Reproductive Oppression

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I guess all I can say is “None so blind…”
As those who cannot see that children need to be tended, fed, clothed, sheltered, educated and given health care for many years regardless of where they live and cannot be expected to drop out of the womb able to support themselves independently to avoid inconveniencing their parents? I’d have to agree with that one.
 
Also, condoms are one of the easier, least expensive ways to help curb the spread of HIV/AIDS, one of the “real diseases” mentioned in the article by Ghanaians, not necessarily just for birth control. Fighting the spread of and treating sexually transmitted diseases falls under most people’s definition of “reproductive health services”, as do things like mammograms, prenatal care, gynecological exams, etc.
condoms do not stop the spread of
HPV (human papillomavirus)

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What is HPV
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HPV (human papillomavirus) is a sexually transmitted virus. It is passed on through genital contact (such as vaginal and anal sex). It is also passed on by skin-to-skin contact. At least 50% of people who have had sex will have HPV at some time in their lives.
Of course we can always use our adolescent girls as guinea pigs by forcing them to have the so called vancination to prevent HPV which only helps inoculate only a handful (four)of the strains of HPV. Another way to push “choice” to be sexually promiscutive despite the consequences.

Now HPV is not that harmful to men, warts and all:rolleyes: ,but it can be very harmful to women. But shoot why should we we worry about women:cool: and if they get Cervical Cancer or become sterile. Sterility is what we want anyways, right Margaret? I mean Karen:D
 
condoms do not stop the spread of
HPV (human papillomavirus)

****Of course we can always use our adolecent girls as guinea pigs by forcing them to have the so called vancination to prevent HPV which only helps inoculate only a handful (four)of the strains of HPV. Another way to push “choice” to be sexually promiscutive despite the consequences.

Now HPV is not that harmful to men, warts and all:rolleyes: ,but it can be very harmful to women. But shoot why should we we worry about women:cool: and if they get Cervical Cancer or become sterile. Sterility is what we want anyways, right Margaret? I mean Karen:D
Bless your heart, Bennie, hon, I don’t know what the heck you’ve been up to, but you may want to lay off for a while. When you are ready to have a civil, coherent and relevant conversation, get back to me, okay?
 
Bless your heart, Bennie, hon, I don’t know what the heck you’ve been up to, but you may want to lay off for a while. It’s seriously impeding your attempts at actual communication on this thread. When you are able to have a civil, coherent and relevant conversation, get back to me, okay?
 
…Sterility is what we want anyways, right Margaret? I mean Karen
That comparission to Margaret Sanger is not justified. I really appreciate a poster with a different opinion from mine discussing this topic and asking questions and for specific examples. She caused me to dig a little further than I would have if everyone posting simply agreed with me.

For instance, Karen disputed the allegations that contraception is forced on women in developing countries, and that caused me to search further than just China, (which she agrees is oppressive.) My internet searched lead me to reports that linked United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) and possibly US AID to forced sterilizations. I found other problems beyond forced sterilization as well. Those reports lead me to read the US Government document regarding population control that a couple stories mentioned called the “National Security Study Memorandum 200: Implications of Worldwide Population Growth for U.S. Security and Overseas Interests” (NSSM 200).

This thread was started about women in developing countries. Some of our examples from industrialized nations pale in comparison to the reproductive oppression faced by women in developing nations. Maybe “oppression” isn’t the best word for what we experience in developed nations, but there is an attitude and style of child-rearing expected throughout many of the developed countries that makes it difficult to raise a large family.

There are a few people in developed countries who really do want to implement laws and policies that penalize families for having more than a certain number of children–such people might justly be compared to Margaret Sanger. I don’t think the poster here seriously suggested implementing such policies, but people who advocate population control sometimes do suggest them in earnest. The Drudge Report linked this story yesterday : news.com.au/story/0,23599,22896334-2,00.html
*Writing in today’s Medical Journal of Australia, Associate Professor Barry Walters said every couple with more than two children should be taxed to pay for enough trees to offset the carbon emissions generated over each child’s lifetime. *

*Professor Walters, clinical associate professor of obstetric medicine at the University of Western Australia and the King Edward Memorial Hospital in Perth, called for condoms and “greenhouse-friendly” services such as sterilisation procedures to earn carbon credits. *

