Same-sex marriage: where does my objection go wrong?

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The right to marry.
Wait… I asked what specific rights are granted to those who are permitted to marry, and you answer that they are granted the right to marry.

Answer the following question with a yes or no: Can you admit the the answer you’ve given above is meaningless, and simply a circular reference?

If you still refuse to give a definition of marriage, then please show yourself to the exit door for this thread.
 
I don’t how sterility connects the notion of consenting adult relationships with the notion of non-consenting relationships between a child and an adult. Moreover, your “natural sterility” claim is simply false: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_youngest_birth_mothers
pedophilia is the attraction to prepubescent children. By its very definition the relationship is sterile.
Yes, there is a logical reason to exclude them, but since you made the claim that allowing SSM logically entails allowing pedophilia marriage, I want to hear either (a) an adequate justification for the claim or (b) a retraction of the claim. I’ll provide my reason if you do either (a) or (b).
Now what is your logical reason to excluded pedophile couples from marriage but not same sex couples.
 
…that despite 30 days of posting on this forum since you registered as a CAF user, 97% of your postings being on the topic of homosexuality, and 3% on “animal suffering.” Your questions have been meticulously and exhaustively answered, with both secular reasoning and religious argument.

Did you register so that you could persuade Catholics to agree with you? I ask because I would think someone genuinely interested in an answer (or an outsider merely curious) would stop asking the same question over and over, in the same manner, and with the same words. 🤷

Your persistence comes across as polemic, i.m.o., rather than intellectually curious.
And yet, of your past 40+ posts, more than 80% are on the topic of homosexuality.
 
Some people are saying if homosexuals can marry, then by what logic can we exclude pedophiles. I think this is an example of equating things that aren’t equal. As others have noted, their is an enormous power imbalance in that kind of relationship, there can be no real mutual consent. If those relationships were healthy, pedophiles wouldn’t find it necessary to lie, manipulate, bribe, or threaten children in order to get them to have sex with them. Also, even if it became legal for adults to have sex with children, how many parents would knowingly allow their child to be sexually exploited by an adult. In order to legalize pedophilia, the law would have to change so that parents could not interfere between their children and adult predators. I don’t see how the two are equal.
 
Wait… I asked what specific rights are granted to those who are permitted to marry, and you answer that they are granted the right to marry.

Answer the following question with a yes or no: Can you admit the the answer you’ve given above is meaningless, and simply a circular reference?
I have no idea why discussion of the various specific rights associated with marriage (there are a lot) is at all relevant. What’s unclear about the phrase “the right to marry?”
If you still refuse to give a definition of marriage, then please show yourself to the exit door for this thread.
No, because you know we’re both talking about civil marriage, not religious marriage. I think you just want to dodge the substance of my previous post.
 
pedophilia is the attraction to prepubescent children. By its very definition the relationship is sterile.
I don’t how sterility connects the notion of consenting adult relationships with the notion of non-consenting relationships between a child and an adult, and you still haven’t explained the connection. Moreover, your “natural sterility” claim is simply false: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of…_birth_mothers
Now what is your logical reason to excluded pedophile couples from marriage but not same sex couples.
You haven’t done either (a) or (b). Although I’ve shown that your “natural sterility” claim is false (see wikipedia), you insist on repeating it. Now why is that?
 
I don’t how sterility connects the notion of consenting adult relationships with the notion of non-consenting relationships between a child and an adult, and you still haven’t explained the connection. Moreover, your “natural sterility” claim is simply false: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of…_birth_mothers
Puberty is when a person’s body develops to be capable of reproduction
I person capable of reproduction has reached puberty
Pedophilia is the attraction to prepubescent children
Therefore by definition a pedophile couple includes a child not capable of reproduction.
Sterility means to not be able to reproduce.
Pedophile couples are sterile just like same sex couples.

Marriage is an organic part of human nature where children are raised. Of course raising children presupposes that children have a very good chance of being created by the participants. This is why same sex unions and pedophile unions are not marriage. Due to the high probability of defective offspring incestous unions are taboo.
You haven’t done either (a) or (b). Although I’ve shown that your “natural sterility” claim is false (see wikipedia), you insist on repeating it. Now why is that?
You have shown me that you do not define terms
 
No, because you know we’re both talking about civil marriage, not religious marriage. I think you just want to dodge the substance of my previous post.
Not once have I mentioned religious marriage. (You think it becomes religious when I introduce the science of biology. Somewhat strange, since non-religious people are usually so quick to put science ahead of everything else.)
I keep asking you why a government feels a need to grant a license for something called marriage. YOU refuse to answer the question.

Try this: I define marriage as the right to simultaneously pee on the fence of one’s neighbor during nighttime hours. Now, do you see any reason why that should be limited to two people?

If my definition of “marriage” seems off-base, then please correct me with a better definition.
 
