Retrouvaille

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Dear Friends,

This weekend many couples in Calgary, Alberta, Canada; Fort Wayne/South Bend, Indiana; Fresno; Los Angeles; Detroit; Minneapolis/St. Paul; Nashville; Syracuse/Utica, New York, and Valencia, Spain are working to help restore a positive communication link with their spouse through Retrouvaille. They need our prayers.

No matter what state your relationship is in, I hope you will join me in prayer for God’s will for them. We know that only 80% of the couples who attend the entire 3-month long program will survive, but those are outstanding percentages compared to society’s 50% success rate. And if they survive it will be because THEY made the decisions needed to love each other…to show patience, to be kind, to not revel in wrong but rather rejoice in the righteousness of their relationship.

May God richly bless you this day. Peace and prayers,

Happy Again
 
Dear Go Bison,

It has been one month since the last post. We have been lifting you and your wife up in daily prayer and are wondering how you are doing. An update would be most welcome if you are up to it.

Peace and prayers,

Happy Again
 
Thanks for your prayers. There isn’t much to update. Nothing good anyhow. I signed the final papers two weeks ago after asking her again if a divorce was truly what she wanted. I really didn’t have much of a choice in the matter. A realtor came by today to look at the house and it will be up for sale shortly. I have not seen my wife/ ex wife since mediation a month ago.

Thanks again for the prayers I guess saving my marriage right now wasn’t what God had planned.
 
I do recommend Retrouvaille. While I’m sorry to say that my now ex-husband could not give up the crime he was committing and therefore destroyed our marriage, we did go through Retrouvaille and it did seem to help us for a while. But I got to know other couples and can see that Retrouvaille has been very helpful for them. I pray that it all works out for you. Another recommendation that I would make, however, is to watch the movie Fireproof. This movie is based on a book titled The Love Dare. I highly recommend getting the book and doing the dare. The movie changed something inside me and made me want to be a better wife (I did contribute to a lot of our marital problems, but our divorce was for the reason above). I had started the Dare, but unfortunately was unable to complete it before I lost my husband. I have read the book for my own benefit though, and hopefully, next time, I can get things right!
 
This is an EXCELLENT idea! We know that 80% of the couples who come to Retrouvaille are either still together or back together five years after their Retrouvaille experience. Of the remaining 20%, those who provide us feedback after they attend the program (some never make it to the final Post Weekend session 3 months after their Weekend), a few spouses will tell us that they personally benefited from the experience. They learned how they played a role in the breakdown of their marriage. They learned to take responsibility and be accountable for their own behavior so that they are not likely to repeat old and negative behaviors in the future. We know that one or both spouses choose to travel a different path and we respect that. However, we also know a few couples who have remarried after their divorce, noting that it really wasn’t what they wanted to do…they just thought they HAD to do it. Watch the movie, it’s a wonderful study in self-improvement!
 
Dear GoBison,

We’ve been keeping you in prayers and are wondering how things are going for you these days. We know you have had a lot of stressors in your life this past month, but it sure would be nice to know you are doing ok. If you get a moment, please think about all who have been holding you up in prayer and maybe say a prayer for us, too.

Peace and prayers,

Happy Again
 
Thanks for the prayers Happy Again.

You and everyone like you who is active in Retro are great people and are always in my prayers.

Even though the divorce is final I am still praying that my wife’s heart will change. I am trying to deal with my anger with her on the very rare occasions that I see her. It is difficult for me to grasp just up and leaving after 10 years without any attempt to work on our marriage. I do realize that she has a lot of personal issues that she needs to work through and she is still a long ways away from resolving those if she ever does. But for now I am just living my life the best I possibly can and leaving a lot of it up to God.

Thanks for checking in on me it is appreciated.
 
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