And he implied the Federal Government should ditch the $4133 baby bonus and consider population controls like those in China and India. …
 
That comparission to Margaret Sanger is not justified.
Thanks. I would think that is glaringly obvious (although the comparison was to his particular idea of Margaret Sanger, I suspect, rather than the reality).
For instance, Karen disputed the allegations that contraception is forced on women in developing countries, and that caused me to search further than just China, (which she agrees is oppressive.)
To be specific, I disputed that abortions, sterilizations and the use of contraception are forced on women in developing countries by US as a condition of receiving economic aid. I still don’t see evidence of that as US policy.
Maybe “oppression” isn’t the best word for what we experience in developed nations, but there is an attitude and style of child-rearing expected throughout many of the developed countries that makes it difficult to raise a large family.
Do you agree with Petergee that “Western civilizations impose enormous economic burdens on people with families” (ie burdens beyond those that are engendered by having children, period, regardless of the location of that family)? If so, perhaps you could lay out what those are (other than the fact that I cannot send my small child out to work in a factory or on the streets to earn her keep or raise family income because of child labor laws)?
There are a few people in developed countries who really do want to implement laws and policies that penalize families for having more than a certain number of children–such people might justly be compared to Margaret Sanger. I don’t think the poster here seriously suggested implementing such policies, but people who advocate population control sometimes do suggest them in earnest. The Drudge Report linked this story yesterday : news.com.au/story/0,23599,22896334-2,00.html
What folks seem to not be answering from the post to which you refer is the core question: “Is it inherently oppression or punitive for a government to offer financial incentives in order to manipulate population growth?” Note that we are not here talking about covert introduction of birth control agents, forced sterilizations or forced abortions.

The options I mentioned are for purposes of illustration. They are not aimed at penalizing those who choose to have more children, they are rewards to those who have fewer children because the government realizes that its resources cannot keep pace with population growth, just as the laws enacted in France are not penalizing those with fewer children but rather rewarding those who have additional children because the government realizes that its population growth is slower than it finds optimal. The aim of both is to encourage people to behave in a way that balances resources with population. So instead of punitive taxes, we see tax credits, instead of fines we see cash bonuses.

My position is that if it is not inherently oppressive or punitive to families with smaller numbers of children to provide specific financial incentives and benefits (as in France) to encourage families to have more than two children, I fail to see how it is inherently oppressive or punitive to those who choose to have larger families to provide specific financial incentives and benefits to encourage families to have no more than two children.🤷
 
What do you do when you are married to a man who has not had sexual relations with you for over 20 years? Is that your sin or is it his? And if the drought began when you were 30?
 
What folks seem to not be answering from the post to which you refer is the core question: “Is it inherently oppression or punitive for a government to offer financial incentives in order to manipulate population growth?” Note that we are not here talking about covert introduction of birth control agents, forced sterilizations or forced abortions.

My position is that if it is not inherently oppressive or punitive to families with smaller numbers of children to provide specific financial incentives and benefits (as in France) to encourage families to have more than two children, I fail to see how it is inherently oppressive or punitive to those who choose to have larger families to provide specific financial incentives and benefits to encourage families to have no more than two children.🤷
If I may step in and answer this one. I am enjoying the exchange too.

Yes, it is inherently oppressive for a government to offer incentives to limit population. I will explain. The year, 1971. My mom was an active member of a “league” with primarily “women voters” (that is as far as I will go in naming said group.) 😉 My mom, conducting a meeting, is pregnant as a house, with me, her third child. On her right is the president of the local chapter of ‘zero population’ glaring down at “me.”

Incentives to increase population are not glaringly obvious about non-compliance. A couple with only two children may or may not be trying for the incentive. Hard to tell. The person who isn’t there simply isn’t there, for whatever reason, infertility, spouse is on military leave, whatever.

Incentives to decrease population have one very obvious factor in showing non-compliance. A person. I was that person. I was the one the government “incentives” said was one too many. The mentality was so prevailing in the 1970s that I actually ended up in therapy for being a “spare” child. Girl, boy, girl. My mom was chided for her “big” family. (Then we moved to Idaho so at least that part stopped.)

Everywhere I turned in secular society I heard that it was “irresponsible to have more than two children.” I was that 3rd child. I heard that my parents were irresponsible that I existed?! My very existence was questioned by those around me due simply to my birth order. Yes, I do call that oppressive. Then, to top it off, I was the one with the health problems. The comments from the doctors (HMOs) on my parents’ “choices” didn’t escape even my young mind.

