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lvalencourt
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Nick,
From what I have seen, most of the people who have posted on here have your best interests at heart. Unfortunately, none of us truly know your situation and what your relationship with your girlfriend is like.
I am married to a Protestant, and I have seen first-hand some of the difficulties that are faced between Catholics and Protestants when they marry. Unlike many others who have posted here, however, I love my husband more than anyone else on earth, and I would marry him again in a heartbeat. He does not make belittling comments or hold my faith against me in any way. We have both accepted that we disagree on certain points, and we love each other for the faith we have. And while I pray that he will see the truth of the Catholic faith, I cannot expect that he will convert. One thing you learn is that you cannot expect your spouse to change. It will only happen with God’s intervention if He wills it.
My marriage has helped me grow in my own Catholic faith, understanding what I believe as a Catholic and why I don’t believe what Protestants teach. This would not have happened without my husband. Personally, I have grown in my faith more than I ever would have without him.
In your relationship you need to make sure that you discuss what you expect out of a relationship and out of marriage. My husband knew in our first month of dating that I would not go to church alone for the rest of my life. We created a compromise from the beginning and now attend two churches each Sunday. Some feel this can’t be sustained, but I disagree. If it is important to you, it will happen.
I will say that the decision should be taken seriously. It is possible, however, to have a healthy, happy, faithful marriage when marrying outside of your Catholic faith.
From what I have seen, most of the people who have posted on here have your best interests at heart. Unfortunately, none of us truly know your situation and what your relationship with your girlfriend is like.
I am married to a Protestant, and I have seen first-hand some of the difficulties that are faced between Catholics and Protestants when they marry. Unlike many others who have posted here, however, I love my husband more than anyone else on earth, and I would marry him again in a heartbeat. He does not make belittling comments or hold my faith against me in any way. We have both accepted that we disagree on certain points, and we love each other for the faith we have. And while I pray that he will see the truth of the Catholic faith, I cannot expect that he will convert. One thing you learn is that you cannot expect your spouse to change. It will only happen with God’s intervention if He wills it.
My marriage has helped me grow in my own Catholic faith, understanding what I believe as a Catholic and why I don’t believe what Protestants teach. This would not have happened without my husband. Personally, I have grown in my faith more than I ever would have without him.
In your relationship you need to make sure that you discuss what you expect out of a relationship and out of marriage. My husband knew in our first month of dating that I would not go to church alone for the rest of my life. We created a compromise from the beginning and now attend two churches each Sunday. Some feel this can’t be sustained, but I disagree. If it is important to you, it will happen.
I will say that the decision should be taken seriously. It is possible, however, to have a healthy, happy, faithful marriage when marrying outside of your Catholic faith.
