Received communion from a girl wearing ripped tights

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Okay just Google ripped tights fashion. You’ll see what a classy look it is.
 
I might discuss something with my pastor, but I’d come out and correct him. That is just too presumptuous.
 
Become acquainted with someone just to have the opportunity to correct them? That’s not going to go over well. If something is amiss, I trust the pastor will address it.
 
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The Mass I attend is at a college campus and this occurs daily.
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Haven’t read the thread yet, but I will. In the meantime, if this sort of thing is upsetting to you, a college campus isn’t probably the best place for you to attend mass.
 
If I take communion from someone’s fingers to my mouth I really don’t consider her a stranger.
 
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No, my response was to (name removed by moderator). I don’t know if I messed up the quote. Sorry about that.
 
These posters should be in the vestibule or narthex of every Catholic church.

For those coming to Mass for the first time, I would have some sort of announcement (not everyone reads the bulletin) along the lines of:

“If you are new to our church, we welcome you and hope you will come back. For first-time visitors, we are indeed a “come as you are” church. We would much rather have you here than not. We’re glad you’re here. We do have a fairly liberal dress code compared to many churches. We are not a terribly formal church and we don’t require ‘Sunday best’. On your way out, please stop and take a look at the dress code poster, and ask the usher if you have any questions.”

Daisy Duke shorts, tube tops, sleeveless T-shirts, and jeans sagging below the underwear could be dealt with on a case-by-case basis.
 
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I was once reprimanded by a woman when I received communion for being a little on the tall side. This is why, if possible, I usually receive from the priest or deacon. The Eucharist being valid does not depend on whether the person you are receiving from is dressed appropriately.
 
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Daisy Duke shorts, tube tops, sleeveless T-shirts, and jeans sagging below the underwear could be dealt with on a case-by-case basis.
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Yes. Dealt with quietly, discreetly, and respectfully. I wouldn’t expect (or want) the priest to “call them out” from the pulpit. Extreme cases would justify denying entry.

By allowing leeway for first-timers, I had in mind more common, less flagrant things such as fully bare shoulders on women, shorts for men where the weather doesn’t mandate it, too-tight jeans that are perceived more as a fashion norm than as a sexually revealing cut, and so on.
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Yes. We as Catholics are pretty chill about dress norms, compared to many churches. We treat Mass as the continuation of the Sacrifice on Calvary, not as a social event to see, be seen, and greet and visit with our friends.
 
I struggled with a similar concern before entering the church. One thing I noticed was the younger people who were dressed less-than-modestly never seemed to behave immodestly. I think the culture and fashion has made a lot of immodest clothing so commonplace that it’s just become normal dress, and there’s no conscious attempt at attention-seeking.

Now, I’d like to see more modest clothing, for sure. But at the same time it almost seems like there’s an increased element of holiness in young people who attend mass unaware of sending any signals by how they’re dressed. Obviously I can’t be 100% sure that this is the case. But when I try to look at it through this lens it makes me feel more peaceful.
 
I think that quote is silly, I can hear Padre Pio say he’d much rather you be reverant so come back when you are. He turned people away. Earlier in the thread a priest refused to give communion to a woman exposing her cleavage. I know your quote sounds more welcoming and you make it sound holier and better but it may not necessarily make it so.
 
I agree, the only problem I have is when certain clothes are obviously immodest. A very low cut blouse, for example, revealing cleavage…if you’re college aged I find it hard to chalk that up to ignorance. In the old days we expected 5 year olds to high standards. Are we being too lax? The topping is the folks that see that and say the problem is with me for not accepting well enough this irreverence. It’s better she’s here showing cleavage than out there in the streets. I don’t know, wasn’t there a wedding parable about improper attire causing outrage. They were tossed out.
 
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I think that quote is silly, I can hear Padre Pio say he’d much rather you be reverant so come back when you are. He turned people away. Earlier in the thread a priest refused to give communion to a woman exposing her cleavage. I know your quote sounds more welcoming and you make it sound holier and better but it may not necessarily make it so.
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Sorry you feel that way. I have in mind people who might be given the grace to come to Mass, but could be turned off for life by being made feel bad because they didn’t comprehend that this article of clothing, or that, isn’t acceptable for Catholic worship. I’d rather err on the side of charity, than to turn away someone who is clueless about proper dress.
 
I understand, I can’t help think of Padre Pio though, he didn’t have that concern of them never coming back. Maybe he thought he was doing what was in their souls best interest? And trust that the Holy Spirit will lead them back. I think it should be ok to mention dress code without fear of the fragility of others ego (?) versus what’s best for their soul. I would accept humiliations if it were good for my soul, I have in fact.What do you think?
 
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You can’t pick and choose who answers you on a public forum.

I’m sorry you don’t like differences of opinion.

If you really don’t like what is happening at the Mass make an appointment to talk priest.
 
ok thanks …i don’t mind differences of opinion. Please don’t judge wrongly.
 
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