My mom says she thinks I promote against contraception in retaliation to that lady glaring down at me 36 years ago. 😃
 
Yes, it is inherently oppressive for a government to offer incentives to limit population… Incentives to increase population are not glaringly obvious about non-compliance. A couple with only two children may or may not be trying for the incentive. Hard to tell. The person who isn’t there simply isn’t there, for whatever reason, infertility, spouse is on military leave, whatever.

Incentives to decrease population have one very obvious factor in showing non-compliance. A person. I was that person. I was the one the government “incentives” said was one too many.
So it is only oppression if the effects are clearly visible to anyone passing by? The lack of “enough” children in a given time period is not clearly visible?

Here again is an instance of equating oppression (the cruel, unjust or excessive use of power or authority) with social disapproval.

What financial incentives did the US offer in the 1970s to limit the number of children a family could have? What punitive measures were in place for those who did not comply? I know of none.

I am sorry that you had bad effects from your childhood. Many people do in many ways (I did) and some are, for whatever reason, more sensitive to it than others. Their sensitivity does not, to my mind, make an action inherently more oppressive.

There is also the role of parental choice in freedom of association and in the ways in which one reacts to, interprets for and shields a child from the effects of any societal disapproval (and society disapproves of a great many things, the particulars of which change over time). I have to say that unless your mother told you about it, there is absolutely no way you would have known that a woman stared at you in disapproval before you were born. Your mother also chose to willingly associate herself with a group that advocated zero population growth, thus placing herself and her family in a situation where she knew in advance her choices would be viewed negatively.
The mentality was so prevailing in the 1970s that I actually ended up in therapy for being a “spare” child. Girl, boy, girl. My mom was chided for her “big” family. (Then we moved to Idaho so at least that part stopped.)
Then the norm was locale-based or group-based, not systemic in US society, if it changed by moving to Idaho.
Everywhere I turned in secular society I heard that it was “irresponsible to have more than two children.” I was that 3rd child. I heard that my parents were irresponsible that I existed?! My very existence was questioned by those around me due simply to my birth order. Yes, I do call that oppressive. Then, to top it off, I was the one with the health problems. The comments from the doctors (HMOs) on my parents’ “choices” didn’t escape even my young mind.
Think about the effect that discussions about the sins of choosing to space or limit births has on that family with one or two children, and on the children involved. What message are you sending them? What message is being sent by incentives or social messages that say that one or two children are not good enough?

I offer up the question of the effect that comments such as “you are so selfish for only having one child”, “that child needs some siblings”, “only children are spoiled, pampered brats”, “she must be lonely”, the frequent portrayal of only children in children’s literature as spoiled, pampered, self-centered monsters or freakishly weird on an only child.

You said that everywhere you went you heard that it was irresponsible to have more than two children. Everywhere we go, my daughter is faced with the message that she is weird and to be pitied because she doesn’t have siblings. In many religious circles (such as this one), she is viewed as evidence of her parents’ “sin” (or at best, failure, or lack of sufficient patriotism) in not having a large family.

Am I or my family oppressed by religious groups that teach, very loudly, that limiting births is sinful, even when we do not belong to those groups? Are you oppressing me or my child by expressing disapproval of my family’s choice?
 
Thanks. I would think that is glaringly obvious (although the comparison was to his particular idea of Margaret Sanger, I suspect, rather than the reality)…
I invite all reading this thread to learn the “reality”of Margaret Sanger and her motivation behind spreading birth control.

dianedew.com/sanger.htm

“More children from the fit, less from the unfit – that is the chief aim of birth control.” Birth Control Review, May 1919, p. 12

