore jeans over miniskirts. Sometimes I wonder if their parents see what they are wearing before they leave the house, and in the case of the college students the answer is likely no. And if their parents weren’t paying attention during the time the kids lived at home, then they didn’t learn the concept of modest dress for mass. (They may have been unwilling to battle over clothing if it meant the kid at least attended Mass).
 
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Crusader13 said:
Exactly. I remember at my former parish men weren’t allowed to wear jeans if they were going to be reading.
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Yes, but I am assuming you are both talking about regular parishes, not the Newman Center of a college.

Whether you like it or not, a college campus is not a parish church. Most campus priests I know are not going to pick a dress code as a hill to die on.

If the OP insists on going to a college campus for daily Mass, then they need to realize that there are just going to be somethings that she/he may not like.
 
Attending Mass on a college campus is a choice.
Are there no other parishes she can attend?
 
not overwhelmed and your accusation of me being judgemental is not only incorrect but shows your misplaced anger. By the way, by you calling me judgemental, especially in light of my initial post, shows not only that you’re (clearly) wrong (otherwise maybe Padre Pio was judgemental too) but maybe you can tell us how you manage never to judge anyone that you would be the perfect one to call out others as “judgmental”. Perhaps others would benefit but I will ignore your future posts.
 
Causing scandal is an active process, not a passive one, and you’re in no position to read into the mind and motives of someone with holes in her tights. If what we wear can cause scandal, what about the woman I mentioned upthread who wears a veil to Mass to “feel pretty?” (She is attractive, by the way). Is she “causing scandal” when people look at her? She definitely spelled out her motives. Why does it seem like the veil-wearers are under less scrutiny for their motives than someone with holes in her tights?

As pointed out upthread, modesty can quickly become immodest . . . especially when you’re flaunting your virtue to an audience.
 
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Sarcelle said:
I know ripped jeans are a fashion but I don’t know about ripped tights.

We also don’t know if the tights were ripped only moments before.

I know I won’t have time to go home and change if the rip occurred during mass and even shortly before.

Edit: okay I now know ripped tights are a thing but I’ve never paid attention to fashion.
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Yeah, unfortunately 90s grunge is rearing it’s ugly head. Again.
 
Theresa1 said:
not overwhelmed and your accusation of me being judgemental is not only incorrect but shows your misplaced anger.
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I don’t know how many people you need to point this out to you before you start believing it, but you are unfairly passing judgment on someone else rather than placing your focus on the Mass, where it should be.
 
Ok I can see your point and you’re right in that college campuses are going to be more casual and informal. However, if you’re going to be serving at Mass and you know you attend fairly frequently during the week, there’s nothing wrong with swapping out the ripped and tattered jeans for ones that are not.

I’m aware that the style of dress tends to differ from parish to parish. I recall one parish in a very affluent neighborhood was actually far more casual and informal. Men & women in shorts and sandals etc etc. and another parish I attended in a lower income neighborhood, the majority were in slacks, coats, dresses etc etc.
 
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Thank you. I wonder though, are natural instinctive feelings (of something might be wrong) necessarily a “judgement? And if so, why do there angrily stop there. Some are so holy in their nonjudgmentalness they tell me to stay away from Mass! I can’t imagine the Lord being pleased that they thought their sin was less than mine. Especially since I never said I would stop going because. Imagine discouraging someone from attending Mass!
 
what are you angry about lol? College kids dress differently you don’t make sense but it was a good angry post this thread needed for likeminded individuals to “heart” Congrats.
 
here we go again, should Padre Pio have been scolded for being judgy? How do you manage never to judge anyone ever?
 
irrelevant to the discussion clearly about sensuality at Mass, cleavage and sheer pants. Cmon folks you know it’s not about farmers or construction workers. Are we afraid to admit the obvious?
 
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