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I think this story may have predated my step-mother’s involvement in facebook though.
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Allegra
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Unfortunately, it sounds like she may be “self-tranquilizing”, based on the OP.
Tis_Bearself
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I would suggest you refer her to some grief counseling or bereavement counseling and leave it at that.
I’m concerned over her having a “drunken breakdown” at your house, but it may also be she felt you were safe for her to do that with. If it makes you uncomfortable or you feel like you’re not the best person to be handling it, or she’s making a habit of such breakdowns, that’s where the grief counseling comes in.
As far as the signs go, that’s between her, her pastor, and maybe any mental health or counseling people she is seeing. It’s not your place to be lecturing her about this. She’s not putting her life or her soul in danger by this thinking - it’s not like she is handing a medium hundreds of dollars to channel up her lost child, which might open the door to all sorts of bad earthly and spiritual occurrences. If she thinks her kid put a cloud in the sky to say Hi Mom, for all you know God did do that. Leave it alone.
I’m concerned over her having a “drunken breakdown” at your house, but it may also be she felt you were safe for her to do that with. If it makes you uncomfortable or you feel like you’re not the best person to be handling it, or she’s making a habit of such breakdowns, that’s where the grief counseling comes in.
As far as the signs go, that’s between her, her pastor, and maybe any mental health or counseling people she is seeing. It’s not your place to be lecturing her about this. She’s not putting her life or her soul in danger by this thinking - it’s not like she is handing a medium hundreds of dollars to channel up her lost child, which might open the door to all sorts of bad earthly and spiritual occurrences. If she thinks her kid put a cloud in the sky to say Hi Mom, for all you know God did do that. Leave it alone.
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"She had a drunken breakdown at a get together at my house and part of the one sided monologue sounded like she was desperate to follow these “signs”A little harsh. She isn’t “losing it” and I very much doubt she needs tranquilisers. The poor woman has lost her child. I can’t imagine anything worse.
Yes, that is “losing it”. If she’s having drunken breakdowns, I’d say she would benefit from a tranquilizer. And grief counseling. It’s amazing how much better a valium can make you feel, especially for sleep.
Tis_Bearself
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Yeah, if she’s drinking or having breakdowns on a regular basis, that’s a problem.
If it’s a once-in-a-while thing with somebody you feel safe to do that with, it could just be a need to cope on a particularly bad day.
One thing those of us who’ve been through grief notice is that while everybody will say “Any time you want to talk,” etc. , in reality a lot of people are not all that comfortable with the kind of grief-stricken babbling or “breaking down” we might do. Also, people expect you to just get over it within a certain span of time. Like a few months and you’re supposed to be all back to normal. It can be a bit jarring and for that reason it’s perhaps better to seek out others who have been through a similar experience because they will relate a lot better to how you are feeling.
If it’s a once-in-a-while thing with somebody you feel safe to do that with, it could just be a need to cope on a particularly bad day.
One thing those of us who’ve been through grief notice is that while everybody will say “Any time you want to talk,” etc. , in reality a lot of people are not all that comfortable with the kind of grief-stricken babbling or “breaking down” we might do. Also, people expect you to just get over it within a certain span of time. Like a few months and you’re supposed to be all back to normal. It can be a bit jarring and for that reason it’s perhaps better to seek out others who have been through a similar experience because they will relate a lot better to how you are feeling.
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Yes, the only thing I’m really worried about is the ‘drunken breakdown’. Has her drinking increased since the death of her child? If so, she had better see a grief counselor…or, next stop, Alcoholics Anonymous!
One more concern…is there much psychic activity in their area? Not talking about the true supernatural, but any so-called psychics, mediums, setting up shop there? Any friends who believe in this? Because, once she gets started, she is in a place where she can be taken financially, spiritually, and emotionally. Nothing good can come out of these things, once money is involved.
One more concern…is there much psychic activity in their area? Not talking about the true supernatural, but any so-called psychics, mediums, setting up shop there? Any friends who believe in this? Because, once she gets started, she is in a place where she can be taken financially, spiritually, and emotionally. Nothing good can come out of these things, once money is involved.
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I don’t think you should say anything. When they make remarks that you don’t agree with, you can reply with “Isn’t it nice that you still feel close to your child’s spirit after all these years”.
Many people have a spiritual belief system which allows them to believe the soul of their deceased loved one can be both in heaven and still here on Earth with them. It is no crazier than believing what anybody else believes, because nobody knows for sure. I think you should respect that this is their belief system and not criticize it in any way. It would be cruel to do so.
Many people have a spiritual belief system which allows them to believe the soul of their deceased loved one can be both in heaven and still here on Earth with them. It is no crazier than believing what anybody else believes, because nobody knows for sure. I think you should respect that this is their belief system and not criticize it in any way. It would be cruel to do so.
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