The purpose in promoting birth control was “to create a race of thoroughbreds,” Margaret Sanger wrote in the
Birth Control Review*, Nov. 1921 (p. 2)*

blackgenocide.org/sanger.html
While Planned Parenthood’s current apologists try to place some distance between the eugenics and birth control movements, history definitively says otherwise. The eugenic theme figured prominently in the Birth Control Review, which Sanger founded in 1917. She published such articles as “Some Moral Aspects of Eugenics” (June 1920), “The Eugenic Conscience” (February 1921), “The purpose of Eugenics” (December 1924), "Birth Control and Positive Eugenics" (July 1925), “Birth Control: The True Eugenics” (August 1928), and many others.
newoxfordreview.org/article.jsp?did=0906-gardiner
It was Margaret’s trademark to speak of sex with a combination of sentiment and science. Science here means the pseudo-science of eugenics, part of Herbert Spencer’s religion of evolutionism, which was a public craze at that time. Margaret and her associates wanted to legalize not just birth control, but also forced sterilization of the “unfit,” so those classes would breed less and ease the burden on rich taxpayers. In the 1920s she was subsidized by a set of wealthy people who dabbled in population control (as the ultra-rich still do today). These millionaires imagined that they were the “fit” class and that they could seize the reins from Nature and direct the evolution of the human species to a higher level. Mostly they wanted to ensure that the breeding of inferior classes would be curtailed. Angela Franks has recently published an important work, Margaret Sanger’s Eugenic Legacy, which demonstrates how deeply the founder of Planned Parenthood was implicated in eugenics and in the Spencerian faith in evolutionism.
Karen,you asked earlier
Is this also “reproductive oppression”?

lifesite.net/ldn/2006/mar/06033002.html
That story shows that the eugenics that Margaret Sanger and others wanted to spread through contraception, turned on Europeans and European Americans. The widespread use of contraception brought birthrate below the replacement of levels in some developed countries, which affects the future of those societies. I tried to make that same point previously.
… eugenics was certainly involved with the initial efforts to spread contraception. Ironically, wealthy white-Europeans and European-Americans embraced contraception. The early eugenics effort of bigots like Margaret Sanger turned on itself. …
 
What folks seem to not be answering from the post to which you refer is the core question: “Is it inherently oppression or punitive for a government to offer financial incentives in order to manipulate population growth?”
When governments offer tax deductions for child related expenses, parents still overwhelmingly bear the cost and responsibility of raising productive citizens of society. Children are the future of society—and the future taxpayers. By encouraging citizen to raise productive members of society, those families with fewer children also benefit.
Do you agree with Petergee that “Western civilizations impose enormous economic burdens on people with families” (ie burdens beyond those that are engendered by having children, period, regardless of the location of that family)?
Western civilization now lives an expensive lifestyle. That expensive lifestyle places economic burdens on those who live there. While environmentalists chastise large families for producing too many “carbon emissions”, car seat and booster seat laws require expensive, huge, gas-guggling vehicles to transport large families, unless we use public transportation. The story from France included a discount on public transportation; giving families with more children an extra incentive to use public transportation might be a friendly environmental policy.

I didn’t answer your question earlier because I want this thread to focus on the plight on women in developing countries. If we apply Western Civilization expectations of child rearing to developing countries, parents in those developing countries rarely measure up.
I fail to see how it is inherently oppressive or punitive to those who choose to have larger families to provide specific financial incentives and benefits to encourage families to have no more than two children
Oh, if they only stopped at financial incentives…The countries we sighted here that offered financial incentives in places such as parts of India, then moved onto punitive measures such as threat of job loss or loss of voting rights for those with more children. If the reverse was true and those with 0, 1 or 2 children lost their jobs or voting rights due to family size, I would also consider that oppressive.
 
What folks seem to not be answering from the post to which you refer is the core question: “Is it inherently oppression or punitive for a government to offer financial incentives in order to manipulate population growth?”
When governments offer tax deductions for child related expenses, parents still overwhelmingly bear the cost and responsibility of raising productive citizens of society. Children are the future of society—and the future taxpayers. By encouraging citizen to raise productive members of society, those families with fewer children also benefit.
I fail to see how it is inherently oppressive or punitive to those who choose to have larger families to provide specific financial incentives and benefits to encourage families to have no more than two children
Oh, if they only stopped at financial incentives when seeking to reduce populaton you might have a point. The problem shown in the places we sighted here that offered financial incentives for sterilization (such as parts of India), then moved onto punitive measures such as threat of job loss or loss of voting rights for those with more children. If the reverse was true and those with 0, 1 or 2 children lost their jobs or voting rights due to family size, I would also consider that oppressive.
Do you agree with Petergee that “Western civilizations impose enormous economic burdens on people with families” (ie burdens beyond those that are engendered by having children, period, regardless of the location of that family)?
Western civilization now lives an expensive lifestyle. That expensive lifestyle places economic burdens on those who live there. While environmentalists chastise large families for producing too many “carbon emissions”, car seat and booster seat laws require expensive, huge, gas-guggling vehicles to transport large families, unless we use public transportation. The story from France included a discount on public transportation; giving families with more children an extra incentive to use public transportation might be a friendly environmental policy.

