Relationship with a Priest

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I’m a married man. There’s nothing technically wrong with developing a new legitimate, chaste friendship with another woman. Still, for prudential reasons I’m setting boundaries well away from that. Groups would be fine. Acquaintanceship would be fine. But spending time together solo? No, I’m not doing that. It’s just not a wise decision. Nip it in the bud and don’t tiptoe to the edge of the tipping point. You’re all the more likely to lose your balance.
 
White_Tree said:
Priests leaving the clerical state due to the desire to marry is more common than people think. A woman I knew several years ago was married to a former priest…
If you end up marrying this guy, he is not going to be a priest anymore,
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There have been Roman Catholic priests who got married and were accepted as priests in the Anglican Church or the Eastern Orthodox Church.
 
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AlNg said:
There have been Roman Catholic priests who got married and were accepted as priests in the Anglican Church
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This is not going to be an awesome line of thought from a Catholic perspective. Haha. “Becoming Anglican” isn’t really a viable option for someone who believes Catholicism is true. One certainly can’t change religions just to accommodate the private life choices that happen to be otherwise convenient for us.

We conform ourselves to the religion we believe is true.

We don’t seek out a new religion that we think would be easier to temporarily get away with XYZ in.
 
AdamP88 said:
Maybe. But you’d be surprised how often this is really a thing.
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Totally true. I had a crush on Father Mike Schmitz…

Thank God, I’m in Orlando FL and he’s in Duluth, Minnesota… and now a days flying there would be very hard. 😉
 
annad347 said:
Totally true. I had a crush on Father Mike Schmitz…

Thank God, I’m in Orlando FL and he’s in Duluth, Minnesota… and now a days flying there would be very hard. 😉
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😂 Real talk, when he grew his mountain man beard, I wondered if he did that to try to look less attractive to the ladies. To avoid this exact kind of unhealthy dynamic.

Because yes, I think poor Father Mike is a good example of a priest who, in all seriousness, might have to deal with more of this kind of thing than others. He’s conventionally attractive and athletic, and still quite young. And his primary ministry is with probably-predominantly-single young adults on a college campus. And being well known through his videos, I’m sure he gets plenty of commentary on his attractiveness, and it’s hard to imagine that not feeling flattering.

Pray for our priests, y’all.
 
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Okay just an update, I went with my instinct and what I felt was right and I called him and told him I’d like to see him tonight. We’re going to meet outside the church and go for a walk, and I will tell him how I feel. I do pray that he makes whatever decision God wants for him. Please keep me in your prayers also.
 
Do you feel entitled to take away what he has freely given to God?
 
You should cease and desist on the time together. Change your prayer times so that they don’t coincide with his. Just stop it. Remind him, and yourself, he’s a priest.
 
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MNathaniel:
One certainly can’t change religions just to accommodate the private life choices that happen to be otherwise convenient for us.
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It has happened.
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Yes, but been a bad thing on 100% of those occasions.

Any time a human being changes religion for any reason other than believing the old religion is false and the new religion true, that’s hypocrisy. Hypocrisy is bad.

Not debating that hypocrisy happens. Just pointing out that hypocrisy is bad.
 
CatholicLiving said:
Okay just an update, I went with my instinct and what I felt was right and I called him and told him I’d like to see him tonight. We’re going to meet outside the church and go for a walk, and I will tell him how I feel. I do pray that he makes whatever decision God wants for him. Please keep me in your prayers also.
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I hope this man is a good and holy priest, and that he can resist whatever temptation you are throwing at him. I don’t know if you’re confused or just plain twisted and selfish, but I’ll pray for you either way.
 
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