Relationship with non-practicing girl

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Again thanks a lot everyone!!

In my opinion now the best idea would be to proceed, as @PJM @Constantin and @Brittany say, being very very cautious …
I mean she could start changing at some point, hopefully not too far, and if she doesn’t, and things go back to being inappropriate I will just leave…

I would like to clarify a couple of points that I may have not described well (English is not my first language…) 🙂
@PennyinCanada she never sent me inappropriate pictures, we exchanged ecplicit texts, so I am at least 50% responsible for this (and thanks for your music suggestion… actually sometimes I listen to music even while working but I haven’t though of that 😅) and I am not sure she decided to leave the Catholic Church… maybe her education on this regard hasn’t been very good… I’ll ask her about this, you made me curious 🙂
@egretps would you say we are dating? i have never met her yet… I have been part of a young adults group, honestly I did not like it very much, but maybe it was just not the right one for me

God bless all of you!!
 
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Again, have you not met this girl ever in real life? Have you heard of catfishing? Before you take any more steps forward, I think it would be prudent to actually meet face to face.
 
Drop her like a hot rock and never look back. Only pain can come from this. You should only marry someone who will help you get into Heaven, do you think this girl will be helping you get to Heaven?

Not to mention if she has no problem being unchaste now, then she will never have a problem with it.

Bad signs means run like Hell is on your heels. It probably is!
 
The fact that she believes that contraception is ok would be a red light for me. My advice is don’t bother with this relationship. Someone better will come along. Do you want to be in a situation where you’re married and she goes on the pill without your consent?

It may be the case that she’s open to converting, but IMO that is a bad basis for a relationship. You can’t guarantee she ever will and it’s not up to you to “save” her.
 
Jamie5 said:
Again, have you not met this girl ever in real life? Have you heard of catfishing? Before you take any more steps forward, I think it would be prudent to actually meet face to face.
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My thoughts exactly.

You are not dating this girl.

You are exchanging dirty texts with a faceless stranger.

Really, until you have at minimum skyped with this person you are not even friends.
 
Dating? Well in a way. Do you exchange emails/texts/skype with others the same way? There is an element of romance so …

I would say plenty of people today meet and communicate online and then finally meet and then marry. I think maybe some of them would say that yes they were dating online before they met in real life.

People years ago wrote letters…

Dating is quite possibly ‘dangerous’ and a set up for heartbreak unless you are close to being able to be married.

For example, not your situation, a couple dating in high school and then college, graduating, gettting that first job… then getting married? If there is any passion at all that one on one dating could trip a healthy couple up. Doesn’t mean that the same two people can’t know each other or socialize in the same time,but that intimate exchange of time plus communication and proximity…
 
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Well guys, I stopped talking with her, it’s over… I am feeling down now…
 
I’m sorry that you are going through this. It’s time to lean into your faith. And keep busy but allow some time to grieve.
 
Your priest is spot on. You know what’s right so don’t allow anyone to cause you to compromise. If she’s “the one”, she’ll respect the conviction. Better to find out now than later you don’t have a keeper. 26? Do some mission trips! Take advantage of youth and singlehood. The world is your oyster!
 
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Call me old fashioned but I don’t consider relationships that exist only online as being bona fide relationships.
 
Hey, that’s probably normal to be down a little. But don’t let it consume you. It’s most likely all for the best. Good luck!
 
It’s important to grieve the hopes you may have had for this relationship. But, while you are doing that, place this young woman in God’s Hands, have a Mass said for her and spend some time with Jesus in Adoration. I can’t recommend St. Joseph enough as a kind Patron saint for finding a spouse and career… Make friends or get reaquainted with him.
God Bless you!
 
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Call me old fashioned but I don’t consider relationships that exist only online as being bona fide relationships.
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Well…that’s your perogative. But many people have online relationships that are quite serious. I met my wife online and for about 10 months we only chatted online.
 
Congratulations, and I’m glad it worked out for you. I have a friend who met her husband online. I think those are the extremely rare instances, however.
 
Trust me, I don’t want a relationship existing ONLY online 😄😄
 
This happened to me recently .
Do what you feel is right but it could put you in touch spots if you practise chastity.
 
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