I didn’t answer your question earlier because I want this thread to focus on the plight on women in developing countries. It is difficult to apply Western Civilization expectations and standards of child rearing to different cultures in developing countries.
 
I invite all reading this thread to learn the “reality”of Margaret Sanger and her motivation behind spreading birth control.
ppct.org/facts/research/sanger.shtml
That story shows that the eugenics that Margaret Sanger and others wanted to spread through contraception, turned on Europeans and European Americans. The widespread use of contraception brought birthrate below the replacement of levels in some developed countries, which affects the future of those societies. I tried to make that same point previously.
That story shows that governments are just as willing to enact policies that encourage additional childbearing when it suits their purposes. If it is not oppression to provide cash bonuses and other incentives to have additional children to meet the goals of the government, then I don’t see how it is oppression to provide cash bonuses and other incentives to have fewer children to meet the goals of the government.
 
…I offer up the question of the effect that comments such as “you are so selfish for only having one child”, “that child needs some siblings”, “only children are spoiled, pampered brats”, “she must be lonely”, the frequent portrayal of only children in children’s literature as spoiled, pampered, self-centered monsters or freakishly weird on an only child.

You said that everywhere you went you heard that it was irresponsible to have more than two children. Everywhere we go, my daughter is faced with the message that she is weird and to be pitied because she doesn’t have siblings. In many religious circles (such as this one), she is viewed as evidence of her parents’ “sin” (or at best, failure, or lack of sufficient patriotism) in not having a large family.

Am I or my family oppressed by religious groups that teach, very loudly, that limiting births is sinful, even when we do not belong to those groups? Are you oppressing me or my child by expressing disapproval of my family’s choice?
I offer to you that the Catholic Church does not teach that it is sinful to have only one child. Proof–Catholics believe the Mary remained a virgin and had an Only Child, Jesus and we further believe that God preserved Mary from sin. Her statue is found on pedestals throughout our churches, (some Protestants even accuse us of goddess worship because we hold Mary in such high esteem.) We hold Mary as an example to all because she did the will of God which brought Jesus to the World.

We believe in Jesus Christ, the Only Son of the Father, conceived in the womb of a virgin by the power of the Holy Spirit. We regard Jesus as our Savior Who sets us free from sin.

Yes, the Catholic Church teaches that children are blessings and sees large families as examples of generousity from God and towards God. That does not mean that only those with large families can be holy. The Church holds that consecrated virginity and celibacy is a high call from God. We believe that those without biological children can have *spiritual *children, so we call people like *Mother *Theresa of Calcutta “mother” and we call our priests “father”.

I want to make it clear that I do not look down on mothers who have only one child or small families. Some people can’t have large families for a variety of reasons. That reason might be naturally limited fertility or it may even be infertility that results from a sterilization that the couple later grows to regret. While the Catholic Church teaches that sterilization and contraception are sinful, our creed also expresses we believe in the forgiveness of sin.
 
I don’t want to go off-topic but this site is it’s own set of propaganda. The book, “Margaret Sanger: Father of Modern Society,” by Elasah Drogin in gardens’ link is a well researched book. It contains images of the actual Birth Control Review showing its catchphrases, in context. Sanger’s interest in eugenics wasn’t popular at the time. It was covert for many years in the 20s. Speakers brought into the US on the topic were the same leaders from the Nazi movement. It is one of the topics where far right fascism and far left communism agreed. US eugenicists denial of what the Nazis were doing played a part in our delayed response to the war.

The site, black genocide, explores and refutes the idea that Sanger was helping blacks in Harlem. It shows how her own former supporters found that they had been duped into her propaganda. It further explores the long term repercussions of her help.

We all have a bias. Finding a “non-biased source” on Sanger is next to impossible.

/end off-topic comments…
 
I offer to you that the Catholic Church does not teach that it is sinful to have only one child.
So you are saying that the average Catholic will look at an average American family who has only one or two children and not immediately leap to the conclusion that the reason for that is the family practicing some form of contraception, which they believe (if they follow Church teachings) is sinful? That has not been my experience (and that experience would seem to be borne out here).
 
