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A big problem that I have with the population control movement (that is largely behind the international effort to promote the use of contraception) is it wants to take the “control” away from the “population”. Governments and international agencies should not play God or plan other people’s families.… I see better as more ability to control things that affect my health and that of my family.
Yes I think you are right that many women who resort to abortions* seek* better, but abortion is not better.Pretty obviously, those women who seek abortions to end unwanted pregnancies, even when they are illegal, are crying out for “better” options…
I want to offer women and their families the better and best choices. In order to offer better and best choices, we need to properly understand sex, love and reproduction.…I can’t honestly say that I believe that to a woman who is already unable to care for her existing children due to lack of resources a new pregnancy that she did not want is automatically “better”. …To tell that woman it is better that she should have no choice in whether or when she gets pregnant again is what I find just as oppressive as anything else.
Certainly, I agree that “better” includes the ability to have an equal opportunity to choose or space one’s pregnancies within the parameters of one’s values, beliefs and resources as any other woman.
Sex is a very powerful human drive. The sex drive is usually a large motivating factor when men and women falling in love. When properly ordered, the sex act expresses the love between husband and wife and that “two become one” union may result in a child. Keeping the natural link between the sexual act and the possibility of pregnancy helps keep the sex drive properly ordered toward love.
Due to health, finacial or other reasons, some couples feel the need to avoid pregnancy. NFP is a method of birth control that requires couples to monitor a woman’s fertility and then them decide based on their individual circumstances what’s “best” for them. If the couple discerns they should not have another child, then out of love for each other and their existing children they abstain from sexual relations when the woman is fertile. You wrote much earlier that one problem you see with NFP as a form of birth control is that the men may be unwilling to use it. I think that both partners use it makes it a “better” method of birth control. NFP gives couples *more *choices and more control, as they decide to act or not act, rather than other methods that require no self control and that can not be easily reversed should the family’s circumstances change.
Keeping sex associated with the possibility of pregnancy and within marriage helps women avoid exploitation. Promiscuity and unplanned pregnancies increased after contraception became widely accepted in Western Civilization. Abortion increased. Pornography increased. Disordered sex drives can lead to the sexual exploitation of women. In some nations, such disordered lust results in the actual enslavement of women and children in sex trade. Lust, prostitution and pornography degrades women and men.