Wow, this thread got full fast.
But this is precisely what the SSM debate is about: whether or not same-sex couples can enter into same legal relationship that is available to opposite-sex couples. If opposite-sex couples have the legal right to marry, why shouldn’t same-sex couples have that same legal right as well? The asymmetry smacks of blatant discrimination (in violation of the equal protection clause.) The debate about “civil marriage” is about our marriage laws – not some other (religious) notion of marriage.
I personally don’t have a problem with civil contracts. I think that such people should be afforded rights under the law. As far as having a legal right to marry, it’s more a biological right than a legal one. Two men can’t get married because they don’t have the parts. Can they be given rights by the government? Yeah (and they should), but marriage implies a union which they fundamentally can not have.

I worry sometimes that in their zeal the gay community is trying to get rights that they should not have. For example, Children. They do not have a right to have children together. The right that normal couples have is a result of biology that same-sex couples do not share. As far as adopting goes, no one has a right to adopt. The only only way that such a couple could have such a ‘right’ is if the parents of a child explicitly gave it to them.
This is the problem: religious institutions don’t own the concept of “marriage,” and the SSM debate isn’t about whether same-sex couples can get married in Catholic churches. You must separate “civil marriage” from “religious marriage.”
You have to understand that the concepts of civil and religious can not be so easily separated. This results from the difference in language that I was trying to point out. When you say marriage you mean a piece of paper containing an agreement between two people. This is far removed from what we mean when we say marriage. When we say marriage we mean a full union between two people that is so complete that they can say, “This is flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone”. We say that marriage is a union that by nature makes a man and women into a family. The difference in our definitions is that in yours, the state institutes marriage, while in ours the state does not establish marriage, but only recognizes it.

If the debate was only about “civil marriage” then it would be phrased that way. It would be a discussion of “civil contracts”. But the discussion has been taken to the place of “marriage” which is a deeply religious word that can only have spiritual meanings. If you want to talk about contracts, then talk about contracts. If you want to talk about marriage, then talk about marriage. But don’t confuse the two. They are different.
 
I personally don’t have a problem with civil contracts. I think that such people should be afforded rights under the law. As far as having a legal right to marry, it’s more a biological right than a legal one. Two men can’t get married because they don’t have the parts.
This seems to be the difficulty. Biologically it is self evident that same sex couples don’t have the right parts for marriage. But when the issue is mentioned, the response is something like, what does having the right parts have to do with anything. I don’t know. Maybe they just have something against mother nature. Her design is inherently discriminatory somehow.
 
Puberty is when a person’s body develops to be capable of reproduction
I person capable of reproduction has reached puberty
Pedophilia is the attraction to prepubescent children
Therefore by definition a pedophile couple includes a child not capable of reproduction.
Sterility means to not be able to reproduce.
Pedophile couples are sterile just like same sex couples.
So the sexual union between a 40 yr old and a 10 yr old doesn’t count as a “pedophile couple?”
 
You think it becomes religious when I introduce the science of biology.
So clarify your “biology stance” for me. Your “ordered towards procreation” rationale sounds exactly like the “ability to procreate” rationale, which is susceptible to my op objection, but you claim that the two are entirely disconnected: a coupling can be “ordered towards procreation” even though procreation is impossible. So I have no idea what “ordered towards procreation” even means. It would be helpful if you would provide a sufficiently clear and rigorous definition of the term (since what you’re telling me doesn’t square with what other Catholics on here have said.)

And yet, you’ll say that I’m misrepresenting you, that the “inability to procreate” has nothing to do with why same-sex couples can’t marry. On one hand, you say the rationale for excluding same-sex couples from marrying is (your words) “a biological thing,” but on the other (when you talk about "ordered towards procreation), you say that that biological thing has nothing to do with the ability to procreate. I hope you can see why I’m terribly confused.
Somewhat strange, since non-religious people are usually so quick to put science ahead of everything else.)
You’re the one moving away from biology. If we’re talking about biology, we’re talking about procreation or the ability to procreation. But if we’re talking about “ordered towards procreation,” we’re no longer talking about either, so I have no idea why your concept (despite having the term “procreation” in it) has anything to do with biology.
I keep asking you why a government feels a need to grant a license for something called marriage. YOU refuse to answer the question.
And I keep explaining that this is the wrong question. The question is: are same-sex couples being treated equally under the law when they are excluded from civil marriage? A ‘yes’ answer assumes that there is a rational basis for the exclusion, which I have yet to see.

What is your rational basis? Is it because same-sex couples are unable to procreate? If so, then you need to deal with my op objection. Is it because same-sex couples cannot be “ordered towards procreation?” If so, then you need to deal with my above issues with it.
Try this: I define marriage as the right to simultaneously pee on the fence of one’s neighbor during nighttime hours. Now, do you see any reason why that should be limited to two people?

If my definition of “marriage” seems off-base, then please correct me with a better definition.
 