When governments offer tax deductions for child related expenses, parents still overwhelmingly bear the cost and responsibility of raising productive citizens of society.
I am not aware of any society in the world in which parents do not “overwhelmingly bear the cost and responsibility” of raising their children. It is more of an issue of what proportion of their resources do they have to use in order to do so even to a minimal level and whether they do so out of choice or out of lack of other options.
Oh, if they only stopped at financial incentives when seeking to reduce populaton you might have a point. … If the reverse was true and those with 0, 1 or 2 children lost their jobs or voting rights due to family size, I would also consider that oppressive.
So would I. We have already agreed that any form of forced population measures is oppressive. Pronatalist policies can be just as oppressive countrystudies.us/romania/37.htm
Western civilization now lives an expensive lifestyle. That expensive lifestyle places economic burdens on those who live there.
Much of the expense of Western civilization lifestyle that is cited in reports on how much it costs to raise a child is an expense of choice. Take a look at the articles Petergee cited, that included in there things like extracurricular activities, entertainment, recreation, cost of a “big enough” house in a town with “good schools”, etc. It would be more instructive if we could find estimates on costs of providing a basic education, basic level of food, shelter, clothing, etc and then look at how that compares with similar expenses in developing countries.

There are a great many things that the average middle class Western household, particularly in America, considers basic needs or even rights that amount to an unimagined luxury in much of the world, even for a similar economic bracket.
I didn’t answer your question earlier because I want this thread to focus on the plight on women in developing countries. It is difficult to apply Western Civilization expectations and standards of child rearing to different cultures in developing countries.
I agree that it is difficult to apply Western standards to those in different cultures, but I think that that is what is happening. Western lifestyles are largely expensive due to choice. I have been looking for any statistics that show the proportion of a family’s income and resources that are devoted to childrearing globally, but haven’t been able to find them. I have found information on the different percentages based on income levels in the US
findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0EUB/is_2_14/ai_101939885/pg_2
"On average, households in the lowest income group spent 28 percent of their before-tax income per year on a child; those in the middle-income group, 18 percent; and those in the highest group, 14 percent.. "

This would lead me, at least, to the conclusion that it is likely that in countries in which there do not exist the subsidies for child rearing that exist in Western countries (availability of health insurance or socialized medicine, free or subsidized public education, tax breaks for children, programs that provide benefits such as monetary support and nutritious food for low income women with young children, etc), families are likely to spend an even larger proportion of their incomes on childrearing, with poor families bearing the proportionally largest burden. That is per child, more children add to that.

Yes, children are future taxpayers, but can the families in these developing countries afford to provide the education required for children to be able to eventually compete on a reasonable footing in a global economy that is rapidly changing? Can they afford to provide these things at the level they want for the number of children they have?

One poster stated “Women are being “reproductively oppressed” when others (including mothers and grandmothers) lay selfish reasons on them for not having more children, ignoring the resources and wishes of a woman and her husband.” I would say that others who ignore the resources and wishes of a woman and her husband who want to space or limit the number of their children are even more “oppressive”.

If there were not large numbers of abortions being chosen worldwide by women who have unwanted pregnancies, particularly those that are obtained illegally, I could perhaps see that education and availability of methods of birth control could be seen as “oppressive” or contrary to the inherent wishes of women. However, in the face of those numbers, I have to say that there are definitely women out there who want to prevent pregnancy for whatever reason and do not have the means or support to enable them to do so proactively rather than through abortion.
 
Karen, thank you for responding to my post. I did want to clarify a few things in my wording that led to misunderstanding. Only the definition of a “big” family changed when we moved to Idaho. But even here families with more than 2 children were and are referred to as having “all those spare kids.”

Also, I didn’t find out about the zero population lady until just a few years ago. My mom shielded me well from the comments when she was around or tried to cover them with a diplomatic explanation. But as all of us can attest, stupid comments abound. Some people will say things in front of children that they shouldn’t even be saying around adults. (That includes the awful things said to you and your only child. :() She finally decided to leave said organizations when the line between ‘children discouraged’ crossed to ‘children shunned.’ Her pro-life stance was a higher priority.

