Rudeness in Adoration

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Our pastor tells us the right knee, right knee signifies genuflection in adoration.
 
A thought, he could have tried to be discreet about it but she didn’t hear him. I only opened my eyes after hearing him. So perhaps he tried, it didn’t seem like it is all.
 
As do I. It’s convenient because I say a scriptural rosary, spend time in Laudete, etc.
 
I don’t have a problem with people using their phones on the odd occasion I’ve used it for Divine office though I dont like too fir the simple reason that I can’t figure out how to use the internet for that but not to get any pop up notifications…I do not like being distracted. So I don’t think phones are good for that reason but if other people do it without those fair enough. I prefer to bring my book along or books along or just gaze.

As for the post, I think we can mostly agree the priest might have been a little kinder, but its likely he meant well even if it didn’t come out like that. Theres probably not a one of us who hasn’t overdone correction before. I don’t think there is much the poster could have done that they didn’t do ie. Pray for him and the lady he corrected.

It is certainly annoying when people pray out loud in a quiet chapel but there isn’t always much you can do about it. Sometimes its culture or that they are hard if hearing themselves or just their way. It’s worth asking them to be considerate but with the spirit of gentleness like St Paul says in Galatians (6 I believe).
 
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Our pastor tells us the right knee, right knee signifies genuflection in adoration.
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Agreed we kneel on the right knee if possible out of custom. But there is no rule about how to get up from kneeling on both knees, which is what you posted . And if it’s not possible to kneel on the right knee but only on the left for whatever reason, it doesn’t matter - it doesn’t take away any adoration. Adoration is in the heart.
 
When I pray my Rosary, meditation and/or morning/evening prayers at the Adoration chapel, often I become immersed in prayer. If someone’s cell phone is on vibrate, it breaks my concentration and I can’t get it back. Think of it this way: If someone sneaks up behind a person & taps them on the shoulder, they’d be scared too.

Sadly, this occasionally happens at Liturgy too. Someone’s cell phone will ring/vibrate and it scares the living daylights out of me.

ICYHN, I scare very easily.

Also, this chapel has Bibles, rosaries & meditation books just outside the door. So if someone does forget their Bible/book/rosary (I occasionally forget mine), they can borrow a book/rosary and return it to the shelf outside the door.
 
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I have been in adoration when people have been chatting. I think that is in bad taste, but I have also been in adoration when a rosary group starts a rosary out loud. I don’t have a problem with that as it was scheduled. I don’t see a problem with whispered prayers in adoration. I think the priest was out of line, bad day or not. There are many more egregious things around us to get upset about than whispered prayers in adoration, especially by an older woman who may have little else left on earth for her as important as her faith. Glad I wasn’t there.
 
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Oh, that’s understandable. A cell phone should be on silent with vibrate off in adoration or at mass. Completely agree.

But as for the prayer resources and such, I still will use mine. It should not bother anyone, even if you do scare easily. Besides, I might drop that Bible and scare you :).
 
My wife and I will occasionally say our daily rosary together at adoration, we make sure we are whispering, but I am sure others hear us. No one has ever seemed to mind, I do recall once when two ladies came and joined in.
 
The way the Adoration chapel is, a Bible could drop and you’d barely hear it. 😉
 
What? People actually do that use the flashlight on their phones during the Easter Vigil Mass wow🤯 when I was received into the church at the Easter vigil back in 2018 and nobody used the flashlight feature on their phones in was dark until near dawn then the candles were lit.
 
My personal thought is correct toon should be proportionate to the infraction. From your description I would be feel annoyed and frustrated (not act frustrated). It doesn’t sound like her infraction was deserving that level of response. However, as you’ve stated we don’t know what happened up to that point. Also we are all humans who have bad days.

That said if this behavior continued into the future a couple more times I would speak to the pastor. Or the bishop. An isolated incident is one thing, continued behavior is another. The important thing here imho is to focus on the behavior, not the individual, seek to improve the situation for all people involved, not place blame or attack. The goal is to correct and restore justice, not to attack.
 
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AlruwhAlquds:
Bow on both knees, get on your right knee then your left (right knee first).
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If I had to get down on both knees adoration would be very much disturbed when people would have to try to get me back up.
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Sometimes it’s all I can do to half genuflect let alone kneel for long periods or go down on both knees. I sure hope people aren’t judging me for it.
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When we get older, the body often gets cranky. And it likes to be cranky in the knees. For some, it may be physically impossible to kneel, even on one knee. Jesus knows that. He doesn’t expect the impossible, and neither should we.
 
Now, if only I were elderly, I’m sure people would understand. Alas, I am fairly young, but am chronically ill all the same. I’ve mostly learned to ignore the judgmental looks, but you should see the sideways glances a young person parking in disabled parking gets or even worse, a young person riding an electric cart around the grocery store.
 
I was just answering Jan’s question. If you can’t then, yes Jesus knows where we are at and knows our intentions. No judgement on any who can’t. If you can do it.
 
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I was just answering Jan’s question. If you can’t then, yes Jesus knows where we are at and knows our intentions. No judgement on any who can’t. If you can do it.
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But that’s just it, you see. You went beyond giving an answer which reflects what the church actually teaches, that is to say a genuflection on one knee, and presented your own opinion as to what is fitting (going down on both knees, getting up with right knee first, bowing etc.) which is not what the church requires, while not pointing out that it is just your opinion.

We must not place burdens on people which the church does not and cause them to worry.
 
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Our priest told us to do that. If there those cannot, it’s okay according to what he said. Personally, this is the worst answer forum to write into. Way too many take things out of context. I did not place a burden on anyone, if you feel a burden based on my answer to someone else… perhaps you should look at how you take things. Just a thought.
 
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