As far as having a legal right to marry, it’s more a biological right than a legal one. Two men can’t get married because they don’t have the parts.
In other words, you endorse the “inability to procreate” rationale, but I dealt with this rationale in my op. How do you respond to it?
If the debate was only about “civil marriage” then it would be phrased that way. It would be a discussion of “civil contracts”. But the discussion has been taken to the place of “marriage” which is a deeply religious word that can only have spiritual meanings. If you want to talk about contracts, then talk about contracts. If you want to talk about marriage, then talk about marriage. But don’t confuse the two. They are different.
I made it abundantly clear over and over that the discussion was about "civil marriage,’ not “religious marriage.” Same-sex couples aren’t fighting for the right to get married in Catholic churches.
 
But when the issue is mentioned, the response is something like, what does having the right parts have to do with anything. I don’t know. Maybe they just have something against mother nature. Her design is inherently discriminatory somehow.
Actually, the response is something like my op. Why not address it?
 
In other words, you endorse the “inability to procreate” rationale, but I dealt with this rationale in my op. How do you respond to it?

I made it abundantly clear over and over that the discussion was about "civil marriage,’ not “religious marriage.” Same-sex couples aren’t fighting for the right to get married in Catholic churches.
I was not talking about ability to procreate, but rather unity. Two men or two women fundamentally can not have sex. They may be able to do many other different things, but they can never have sex.

I am making the point that whenever you talk about marriage at all it will be taken as religious marriage. I’m not trying to argue with you just trying to show you what is going on. The only way that you could possible get people to stop thinking that you are talking about “religious” marriage is to stop using the word marriage all together.

And it may seem absurd to you (it does to me) but they are fighting for the “right” to get married in Catholic Churches.

Have I gotten through my point though that your objection goes wrong because our languages are just so different?
 
I was not talking about ability to procreate, but rather unity. Two men or two women fundamentally can not have sex. They may be able to do many other different things, but they can never have sex.
Yes they certainly can – penis-vagina sex isn’t the only kind of sex that exists.
I am making the point that whenever you talk about marriage at all it will be taken as religious marriage. I’m not trying to argue with you just trying to show you what is going on. The only way that you could possible get people to stop thinking that you are talking about “religious” marriage is to stop using the word marriage all together.
No, that isn’t rational. “Civil marriage” isn’t “religious marriage,” no matter how badly Catholics wish to equate the two.
And it may seem absurd to you (it does to me) but they are fighting for the “right” to get married in Catholic Churches.
No, they are not – that is simply a blatant misrepresentation of what we marriage equality proponents are advocating for.
Have I gotten through my point though that your objection goes wrong because our languages are just so different?
No, but you have gotten through that some Catholics on here (perhaps yourself) wish to hijack language and claim that the term “marriage” can only be used religiously, which simply isn’t the case.
 
Puberty is when a person’s body develops to be capable of reproduction
I person capable of reproduction has reached puberty
Pedophilia is the attraction to prepubescent children
Therefore by definition a pedophile couple includes a child not capable of reproduction.
Sterility means to not be able to reproduce.
Pedophile couples are sterile just like same sex couples.
I defined the terms which will make it easy to answer your question. As we review the terms and apply them to your question, we see that you have not given enough information to provide an answer. Hint: age is not a factor but reproductive maturity is. Phrase your questions using the defined terms; for example: So the sexual union between a 40 yr old and a post-pubescent child doesn’t count as a “pedophile couple?” Or maybe: So the sexual union between a 40 yr old and a prepubescent child doesn’t count as a “pedophile couple?”

Defining terms makes thinking clear. I also provided the definition for marriage to help you understand your OP question.
 
I defined the terms which will make it easy to answer your question. As we review the terms and apply them to your question, we see that you have not given enough information to provide an answer. Hint: age is not a factor but reproductive maturity is. Phrase your questions using the defined terms; for example: So the sexual union between a 40 yr old and a post-pubescent child doesn’t count as a “pedophile couple?” Or maybe: So the sexual union between a 40 yr old and a prepubescent child doesn’t count as a “pedophile couple?”

Defining terms makes thinking clear. I also provided the definition for marriage to help you understand your OP question.
Wait a second: marriage between a 40 yr old and a 10 yr old counts as “pedophilia marriage” if the 10 yr old can’t reproduce but doesn’t if the 10 yr old can reproduce? So marriages between adults and children are okay so long as children have the ability to procreate? Is this what you’re saying?
 
Yes they certainly can – penis-vagina sex isn’t the only kind of sex that exists.
They are called “reproductive organs” for a reason.
No, that isn’t rational. “Civil marriage” isn’t “religious marriage,” no matter how badly Catholics wish to equate the two.
Marriage is marriage no matter how badly you want to differentiate the two. Of course you don’t define terms, so you haven’t been able to even differentiate the two.
 
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