The incentives that I was noting are a little hard to verify. It is difficult to tell where government ends and the bottom line begins. It was Planned Parenthood in my public school saying fewer kids were better. It was our HMO funded through my Dad’s employer who raised premiums with every kid. That was a bottom line choice, possibly, but they were also one of the biggest private employers in the state. It was on the news all the time that they got tax breaks for the “their excellent policies that benefit the local economy.”

That word above, ‘better,’ is for me where this ties in to something being oppressive. The women in the OP were being offered ‘better’ reproductive health through contraceptive measures. Who gets to define the term ‘better?’ It would be better if your child had a sibling? Says who? It would be better if I have fewer children? Says who?

The point the women were making in the OP, and I think gardens’ point, (correct me if I am wrong, friend) is that children, in general, are always to be viewed as “better.” That is what is respectful to women and doesn’t oppress. If I understand your stance correctly it is that the particular women must be given the option to decide on the distinctive number of ‘betters’ in their individual families, be that 0, 1, or 20. On a basic level, gardens and I would agree with that.

It is in viewing children as a negative in any circumstance that it becomes oppressive.
 
The incentives that I was noting are a little hard to verify. It is difficult to tell where government ends and the bottom line begins. It was Planned Parenthood in my public school saying fewer kids were better. It was our HMO funded through my Dad’s employer who raised premiums with every kid.
Honestly, I can’t say that raising premiums with every additional person covered is inherently wrong. It is simply not the norm in group coverage in our society at this time, where we are more familiar with one rate for “employee” and one rate for “employee + family” regardless of the number in the family. That is an example of one of the subsidies that I mentioned, one which a lot of folks in the world do not have access to, not an automatic right.
That word above, ‘better,’ is for me where this ties in to something being oppressive. The women in the OP were being offered ‘better’ reproductive health through contraceptive measures. Who gets to define the term ‘better?’ It would be better if your child had a sibling? Says who? It would be better if I have fewer children? Says who?
Personally, I see “better” as “more options”. I see better as more ability to control things that affect my health and that of my family. Pretty obviously, those women who seek abortions to end unwanted pregnancies, even when they are illegal, are crying out for “better” options.
The point the women were making in the OP, and I think gardens’ point, (correct me if I am wrong, friend) is that children, in general, are always to be viewed as “better.” That is what is respectful to women and doesn’t oppress. If I understand your stance correctly it is that the particular women must be given the option to decide on the distinctive number of ‘betters’ in their individual families, be that 0, 1, or 20. On a basic level, gardens and I would agree with that.
It is in viewing children as a negative in any circumstance that it becomes oppressive.
I disagree, because I see a contradiction between the “in general” and “in any circumstance”. Generally, yes, I believe that a child who is wanted is a good thing and certainly there are many women who long for children who cannot have them. However, I can’t honestly say that I believe that to a woman who is already unable to care for her existing children due to lack of resources a new pregnancy that she did not want is automatically “better”. If it were, there would not be the women seeking abortion, even when it is illegal and costly in terms of money, resources and the emotional and physical tolls and risks, that currently do so. To tell that woman it is better that she should have no choice in whether or when she gets pregnant again is what I find just as oppressive as anything else.

Certainly, I agree that “better” includes the ability to have an equal opportunity to choose or space one’s pregnancies within the parameters of one’s values, beliefs and resources as any other woman.
 
So you are saying that the average Catholic will look at an average American family who has only one or two children and not immediately leap to the conclusion that the reason for that is the family practicing some form of contraception, which they believe (if they follow Church teachings) is sinful? That has not been my experience (and that experience would seem to be borne out here).
My experience is that **virtually all non-Catholics **leap to the same conclusion. A few Catholics leap to this conclusion, but I’ve never heard of a Catholic leaping to this conclusion about somebody whom they knew is a Catholic.

Yes it’s wrong for people to jump to conclusions. As the Catechism says, we should always put the most favourable possible interpretation on others’ words and actions where we do not know for sure that they have done something wrong.
But in this case most of the blame should go to the fact that the majority of couples in Western societies with 2 or fewer children, have used contraception. These days it’s all too easy to assume that the couple you’ve just met are just another one of the majority.

My mother was an only child. Her parents were very poor and used NFP to avoid having further children. Nobody in those days ever leapt to the conclusion that they had contracepted.
 
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