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Clang74
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Perhaps my last post came across wrong. I didn’t mean to come across ungrateful. Thank you for your replies. I guess there’s some confusion on my part, too…
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Irishmom2
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Here is my favorite go to prayer.
Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us and increase your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments, we might not despair nor become despondent,
but with great confidence, submit ourselves to your holy will,
which is Love and Mercy itself.
Amen.
Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us and increase your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments, we might not despair nor become despondent,
but with great confidence, submit ourselves to your holy will,
which is Love and Mercy itself.
Amen.
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JMMJ
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Truthfully, the whole thing sounds strange to me. You and she should have just planned an afternoon or evening date and kept church and the kids and the rest of the family out of it. If you plan to abide by Church rules, you don’t even know if you are “available” at this point in time.
Keep it simple. Six kids brings a whole lot with it. Her reaction to what happened, as you describe it, is “off”. Quite frankly, it is weird that you didn’t ask her family where she was before driving off like that. The whole thing sounds weird.
Keep it simple. Six kids brings a whole lot with it. Her reaction to what happened, as you describe it, is “off”. Quite frankly, it is weird that you didn’t ask her family where she was before driving off like that. The whole thing sounds weird.
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Clang74
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So, update on this matter…
We spoke Monday evening. We agreed there was a massive miscommunication. Due to it still having some residual emotions, she mentioned avoiding “date-like” situations for now…but maintaining a friendship.
I mentioned that our “friendship” was based on the pretense of something else eventually coming from it, and recommended no contact until/unless the Tribunal finds my marriage to have been invalid.
Hard decision, but perhaps He was trying to tell us to cool our jets, and that we were deceiving ourselves about our “appropriate” relationship.
We spoke Monday evening. We agreed there was a massive miscommunication. Due to it still having some residual emotions, she mentioned avoiding “date-like” situations for now…but maintaining a friendship.
I mentioned that our “friendship” was based on the pretense of something else eventually coming from it, and recommended no contact until/unless the Tribunal finds my marriage to have been invalid.
Hard decision, but perhaps He was trying to tell us to cool our jets, and that we were deceiving ourselves about our “appropriate” relationship.
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TheLittleLady
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Sounds wise.
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Clang74
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Yeah…i think it was a matter of too many opinions on this matter. I liked the opinions that amounted to “just keep the relationship chaste, and it’s appropriate,” but it seems that I liked them because they served my purpose… not His. There are no “loopholes” with God. Even if a chaste, “friends-only” relationship is “appropriate”, doing so with the intention of moving on to more feels a little “off”…it’s no wonder we felt so conflicted. Throw in the potential emotional ruin (and spiritual temptation) if the petition doesn’t go as planned, and there’s a lot of potential pain. While I hold onto the idea of contacting her if my marriage IS found to be invalid, “no contact” seems like the holiest option at this time. I will still pray for her emotional peace, but will do so without any self-serving motives.
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